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Pleasure, passion, jealousy, trust, marriage, infidelity, and, above all, sex. From the author of the 1.9-million-copy bestselling The Book of Questions, here is a book that will open doors, break down walls, dispel reserve, and encourage the sharing of secretsóall the while delighting readers with over 250 questions that perplex and puzzle.
Questions about values (ýCould you ever be in love with someone you knew you couldnít trust?O) revealing dilemmas (ýWould you rather have a strikingly attractive spouse who was disappointing in bed or a plain-looking spouse who was fantastic?O); cultural conundrums (ýIs it easier for men or women to find good partners?O); Flights of Fancy (ýIf you could spend one night with anyone in the world you desiredóbut only by getting permission from your partnerówould you ask for it?O).
Explore the bounds of intimacy with your partner, sound new insights with a friend, discover your own true feelingsówith this book you can investigate the mysteries of love and sex without dispelling the magic. Selection of the Book-of-the-Month Club. 539,000 copies in print.
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GREAT BOOK.......2007-03-11
I absolutely LOVE this book. My boyfriend and I have had so much fun asking each other questions. I've learned so many new things about him. It's a great book to use when you are bored.
great for building intimacy.......2006-10-12
like the other reviewers i really enjoy this book. my boyfriend and i only discuss about 5 or 6 questions max at any one time but it really gets your juices flowing for discussing your thoughts about love, relationships and sex. i suspect over time your answers to some of the questions might even change so this is probably something you could always use through the years to see where a person is on their thoughts about things. it's totall worth the price. i have the other two book of questions as well and i like them a lot too...
Great fun.......2006-08-22
Could be a true test of ones self if you choose to be honest. Fun game to play with others.
Great Questions To Keep A Conversation Moving!.......2006-08-22
This book has really helped me keep the phone conversations with my boyfriend moving. He is in the military, it's long distance, and these questions... while serious... really give us something to talk about. We make it fun and lighthearted, so it works for us!
If you're thinking about buying this book because you want to ask questions of your lover and get to know them better, buy it! You won't be disappointed. It's helped me to get to know another side of my boyfriend, and it's really helped us to stay close while he's away.
There are a lot of good questions, some sort of redundant ones, and some that might be a little too person for you to ask. But if you are open to talking about all aspects of love and sex, then it's perfect for you. It's small and easy to read!
Love This!!.......2005-12-06
This book is so much fun! My Husband and I ask the questions back and forth and it always makes for a good laugh! This is the perfect book to cuddle on the couch with and have a glass of wine! It's also great for parties, or to get conversations started almost anywhere. I love the senerio questions and the ones that make you choose between some of the most important things in life! You'll love this book! I promise!!
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SEX. Splashed across magazine covers, billboards, and computer screens--sex is casual, aggressive, and absolutely everywhere. And everybody's doing it, right? In Real Sex, heralded young author Lauren F. Winner speaks candidly to Christians about the difficulty--and the importance--of sexual chastity. With honesty and wit, she talks about her struggle to live a celibate life. Never dodging tough terms like ''confession'' and ''sin,'' Winner grounds her discussion of chastity first and foremost in Scripture. She confronts cultural lies about sex and challenges how we talk about sex in church. Her biblically grounded observations and suggestions will be especially valuable to unmarried Christians struggling with the sexual mania of today's culture. Real Sex is essential reading for Christians grappling with chastity and a valuable tool for pastors.
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Catchy title worth the read.......2007-09-20
Given the perspective of the author I found this book to be very realistic while still getting God's perspective about sex. The author comes from a non-Christian upbringing and adulthood has a valuable approach and authority from experience. While I don't completely agree with everything she wrote the vast majority of her points I do find much more attainable to the Christian culture than "I Kissed Dating Goodbye".
