The Grief Recovery Handbook : The Action Program for Moving Beyond Death Divorce, and Other Losses

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Incomplete recovery from grief can have a lifelong negative effect on your capacity for happiness. Drawing from their own histories, as well as from others, the authors illustrate what grief is and how it is possible to recover and regain energy and spontaneity. Based on a proven program, now extensively revised, The Grief Recovery Handbook offers grievers the specific actions needed to complete the grieving process and accept loss. For those ready to regain a sense of aliveness, the principles outlined here make this a life-changing handbook.

Customer Reviews:

An Amazing Book.......2007-09-19

I cannot begin to express what a help this book and its program have been. I was mired in grief over losses going back into childhood, and absolutely devastated by a recent one which prompted me to order the book in the first place. This isn't something you just read. To affect a genuine recovery from grief you have to be willing to DO what the authors guide you to do, but it's absolutely worth the effort. Following through with the program doesn't cost a thing and can be done in the comfort of your own easychair. All you need is a pen or pencil and a few sheets of paper (a legal pad would be helpful but isn't necessary). I heartily recommend this to anyone who has suffered a loss, recently or in the past. It's a lifelong program that will help a person recover from loss, not just wait for time to heal (it doesn't!) or go around the loss by sticking it on an emotional shelf and forgetting it. An absolute must for anyone who really wants to RECOVER from a loss!

Elizabeth Miller
Portland, Oregon

A lifetime tool..........2007-09-14

I was so impressed with this program that I got certified to facilitate it. It is a tool that can be used again and again as we hurdle the situations in life that might stop us in our tracks. If you are stuck in your grief, or are having trouble moving through a loss in your life,whether it be divorce or any other stress inducing change I highly recommend this book as well as the Grief Recovery Outreach Programs.

Based on an earlier edition.......2007-08-16

I read the earlier edition of this book, which deals with death only, and not other losses. I found it fascinating enough that I may try working through the steps outlined with a partner. Yet, I agree with some of the reviewers who feel that all these steps and the graphing of the highs and lows in a relationship may not be what is needed. I lost my husband of 30 years following a 2 1/2 year struggle with cancer, and I don't think regrets are a part of my grief. I miss him, and always will, even though I will eventually move on with my life. I'm not sure there is any such thing as recovery from the loss of one's life partner. There have been other deaths in my life: of parents, a stepchild, friends and lovers, but losing the person with whom I've shared every day (except for a few absences) is something I've never before experienced. I do agree with the premise of the book that our society just doesn't accept loss and grief, and doesn't know how to deal with it, other than to ignore it, or encourage people to get over it, or replace whatever or whomever has been lost. The book did strike me as highly prescriptive, and I can understand that this may bother some. I have done graphing of highs and lows in life in other contexts, however, and found it quite illuminating. So, I am willing to give this a try.

A Great Book for Moving Beyond Grief.......2007-08-01

This book is a great book for those who are grieving any type of loss. I recently lost my husband, and this book offered me insights into the grieving process and how to move beyond it.

Very good and popular resource... (review by personal coach).......2007-06-15

This book is an excellent resource for those who are grieving any kind of loss. It provides an action plan that is gentle and provides direction during a difficult, confusing and often disorienting time. I have used this resource with my clients and I know many other therapists who regard it highly and use it in their practices. If you get this, I would also recommend the classic On Grief and Grieving: Finding the Meaning of Grief Through the Five Stages of Loss. After a big loss of any kind, I think it is very important to take action, but also make sense of the loss. Both resources I mention in this review will help with making meaning out of the loss and getting reoriented.

Mom's House, Dad's House: Making Two Homes for Your Child

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Seems biased toward the mother
Mom's House, Dad's House
Excellent resource for some, maybe not for others
Susan Ashley, Ph.D. Author of The ADD and ADHD Answer Book

Mom's House, Dad's House: Making Two Homes for Your Child
Isolina Ricci
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According to the Stepfamily Association of America, 60 percent of all families are breaking up, and custody and visitation issues loom large in the lives of many parents. Isolina Ricci's Mom's House, Dad's House guides separated, divorced, and remarried parents through the hassles and confusions of setting up a strong, working relationship with the ex-spouse in order to make two loving homes for the kids. This expanded and revised edition (the book was originally published in 1980) includes emotional and legal tools, as well as many reference materials and resources. As one parent said of the first edition, "This book is my friend."