For the practice of the virtue of chastity.......2007-08-06
The quotation by C.S. Lewis found in the early pages of this book really captures the purpose of a book like this. Lewis remarks, "Chastity is the most unpopular of the Christian virtues." For this reason, and for the fact that it is also a very difficult virtue to practice, and for the fact that church sponsored abstinence programs have had disappointing success rates, AND for the fact that our culture is doing everything to discourage the practice of this virtue--we have this excellent book by Lauren Winner. As one who came to Christianity after having become accustomed to premarital sex as part of her dating life, Winner continued this practice in her early experience as a Christian. The church should be dismayed that, according to her report, it offered little in the way of accountability or support in the practice of the virtue of chastity. Her book aims to in some part fill this void.
Perhaps some of the most insightful portions of this book are the chapters on "Lies the Culture Tells Us About Sex," and "Lies the Church Tells Us About Sex." Here she dispels some of the untruths that the world uses to disconnect sexuality from marriage and procreation, and that we can indulge in apart from commitment and without consequences. She addresses the issue of dress and modesty in relation to the practice of chastity, and the positive allure of the hidden. And she unveils the damaging effects of the cultural lie that sex must always be earth-shattering and adventurous, and that meaningful and passionate sex cannot happen in the routine of marriage.
When it comes to the church, she unveils some myths that the church has propagated in its eagerness to defend chastity. While often well-intentioned, these myths have sometimes served to discredit the church in the minds of those who have transgressed sexually, and discovered that premarital sex doesn't always make you feel guilty (though it certainly can). Further, that women, not only men, are sexually driven beings, and finally, that bodies are not "gross, dirty, or unimportant." Winner does a fine job of exalting the good gift of sexuality and the embodiment of love through it, as a tremendous good that God has created for the use of His creation. However, most importantly, she exalts this gift of sexuality in the context which God created it to be used--marriage. Her entire book is undergirded by a positive and biblical view of sex and marriage, and this theology of sexuality is foundational to her book. One of the quotations that really stuck in my head, was the fortuitious statement of biblical truth that occurred in the movie Vanilla Sky (not worth seeing, btw), where a woman remarked: "Don't you know that when you sleep with someone, your body makes a promise whether you do or not?" This is a rather striking way of stating the truth that St. Paul writes in 1 Corinthians 6:15-20, that sexual intercourse inevitably creates a one-flesh union between man and woman.
Perhaps one of the most unexpected surprises of Winner's book was the way she talked about private confession and absolution. She talked about the consolation and release she discovered in privately confessing her sins to her pastor, and hearing the words of Christ's grace and forgiveness personally spoken to her. While this didn't suddenly transform her behavior in a miraculous way, it did help her with the unburdening of guilt. When she returns to the matter of confession later in the book, she aptly states that whether done before a pastor or another Christian, confession "puts us in the company of people who can speak truth in love to us, about our sin, about the need for amendment of life." This point about her book should be underscored again--that the sins and failures in practicing the virtue of chastity, that burden so many people, are burdens that can be and are lifted by the strong arms of Jesus Christ, who bore our sins on His shoulders to the cross. It is in the strength of His forgiveness that single Christians are emboldened to walk forward in new life, practicing chastity in the present, until the time should come when they can enjoy the God-given gift of sexuality in marriage. Much more could be said about this excellent book, including her practical advice on learning the walk of chastity, but I will leave it at that and urge you to read it for yourself.
False Premises.......2007-07-31
This book is a bizarre neo-Puritanism, all predicated on the distorting false distinction between "real" sex and other forms. Only someone deeply alienated from Nature and Nature's God could presume that the source of most sexual pathology--Christian dogma--could be its only source of legitimation. Everything she says about relationships between two can be better realized in relationships of three or four.
An Honest and Straightforward Book.......2007-01-10
Lauren Winner has a great way of presenting arguments for chastity in a no nonsense manner, addressing many concerns and misconceptions that many have about sex whether they are misconceptions that come from our society or misconceptions that originate from within our churches. A truly great book among many average to bad books that address this topic.