Customer Reviews:

Unnecessary for divorced parents who already get along.......2007-05-31

My five-year-old daughter's dad and I have joint custody and joint placement. Therefore, my daughter travels between our houses (about 8 blocks apart) every few days. I was hoping this book would help her dad and I make the most of our daughter's situation, but it seems to focus on parents who do not get along. Perhaps, because my daughter does not remember ever having two parents in the same home, this book isn't as relevant to her as it may be for some. The book seemed to focus on picking up the pieces, rather than just growing as a nontraditional family. I will say one positive thing: the book stresses avoiding the use of "ex husband" and "ex wife" and replacing with "my daughter's dad". I feel that makes for a better situation.

Seems biased toward the mother.......2007-05-06

I realize that I have only read a couple chapters so far, but I see an extreme bias that paints the father as the parent that only gets visitation rights and has no interest in his children. This is just my opinion, but every story in the beginning of the book came across this way to me.

Hopefully further reading will offer some advice to something similar to my situation - a father that has custody of his daughters after his ex decided that she was gay after a happy 14 year marriage and asked for a divorce. Times have changed, it isn't always the mother that has primary custody anymore.

Mom's House, Dad's House.......2007-01-05

I tell everyone of my client's to get this book and follow the advice of Dr. Ricci to establish a co-parenting relationship after the divorce.

Excellent resource for some, maybe not for others.......2006-09-19

When my wife told me she wanted a divorce, I almost immediately grabbed every book I could find on resurrecting a marriage and handling a breakup with kids. I had plenty of time to read suddenly, after all. I found this book to be not only the most effective in handling kidds, but probably contained the best advice on keeping the marriage together. Alas, it was not meant to be.

A key thing: my children's mother and I have always wanted to be civil with one another. I recognize that many relationships do not end this way, and many parents are abusive or neglectful. There are other books that are better for handling those types of situations. For example, "Where's Daddy?" by Jill Curtis is likely to be helpful for a mother dealing with an absent or abusive father; for me it was not very helpful.

This book can be key in helping a couple that doesn't want their divorce to turn so sour that they can't stand each other's sight. It is helpful in handling each parent's relationship with their children, and their relationship with each other.

If you are already hunkered down in the middle of a war, this book may not be right for you; if you are trying to avoid getting into that situation in the first place, this book should be at the top of your list.

Susan Ashley, Ph.D. Author of The ADD and ADHD Answer Book.......2005-10-13

This is my first choice for book recommendations in my practice for divorcing families. It is a blueprint for how to raise a well adjusted child in two homes. If divorced parents only followed the advice in this book divorce would not be so tragic for children. This book advocates putting the child first and tells parent how to behave civilly and work co-operatively with the other parent for the sake of the child, telling parents what to do and what to say that keeps your child out of the middle of the anger between former spouses. This book is for every divorcing family regardless of your unique circumstances.

Premarital & Remarital Counseling: the Professional's Handbook

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useful, readable - and lacking 4 essential points
A Comprehensive Guide
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Premarital & Remarital Counseling: the Professional's Handbook
Robert F. Stahmann , and William J. Hiebert
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The definitive guide to premarital counseling

This is the best premarital counseling guide I have seen in more than three decades in the family therapy and family life education fields.
-- William C. Nichols, editor, Contemporary Family Therapy

Following the success of the first two editions of this book, the authors updated their indispensable guide on the process and content of premarital counseling. In this revised edition, they have added important information about issues in the forefront today: remarriage, the blended or step-family, intergroup marriages, and younger and older couples. Filled with practical and effective hands-on questionnaires and instruments that have been newly revised and widely tested by the authors, this book is written to meet the needs of a range of professionals, including clergy and clinicians in social work, psychology, counseling, and marriage and family therapy.