Mohab Hanna, M.D. Child & Adolescent Psychiatrist- author of Making the Connection: A Parent's Guide to Medication in ADHD.......2007-01-07
Lauren Winner has written another remarkable book. She provides a clear and substantial argument for not having sex outside of marriage that needs to be listened to closely. With both wit and honesty she shares her personal story about chastity. I highly recommend this book.
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Based on questions from women who have attended author David Deida's highly acclaimed relationships seminars, this must-have book puts male behavior under the microscope. Included are chapters on sex, work, relationships and communication. Interspersed throughout are sidebars that shed light on the many faces of men and help women grasp what makes them act the way they do.
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It's A Guy Thing.......2007-09-23
I loved this book with its short little chapters covering specific things that guys just do and many women just don't get. It's a must read for any gal who seems to think her man should act or react like her girlfriends or is just plain baffled by male behavior. David Deida is genius in presenting the differences between the male and female psyche. Another recommendation for women would be to read Dear Lover: A Woman's Guide To Men, Sex, And Love's Deepest Blissalso by David Deida and The Way Of The Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Woman, Work, and Sexual Desireshould be required reading for all men!
One of the best books on understanding the sexes.......2007-08-23
I've been involved in self awareness work for 29 years. The relief I find by understanding Divine Masculine and Feminine energies is tremendous. It has given me the clarity to know what serves me best in intimate relationship, how I can best serve my partner, and how we can keep passion and love alive. I wish this book was given to every girl when she turned 16 as a "rite of passage" tool. As a Holistic Energy Healer, I use these teachings with clients to help them through crisis and gain a deeper understanding of their own true nature. This book is laid out in bite sized chunks of info that are easy to assimilate and refer to. It is a great on its own, or as an introduction to David Deida's other books.
Men, Demystified.......2007-08-14
This guy knows what it means to be a man, and he puts that into words better than anyone else I've ever heard or read. This book is a must-have for any and every woman who is confused about her man. If you read this book, you will understand what makes men tick.
mars and venus takes a spiritual step.......2006-07-17
I've read Deida's "The way of the Superior Man" as well as "Dear Lover" and am a bit biased at this point as I think his work is helpful within a larger understanding of how men and women typically behave (read Men are from Mars Women are from Venus first), but can come across as extreme at times (more in "dear lover" than this book or "superior man") Overall, Deida's work has been helpful for me. I've explored Deida's ideas and advice with my Man over tha past several months, and find it is usually helpful, but I think much of it would have been hard for me to swallow/potentially damaging if I hadn't read other books on male/female behaviour first. Use your judgement and filter the more perverse aspects of Deida's philosophy against the larger picture of your ethics and use what is helpful to you, discard the rest.
guy thing.......2006-03-19
This book was helpful for understanding guy logic. I learned alot and found it informative. However, the book also tends to be repetitive and could have been edited more stringently.
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Most women dont realize the importance of pH balance, nor are they aware that their pH balance may be out of whack. Acclaimed physician Susan Lark sheds light on this vastly under-discussed health factor. Includes an informative overview of acidic and alkaline foods, explaining how your body reacts to various foods and how to achieve balance through your diet. Discover the effects of pH balance on skin, hair, weight loss and detoxification. Youll be amazed by the results! Achieve amazing weight loss results by kick-starting your metabolism. Over 60 delicious, pH balanced recipes designed to counteract excessive acid and help you achieve radiance and increased energy. A natural treatment for arthritis, osteoporosis, and innumerable other diseases that affect women.
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Eat Papayas Naked.......2007-01-18
I love all Susan Lark's books that I have purchased but especially this one I am already seeing the results since incorparating this book into my diet. Thank you amazon for the low price that I was able to purchase the book for.
Innovative and delicious.......2006-07-14
This book is chock full of reliably delicious recipes which are composed of ingredients that so many of us are trying to incorporate into our diets. The dishes induce a feeling of satiety and health as they please your palate. Recipes are not difficult at all, nor filled with esoteric ingredients. This is a terrific cookbook.
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People who are single are changing the face of America. Did you know that:
* More than 40 percent of the nation’s adults---over 87 million people---are divorced, widowed, or have always been single.
* There are more households comprised of single people living alone than of married parents and their children.
* Americans now spend more of their adult years single than married.
Many of today’s single people have engaging jobs, homes that they own, and a network of friends. This is not the 1950s---singles can have sex without marrying, and they can raise smart, successful, and happy children. It should be a great time to be single. Yet too often single people are still asked to defend their single status by an onslaught of judgmental peers and fretful relatives.
Prominent people in politics, the popular press, and the intelligentsia have all taken turns peddling myths about marriage and singlehood. Marry, they promise, and you will live a long, happy, and healthy life, and you will never be lonely again.
Drawing from decades of scientific research and stacks of stories from the front lines of singlehood, Bella DePaulo debunks the myths of singledom---and shows that just about everything you’ve heard about the benefits of getting married and the perils of staying single are grossly exaggerated or just plain wrong. Although singles are singled out for unfair treatment by the workplace, the marketplace, and the federal tax structure, they are not simply victims of this singlism. Single people really are living happily ever after.
Filled with bracing bursts of truth and dazzling dashes of humor, Singled Out is a spirited and provocative read for the single, the married, and everyone in between.
You will never think about singlehood or marriage the same way again.
Singled Out debunks the Ten Myths of Singlehood, including:
Myth #1: The Wonder of Couples: Marrieds know best.
Myth #3: The Dark Aura of Singlehood: You are miserable and lonely and your life is tragic.
Myth #5: Attention, Single Women: Your work won’t love you back and your eggs will dry up. Also, you don’t get any and you’re promiscuous.
Myth #6: Attention, Single Men: You are horny, slovenly, and irresponsible, and you are the scary criminals. Or you are sexy, fastidious, frivolous, and gay.
Myth #7: Attention, Single Parents: Your kids are doomed.
Myth #9: Poor Soul: You will grow old alone and you will die in a room by yourself where no one will find you for weeks.
Myth #10: Family Values: Let’s give all of the perks, benefits, gifts, and cash to couples and call it family values.
“With elegant analysis, wonderfully detailed examples, and clear and witty prose, DePaulo lays out the many, often subtle denigrations and discriminations faced by single adults in the U.S. She addresses, too, the resilience of single women and men in the face of such singlism. A must-read for all single adults, their friends and families, as well as social scientists and policy advocates.”
---E. Kay Trimberger, author of The New Single Woman
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A great consciousness-raiser.......2007-10-05
I just finished this book (which I had checked out from the library) and plan to purchase a copy for re-reading. Recently and very unexpectedly divorced after nearly 30 years of marriage, this book came into my life at the perfect time. I (embarrassingly) recognized myself within the pages as one of those who had unknowingly had the cultural advantages and self-satisfied attitudes of couplehood/marriage.
This book has taken me to a new level of awareness and understanding of society's subtle (and not so subtle) messages about people who are single by choice or by circumstance. Ms. DePaulo's writing is clear, insightful, and humorous. (I found her humor in turns wry, sly, and playful, not at all sarcastic or bitter.) She is right-on in her analysis of cultural views of both singlehood and coupledom.
Aided by the perspective of this book, I am no longer simply accepting life as a single, but looking forward to creating a future as rich, fulfilling, and compassionate as possible. I now view my unexpected singlehood as a blessing that allows me to direct my love and energies into new avenues, including deepening my friendships and providing community service. This book has dramatically redirected my outlook.
Somewhat disappointing.......2007-08-01
A friend sent me DePaulo's chapter headings and they are hilarious! I looked forward to reading her book as an interesting exploration of the devaluation of singlehood. The book's concept is thought provoking. The writing, however, is sarcastic (to the detriment of DePaulo's message), at times embittered, and sometimes tedious (e.g., she'll describe at length another writer's work and then pick it apart bit by bit; she could have instead made her point more clearly and persuasively if she wasn't just reacting to other material). All in all, I was disappointed.