Customer Reviews:

Good Resource.......2007-01-11

Overall, a good resourse for anyone interested in Premarital counseling. Where many resourses of this type focus on clergical counseling, this book is written from a counseling view rather than a clergical one. This is NOT a religious book, but traditional clergical counseling is not left out of the picture. This book is completely appropriate for both religious and secular counselors.

The book is divided into three sections:
- Foundations, which gives a history of premarital counseling, plus outlines some motivations for marriage and remarriage.
- The Counseling Process, which includes a plan for premarital therapy, including goal setting, dynamic relationship histories, family-of-origin studies, and an overview of available inventories and guidelines on how to use them.
- Special Topics, including: Remarriage and Stepparenting, Group Counseling, Communication, Valuse, Decision Making, and Finances, Intimacy and Sexuality, and special situations (very young and older first marriages, forced marriages, conflicted relationships).

Where appropriate, there are example figures and graphs, including example reports from inventories (Prepare) and techniques for use with premarital couples (two types of genograms and a dynamic relationship history).

The only issue I had with the book is that some of the references cited are quite dated, but some allowance should be made for accounting history. If you're using the book for academic purposes, make sure to check the publication year of the information cited, just to make sure it's applicable to your research.

useful, readable - and lacking 4 essential points.......2004-08-09

I have specialized in providing professional education and therapy to divorced, courting, and re/wedded couples since 1981. I am (a) 66, (b) a stepgrandson, stepson, and ex-stepfather and stepbrother, (c) an invited Board member of the Stepfamily Association of America, (d) a contributing editor to 'Your Stepfamily Online,' and (e) the author of six personal-growth and family-relations books.

I recommend this book to readers who want a well-organized overiew of the complex premarital and re/marital counseling process. I caution readers that the authors omit several essential points which cripples the utility of their book:

1) why and how to assess and reduce co-parents' psychological wounds from childhood (vs. divorce). The authors lay the groundwork for this, but don't guide readers on how to follow through;

2) the origin and impacts of blocked grief in adults and kids, and how to spot and reduce it. There is no entry for "grief" in the book's index;

3) co-parent unawareness of five key topics: (a) normal personality formation, composition, and function; (b) keys to high-nurturance families and relationships, (c) effective communication skills, (d) healthy 3-level grief, and (e) stepfamily realities, norms, implications, and hazards. And...

4) little effective re/marital and co-parenting help (i.e. courtship coaching, classes, informed counseling, co-parent support groups) available in most communities and the media.

In my clinical experience since 1981, these factors will often block the best-intentioned adults from following relevant re/marital and co-parenting advice. Counseling couples who are courting and re/married - specially any with existing kids - without including these factors in assessment and interventions can only be partially effective.

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http://sfhelp.org/11/choose_bks.htm

A Comprehensive Guide.......2003-09-05

Every clergyperson and secular counselor who does premarital or remarital counseling should have this book. Stahmann and Hiebert have penned an incredibly comprehensive, yet accessible guide for both clergy and secular audiences.

The book begins with foundational issues such as reasons why people marry and beliefs couples tend to hold. The goals of premarital and remarital counseling are also discussed. Their brief introduction to the history of premarital counseling was interesting, though not especially helpful. Throughout the book, the authors summarize relevant findings from a large number of researchers.

This handbook covers all of the practical issues as well, from fees and number of sessions to the actual content of each session. Special emphasis is given to the couple's history together, exploring each family of origin and previous marriages (if any), and the use of premarital inventories. Among inventories, Stahmann and Hiebert review PREPARE, FOCCUS, and the Taylor-Johnson Temperament Analysis. PREPARE is used as the example for most of the book.

Several subjects are covered under "special topics." These include remarriage and stepparenting, specific marital skills, intimacy and sexuality, age-related factors, and problematic situations. The authors also consider the use of group counseling, although most of the book is written for someone counseling one couple at a time.

As a ministry student who realized that my formal seminary training would leave me unprepared for doing premarital counseling, I am grateful to have Stahmann & Hiebert's Premarital and Remarital Counseling. I recommend it along with Charles Taylor's Premarital Guidance and Anderson & Fite's Becoming Married to anyone in a similar situation.