"Don't worry, honey, your turn to divorce will come....".......2007-06-23
DePaulo's book is brilliant, but it made me so angry. Angry at how many couples (from here on, "marrieds") stereotype, stigmatize, and ignore singles, of course! I already knew that marrieds feel sorry for singles because they're "incomplete," "lonely," and "unfulfilled." But not everyone wants the same thing, not everyone wants the conventional, predictable married life. I enjoy solitute tremendously, and marriage has never been my life goal. I'd rather focus on my career, which is more fulfilling than any relationship I've had. I also enjoy traveling on the weekends whenever I want, spending my money how I want, hanging out with single friends (fortunately I still have several of them). Most marrieds don't plan a weekend to go visit a good college friend (well, maybe they will if it's a couple and not merely a single person) and spend money "selfishly" on food, entertainment, and going to take photographs of old nuclear power plants or other unique trips. Does this mean I'm not grown up? no! It means I know what I like to do, so I do it. It's that simple. I feel like I have to put so much energy into defending my contented state, while marrieds are assumed to be content (although I know that isn't always the case, especially since marriage ends in divorce half the time).
I am almost 26 so it's still "acceptable" for me to be single, but people still ask why I don't have a boyfriend. "Don't you want to get married one day?" "Are you dating anyone?" "Don't you want to have children?" "You're attractive, why aren't you with anyone?" (there must be something wrong with you!) I used to feel inferior when asked those kinds of questions, especially in college when people were frantically getting engaged, much like a Baskin Robbins gets raided on the day they sell ice cream for 31 cents per scoop. Better get some before it runs out, ya know. But gradually, I became confident in my singleness by my junior year. This book really reinforced my feelings and it was as if DePaulo was reading my mind for most of it. Especially the chapter about why anybody should CARE if we're single of not? Get a life, marrieds..perhaps you should worry about decreasing your divorce rate instead.
I also liked the part criticizing how society gives a hard time to singles who still live with their parents. I still live with mine but am not "mooching" off them. I pay rent, my car payments, my car insurance, my phone bill, my college loans, and other expenses. I am saving up for my own condo (not because it screams "Single person!" but because it's the only thing I can afford in my area). I have a good relationship with my parents and I give a lot back to the economy, much like the Japanese women. I know that I go out and have a social life more than a lot of marrieds I know. And I'm not going out just to look for a husband either, grrrrr!
I have a good male friend in his late 30s. Some people have asked me if he's ever been married. When I answer No, one of them remarked, "There must be something wrong with him." Actually, there isn't. He just doesn't believe that marriage would improve his life. It's overrated and not a "fix-all" solution. He likes being single! He's happy being single. Is that so difficult to understand? Apparently, it is.
Sure, sometimes I think it would be nice to be married, to have that one person who is supposed to be your best friend, lover, etc. But I'm not going to go around actively looking for it because it's not worth it. If it happens, it happens, but I know I wouldn't mind being single for the rest of my life. I don't need another person to make me feel complete. I'm not going to waste time obsessively searching for the right person (dating is much more of a waste than being contentedly single). Ooh, I must be bitter with this attitude! Sometimes I am, but usually I just think, why try to change my life when I love how it is right now? And marriage could also make my life much worse - you never know if it will work out or not, and you could end up devastated by infidelity, abuse, etc (also true in serious unmarried relationships, i know, but people generally have higher expectations of a fairytale perfect marriage, especially with all that commitment). I know a few married men at work who are cheating on their spouses. Obviously, not all marrieds even respect marriage. How then, can this type of person look down on singles as inferior?