Book jacket reviewer's comments:.......1999-05-30

"This book will save many thousands of marriages and will prevent many people from marrying an unsuitable partner. For couples and experts alike, all you ever need to know about preparation for marriage." Amitai Etzioni, author of The New Golden Rule: Community and Morality in a Democratic Society.

"This is the best premarital counseling guide I have seen in more than three decades. Skillfully constructed...it should not be 'on your shelf' but in your hands if you are a mental health professional or clergy member providing such assistance." William C. Nichols, Editor, Contemporary Family Therapy.

Mom's House, Dad's House for Kids: Feeling at Home in One Home or Two
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So kids not only survive, but thrive

Understanding My Parent's Divorce

Mom's House, Dad's House for Kids: Feeling at Home in One Home or Two
Isolina Ricci
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How kids can stay strong and succeed in life when parents separate, divorce, or get married again.

Isolina Ricci's Mom's House, Dad's House has been the gold standard for inspiring and supporting divorcing and remarrying parents for more than twenty-five years. With her new book, Dr. Isa adapts her time-tested advice on maneuvering the emotional, logistical, and legal realities of separation, divorce, and stepfamilies to speak directly to children. Alongside practical ways to cope with big changes she offers older children and their families key resiliency tools that kids can use now and the rest of their lives. Kids and families are encouraged to believe in themselves, to take heart, and to plan for their lives ahead.

Mom's House, Dad's House for Kids is packed with practical tips, frank answers, easy-to-use lists, "train your brain" ideas, reproducible worksheets, and things to try when words just won't come out right. Kids will learn how to:

Deal with parents living apart, schedules, and dueling house rules

Settle comfortably in one home or two

Stay out of the "miserable middle" when parents fight

Manage stress, guilt, change, fear, and other feelings

Stay connected with parents, relatives, and the "right" friends

Appreciate the gifts (and deal with the gripes) of their new version of family

Feel better FAST!

Kids can't get their parents back together, but they can help themselves get stronger and go on to succeed in life. This book shows them how.

Customer Reviews:

Great book for kids.......2006-05-25

Mom's House, Dad's House for Kids is terrific! The author knows how to speak to kids in a way that helps them understand and cope with the changes that come with separation, divorce, and remarriage. The focus is positive and proactive: things kids can do to feel better, tips on how to talk to parents about problems, strategies for addressing and resolving problems, a framework for exploring consequences when making choices, answers to kids' unasked questions, and more. There's even a section giving answers to the questions that kids hesitate to ask. The book doesn't end with the divorce, but continues with what to expect and how to cope when the family changes once again into a stepfamily. The tone, the format, and the content are super child-friendly. A must-read for kids whose parents are separating, divorcing, dating, or remarrying.

So kids not only survive, but thrive.......2006-05-07

This book can be a young person's full-time guide not just to the logistics, emotions, and decisions that arise during parents' divorce, but also to growing up strong under any conditions. As a mother whose daughter was 9 at the time of divorce (or until she turned 18 or so - she's an adult now), I would have bought two copies - one for me and one for her - so that each of us could have it handy 24/7 and write our own marginal notes. Three copies. One for dad, too. Arguments may be commonplace during and after divorce, but no one could argue with the solid foundation and practical value of Dr. Ricci's ideas or her profound love of children and families. It should be in the waiting room of every therapist, as well.

Understanding My Parent's Divorce.......2006-04-03

When I was 7, my parents got divorced. I am now 18, and looking back I realize how confused I was about the breakup. Recently, my dad gave me an advanced copy of Mom's House, Dad's House for Kids, and asked for my opinion on the book. With the intention of only skimming a few pages, I found myself unable to put it down, and read the book in its entirety. I was amazed at the clear, simple, and compassionate way Dr. Ricci answered questions about divorce that baffled me in the past. The thing that impressed me most about Mom's House, Dad's House for Kids was the consistent positive message it conveyed. Without preaching, the book encourages children to make and fulfill positive goals, respect themselves and others, and above all come to acceptance about their parent's divorce. I know this book would have helped me in the past, and I would highly recommend it to any child going through divorce.