I was especially disgusted with Chris Matthews' treatment of Nader. How dare he imply that because Nader did not consume as much as the marrieds (such as no house, no car), that he was less of a person, less responsible? He is really a thousand more times responsible than Newt Gingrich or Bill Clinton, who have made a mess of their marital relationships. Nader is responsible enough to never embarrass a wife (or any other woman, for that matter) on international television. HE never made a mockery of the all-important marriage as others have done. And he is environmentally responsible for not owning a car because, wow!, he doesn't need one, which makes perfect sense (although not to Matthews). Singles rarely get credit for their accomplishments. I admire him and politicians like Condi Rice all the more because of their singleness.
How are people more "grown up" just because they're married? Nineteen year olds get married and are no more grown up than 19 year old singles. In fact, I argue that 19 years old marrieds are much more stupid and insecure than singles their age.
Have to mention one more thing. Once I was invited on a weekend trip where I would be set up with some guy. But I immediately turned it down because I was buying my new car that weekend. An organizer of the trip then asked me, "Which would you rather have, a new boyfriend or a new car?"
"A new car." Of course. I needed a car, but I didn't need a boyfriend...and still don't.
Singe Edition.......2007-06-13
I had been anticipating the arrival of Bella DePaulo's book for months and read it within a day upon receiving it. Ms. Depaulo could not have said it better when she indicates that not all singles are desperately waiting to be rescued by a mate. In fact many are completely satisfied in their solo state while those who are married may not necessarily be fulfilled. Increasingly individuals are choosing to remain single and Ms. Depaulo helps shatter the stereotypical portrait that has been painted. Bookstores today are replete with kitschy chic lit tales, dating propaganda or stories that glorify mommies but Singled Out is a power piece that raises the individual to the positive and realistic rank they merit. I am thankful for the contribution Ms. Depaulo has made and applaud the sincere and courageous stance she has made in putting forth her writings.
Sherri Langburt
The Last Socially Accepted Prejudice.......2007-06-11
This book is about one of the last forms of prejudice that is still socially acceptable, the stigmatization of people who are single. Contrary to some of the comments made, the author makes it clear from the start that this is not a book about putting down people who are married. The criticism is of married people and others who portray marriage as the only valid lifestyle choice for a mature adult and stereotype single people in such a way that they are portrayed as lesser human beings. I have observed that often, pioneers in exposing stigma of an out group get personally attacked for their "tone", especially if they present compelling arguments that are difficult to reasonably refute.
This is not a book about victims, but rather, a book about the resiliency of single people who have managed to prosper in spite of the negative stereotypes and discrimmination. In each chapter, DePaulo exposes and systematically refutes myths about singles that many in our culture have taken for granted. One of the most prevalent myths is that singles don't "have anybody" when research shows that always single people, especially women have the strongest social support networks. She illustrates how our culture has belittled any relationships other than marriage as unimportant when in fact, friendships and relationships with siblings are just as important and often longer lasting.
The book also exposes how legitimate research can be misinterpreted in the popular media, especially when the data violate cherished beliefs and assumptions. The truth is that singles comprise a higher percentage of households than the traditional married couple with children. While the traditional household is a fulfulling choice for some people, when it comes to marriage, given the high divorce rate and the growing percentage of people who choose to be single and remain happy, clearly one size does not fit all. It is time to stop blaming and pathologizing people for failure to conform to the expectations of society that we all must marry and begin to recognize that differences in civil status are often due to normal, healthy differences in personality and temperament. I have written a lengthier review of this book on my blog:
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This is an essential read for anyone wanting to understand how S/M can be primal, when leather can be spiritual, why someone could be proud of being a sadist, or how to find joy and wholeness in our dark sides. Rinella notes that "attitude makes the difference between being a master and a top," and The Master's Manual is unequaled in its discussion of the attitude of power and the soul of a master. This is the second book any novice dominant or submissive should read. While the basic how-to of Sensuous Magic or Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns is essential, The Master's Manual builds on that knowledge with things such as "Rinella's Six Attributes Every Master Needs" (like self-confidence, trustworthiness, and acceptance of self), the strength and courage of submissives, the application of discipline, and suggestions on the training of submissives. It's a peerless resource for anyone who wants to be, or wants to understand, a master.