A Handbook of Divorce and Custody: Forensic, Developmental, and Clinical Perspectives

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The Handbook of Divorce and Custody brings together mental health professionals and forensic specialists dedicated to working in the legal arena with families in crisis. Section I provides the individual perspectives of experienced clinicians, all of whom share a psychodynamic and developmental purview, and supplements their accounts with the viewpoints of a lawyer and a judge. Section II examines parental psychopathology, which is often at the root of family conflict and turmoil. Section III deals with the nature and extent of the state's potential involvement with the family, from ensuring parents' rights to raise their children to identifying those circumstances that justify the termination of parental rights. The remaining three sections follow the progressive issues engaged by divorcing families as they work their way through the legal system: forensic evaluation, post-divorce legal arrangements, and the emotional aftermath of divorce, including indications for various types of therapeutic intervention.

Talking to Your Children About Separation and Divorce: A Handbook for Parents

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Talking to Children About Separation and Divorce
Talking to Your Children About Separation and Divorce

Talking to Your Children About Separation and Divorce: A Handbook for Parents
Risa J. Garon , and Children of Separation and Divorce Center Inc.
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This book provides a sense of hope and support for children and families, as well as concrete suggestions on ways to express feelings, adjust to changes in family relationships, and build a problem-solving approach to many divorce-related concerns.

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Counselor , parents, grandparents.......2007-07-18

Parents, and grandparents are struggling when it comes to talking to their children about Separation and Divorce. This handbook is great for suggesting ways to approach and deal with the subject.

Talking to Children About Separation and Divorce.......2003-08-07

I thought this book was an excellant source of information on how to tell my children about me and my husbands separation.

Talking to Your Children About Separation and Divorce.......2003-08-07

This book has great information about talking to your children when you are going to separate. It gives great great examples.

Nolo's Guide to Social Security Disability: Getting & Keeping Your Benefits (Nolo's Guide to Social Security Disability, 1st ed)

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Nolo's Guide to Social Security Disability
Nolo's Guide to Social Security Disability by Iii MD et al.
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Nolo's Guide to Social Security Disability: Getting & Keeping Your Benefits (Nolo's Guide to Social Security Disability, 1st ed)
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Social Security disability is an enormous program, with hundreds of thousands of people participating each year. Consequently, it's easy for both participants and first-time applicants to get lost in the system's bureaucracy.

Nolo's Guide to Social Security Disability is an essential book for anyone dealing with a long-term or permanent disability. Written both for first-time applicants and those who already receive Social Security disability, Dr. David Morton's book demystifies the program in plain English, thoroughly explaining:

* what Social Security disability is
* what benefits are available to disabled children
* how to prove a disability
* how age, education and work experience affect benefits
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* how to respond to a Continuing Disability Review * and much more

Nolo's Guide to Social Security Disability also provides in-depth information on various health problems, including:

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This comprehensive and compassionate book, packed with tear-out forms and a sample disability application, covers both Social Security Disability Insurance and Supplemental Security Income. User-friendly appendices translate bureaucratic terms, list medical-vocational rules, and provide a list of social-security benefit publications. Nolo's Guide to Social Security Disability is an indispensable resource for anyone suffering from any disability.

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Nolo's Guide to Social Security Disability.......2006-02-12

Not at all helpful if you are filling out an application for SSDI benefits. More than 3/4 of the book is on the appeal process and social security system jargon. You can tell it is written by a lawyer, its worthless.

Nolo's Guide to Social Security Disability by Iii MD et al........2005-05-23

This book is invaluable for anyone contemplating a disability claim or for anyone seeking to preserve benefits. The authors explain the elements of a claim; namely the severity of an impairment and its impact on the ability to function in a work environment or setting. The MINE claims are predefined by the law. These are "Medical Improvement Not Expected". i.e. a number of debilitating arthritic diseases or diseases of the musculo-skeletal system

The 20CFR 404 provides an impairment list of conditions. The basic question is whether or not you can do a prior job or another similar one. The criteria will consider factors including
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motion. Obstructive breathing disorders may qualify for disability, as well as, inflammatory conditions and chronic
digestive conditions which interfere with work.

This book will prove invaluable if you are dealing with the
government on a claim. The details of the evaluation process
are set forth in an easy-to-read format. The volume is worth the
price if you intend to apply its contents dispassionately.

A great reference book overall.......2004-03-11

This is an excellent book of the whole area of Social Security Disability benefits and how to fill the forms out completely, when to seek an attorney for appeals etc, and a rather extensive section on what the term disability means to Social Security and what diseases, conditions etc qualify and which do not. The only area lacking was disabled spousal Social Security Disability coverage, which a spouse under age 50 with no minor children must file for in the same way the working spouse who becomes disabled would have to do. I plan on donating my copy which I bought via Amazon.com to my local public library.

MUST HAVE.......2003-07-10

Filing for Social Security Disability benefits is not easy. This guide explains EVERYTHING in easy to understand terms. I wish I had ordered it before the first denial. I am using this book while filing a reconsideration. The suggestions provided have really opened my eyes to the process. I highly recommend this book to people who want a little extra information on the SSA's thought process when going over your application.

Get and keep your ssdi.......2002-07-15

Bought this book as part of prep for application for ssdi. (also bought how to get ssi and ssdi by mike davis and dis workbook for ss applicants by doug. smith). Each book explained a diff part of the ssdi process. This book told what each med diagnosis needed to establish to qualify for perm. disability. And it goes on to explain how to keep your ssdi once you get your award. I did win my case the first try using the info in the 3 books. Having them made all the diff in the world in understanding the ssdi process. Best $[money]. (all 3 books) I ever spent...

Divorce Handbook for California: How to Dissolve Your Marriage Without Disaster (Rebuilding Books)

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A Leading Judge's Insights into California Divorce
Divorce Handbook for California: How to dissolve your marrig

Divorce Handbook for California: How to Dissolve Your Marriage Without Disaster (Rebuilding Books)
Judge James W. Stewart
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How to Do Your Own Divorce in California (29th Edition): A Complete Kit for an Out-of-Court Divorce or Dissolution of a Domestic Partnership (How to Do Your Own Divorce in California)
Divorce and Family Law in California: A Guide for the General Public
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Nolo's Essential Guide to Divorce

ASIN: 1886230528

Book Description

Judge Stewart wrote this book to help couples survive the dissolution of their marriage without the financial ruin most people face. His no-holds-barred guidance shows readers how to:

--Establish realistic expectations about divorce
--Protect children during the difficult times
--Use mediation and/or arbitration effectively
--Find and hire a good attorney
--Handle child and spousal support

This updated fifth edition builds on Judge Stewart's reputation of excellent advice to tens of thousands of Californians going through one of life's most difficult experiences.

Features include:
--Authoritative guidance from an experienced family court judge
--Practical, helpful exercises, "Do's and Don'ts"
--Realistic, objective perspective (not "do it yourself" -- not "lawyer bashing")

DIVORCE HANDBOOK FOR CALIFORNIA (Fifth Edition) will be especially helpful to:
--Individuals who are considering divorce or separation
--California couples going through divorce
--Attorneys, divorce counselors, marriage and family therapists

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A Leading Judge's Insights into California Divorce.......2000-10-27

As presiding judge of Silicon Valley's Santa Clara County Family Court, Judge Stewart has made decisions regarding the dissolution of literally thousands of California marriages. He knows what he is talking about, and in this fascinating account he provides the strategies to enable people to come though the process with as little damage to themselves, their children, their spouses, and their finances as possible. Anyone facing divorce in California, or elsewhere, for that matter, should buy this book and study it carefully.

Dispelling eight popular myths such as the popular misconception that the judge hearing a divorce case will have substantial experience with divorce law, Judge Stewart begins by showing how to avoid financial disaster and how to select an attorney. He then goes on to give rare insights into how a judge in fact determines child custody and support matters, spousal support, the fate of the family home, and attorney's fees. He gives practical advice on how to protect oneself physically and emotionally.

In short, Judge Stewart has written an insider's frank, fascinating, and somewhat frightening view into the workings of California divorce courts. The book could well provide the stimulus for a great TV dramatic series. Congratulations to an outstanding, thoughtful judge for providing a superb, practical, account of the workings of family law courts in California.

Divorce Handbook for California: How to dissolve your marrig.......2000-10-04

I found Judge Stewart's Divorce Handbook for California to be not only incredibly thorough, but also quite easy to understand and free of condescending "legalese". In fact, there is an extensive glossary of terms that I could quickly refer to if I was at all unsure of a legal concept. This book is superior to the "do it yourself" variety, because it illustrates a variety of legal options for the reader, including how to hire a competent attorney and yet protect yourself financially. Because divorce is such a complicated and emotional process, it is reassuring to have a clear and comprehensive resource to turn to for info on a variety of legal issues, such as spousal support, division of property, custody, attorneys etc. I enthusiastically recommend this extremely useful book!

Getting Back Together: How To Reconcile With Your Partner - And Make It Last

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Getting Back Together: How To Reconcile With Your Partner - And Make It Last
Bettie B. Youngs , and Masa, Ph.D. Goetz
Manufacturer: Adams Media Corporation
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ASIN: 1593374933

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The divorce courts are littered with broken marriages-and broken lives. Yet most people would save their marriages-if they only knew how. Getting Back Together is the solid, comprehensive guide you can count on to get your relationship back on track. No matter what issues you may face, this step-by-step program shows you how to take the initiative, reconcile your differences, and remake your relationship-from the ground up. In this completely revised and updated edition, Drs. Youngs and Goetz provide the most current studies and relationship evaluation tools available. They also include numerous inspiring real-life stories of couples that have resurrected and renewed their relationships. Chock full of valuable information and comforting advice, Getting Back Together helps couples beat the odds and build a new, happier life together-forever.

Customer Reviews:

Great resource.......2007-08-04

This book is perfect if you want to try a second time at making your relationship work and avoid the mistakes that let to its erosion.

"Save your money".......2007-04-22

This was a very bad book. Save your money and if she comes back do not do the same things that caused her to leave in the first place. Change yourself for the better and let her see those positive changes if you do reconcile.

If you did not treat her badly and she left you then you need to find someone who appreciates you and keep her out of your life because the problem is with her not you.

This is free advice that will work and save you from spending money on a worthless book like this.

Excellent resource.......2006-11-05

My wife and I are back together. Although struggling, this book was a great help when I need a great deal of help.

Make the Jerk Pay: Tracking Down a Deadbeat Dad and Getting Child Support

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Essential reading......
Can't wait until the law is actually fair
Very good tips on finding information about the ex
Worth a read
Terrific Guidelines!

Make the Jerk Pay: Tracking Down a Deadbeat Dad and Getting Child Support
Louis J. Rose , and Roy Malone
Manufacturer: Albion Press (MO)
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ASIN: 0960684638

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This book takes a hard look at the reasons why the government bureaucracy has failed as the nation's bill collector for child support...and how families get their money in only about one in five cases.

It's a national scandal that millions of fathers don't pay and get away with it. Their ex-wives and children often end (up on welfare af taxpayers' expense. Nationally, $50 billion is owed in back support.

This book is valuable to single parenets who need help in getting the child support they are entitled to. It offers help on how to obtain support, so that your family won't end up victims of a deadbeat dad, or in some cases, a deadbeat mom. The book is also meant for grandparents. who often must help support their daughter's children. Make The Jerk Pay goes beyond just explaining how to use the child support system. It tells how you can track down a missing spouse by using your own skills and available public records and the Internet. Beyond that. you will learn how to do some sleuthing to uncover money, property and other assets of the deadbeat.

Men may take offense at the book's title. But we consider it justified because nine out of ten deadbeats are men. For the custodial fathers trying to collect from deadbeat moms, this book is for you too.

Many men don't want the responsibility of being a father, so they end up divorcing their children as well as their wives. They run off, often moving from state to state. Some create new identities for themselves by changing their names and getting new Social Security numbers, new credit cards and driver's licenses.

They go to great lengths to conceal their assets from the families they abandon. Many arrange to be paid under the table so their earnings can not be traced or attached. Often they will flout court orders to pay child support, knowing they are likely to get away with it.

The tactics of deadbeat dads add up to a nightmare, financially and emotionally, for the mothers and children. Too often the mothers are left to fend for themselves at a time when they are least able to cope.

Many women will not even seek child support. They may fear hostility from their ex-husbands or partners, or feel that asking for child support is like asking for a handout.

Others shy away because they fear it will be costly, time-consuming and too much of a hassle to deal with the bureaucratic child support system.

If you are such a victim, you may feel abandoned and cheated. That's natural. Some women strike back by denying visitation rights to the father. That's a mistake. It hurts the child and gives the absent father an excuse for not paying child support.

But you need not feel that you are powerless. There are laws and state and county agencies which are supposed to help you. It's the responsibility of prosecutors and judges to aid you in getting support orders and enforcing them.

You can turn to support groups whose members know exactly what you are going through and can help you cope with the system. In the end, it's up to you to help find him and make him pay. Because you have the most at stake, you may have to become a squeaky wheel and pester child support officials to get your case moving.

There are countless mothers who have made the system work for them. You will read vignettes about some of these women and how they triumphed, often by the force of their will.

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Essential reading.............2006-11-02

As unsettling as this book is, every man who is contemplating marraige should read it. You will get some idea of the forces arrayed against you when your wife decides to call it quits and move on to her next victim.

Can't wait until the law is actually fair.......2006-03-10

Completely crazy! Warning! This is a bible for gold diggers. It's amazing that in the 21st century, 30 years after Roe v. Wade that some women and men, for that matter, are still pulling this garbage. The choice to be a parent is 50\50 and no, ladies, it does not have to be decided at orgasm. For 30 years, women in the United States have had the right to choose to be or not to be a parent after conception. Abandonement, abortion and adoption laws give all women the right to decide whether or not they want to be parents. Men do not have this choice. They never have. Men are just expected to take a huge responsibility without any choice. That's being adult? In what crazy world? Why do you think more than 50% of marriages end in divorce in this country? No one in the United States should be forced by anyone to be a parent-Or forced into marriage because of a child. Women aren't. Stop playing victims. It's childish. Stop getting "religious" at convenient times(i.e. when you're pregnant). Where was your religion and morals while you were having unprotected, irresponsible nonmarital sex?

Men should have the same legal choices that women have, barring abortion. A man should be able to for a certain period of time following conception or notification of paternity, legally relinquish his parental responsibilities-that includes financial. Women have this right. Why shouldn't men?

When you accidentally get pregnant ladies and the father tells you he doesn't want to have the child, either abort, adopt or abandone or GET A LIFE! and raise it yourself without dragging other people like the reluctant bio-father and the child, for that matter, into the mess you've made.

Don't accuse "fathers by force" of running from their "mistakes". Accept their choice for what it really is, an attempt to correct their "mistakes". By keeping the children, you're not necessarily correcting your mistake, you're just compounding it.

Very good tips on finding information about the ex.......2004-07-07

Very slanted writing! However, it does offer some very good tips on finding out information about the ex (which might be useful before filing, during the divorce, or after if she leaves with the kid(s)). Check it out. It might be a good idea to see what you can find out about yourself so you'll know what might come up in court.

Worth a read.......2001-11-20

I have read many books on this subject and this one stands out as one of my favorites. The author covers many different "situations" and discusses many ideas on how to collect back child support. A lot of research was put into this book and I found it all very helpful and full of interesting ideas and suggestions.

Terrific Guidelines!.......1999-07-21

Rose and Malone give us great, easily usable guidelines for tracking down anybody. These authors know their stuff. From schools to property to driving records to work records, we all leave tracks. Now we know how to make those tracks work for us! Deadbeat parents, look out now.

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