While much of the wisdom in The Master's Manual is gleaned from the gay leather scene, Rinella's honest and nonjudgmental writing is appropriate for people of any orientation who seek to learn more about the empowerment and ecstasy that can be found in leathersex. Each of the 40 pieces was written to stand alone, and they cover topics from how to become a master, why someone would want to, fiction and nonfiction leather classics and classics-to-be, contracts and commitments, how to deal with a scene gone wrong, and more. Taken together, they combine to form a picture of a world where "we can live our fantasies and face our fears. The real self can emerge from behind the mask of culture." --Cheryl Trooskin
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This book examines various aspects of erotic dominance including SM, safety, sex, erotic power, techniques, and much more. Even if your primary interest is erotic submission rather than dominance, this book will give you insights that will help you lead you to a more fufilling sexuality. The author speaks in a clear, frank, and nonjudgemental way to anyone with an interest in the erotic dominant/submissive dynamic.
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A serious guide for any Master .......2007-03-23
Although this was his first book, Jack Rinella had been active in the gay leather scene for what seems a life time to the rest of us. This excellent book is a "how to" treatise for all readers...those experienced and novice, Masters and slaves, men AND women. Its also sets a standard for Masters to strive for, while making allowances for the things that make them human. In the end, all Jack asks of them is that they are honest with themselves, as well as with those who serve.
"The Master's Manual" will not school you on tying knots or wielding a flogger. Nor is it intended for those with a transitory interest in bedroom kink. Instead, Jacks' book is dedicated to those who are serious about Power Exchange relationships, and who wish to hone their interpersonal skills to make them work.
There is very little stuff of fantasy porn novels here...when Jack tells us that "A Master gets only what his slave is willing to give", he is being practical and realistic. This is a refreshing tack for people who choose to make dominance and submission a part of their daily life. He not only shares many of his personal experiences in the leather life with us, but he also helps us understand how concepts of power, control, and responsibility make the Master more than just a sadist.
And while written by a gay leatherman, I can assure you that there is plenty to learn from Jack Rinella whatever your sexual orientation. Those who prefer to be owned will also find much to learn from his 8 steps to being a "best boy", which are as true for men as they are for women.
The challenge of owning another human being, and finding mutual happiness in the process, is a remarkable one. Fortunately, there are men like Mr. Rinella who can inspire us with their words to make it happen.
Like Most of His Other Writings.......2005-09-05
Perhaps because I subscribe to Jack Rinella's Leather Views column, I did not find this book particularly enlightening. It told me nothing that I have not already seen in his column, which I find more anecdotal than enlightening. Persons who are fans of Jack Rinella will certainly like this book and will applaud it; persons who are not will not. Persons who have had no prior exposure to Jack Rinella's writings, however, are likely to fall into many categories, with those persons with homophobic sentiments being the first to take offense to the work, as Jack Rinella makes no apologies for his sexual orientation. Here I would say that the reader would do well to cast aside such prejudices before judging the value of the work itself.
For me, the work was déjà vu, and I did not find it particularly enlightening, but then again, I am no novice to the topic nor to Jack Rinella's writing. Were his writing style more polished, perhaps the work might have more appeal; my own recommendation is to read other works that are far superior in style and content.
This guy doesn't have a clue.......2004-12-16
If you are looking for information or pleasure reading on the subject of BDSM, don't go anywhere near this author. The 'author', jack rinella, seems to have a very limited understanding of BDSM. It appears that he uses these barely literate books of his as some sort of slurred, unintelligible series of pickup lines. There is a distinct void of information in these books, quite likely because this `author' doesn't have a clue about BDSM. He seems to view himself as some sort of player and blathers on incessantly about himself, but never approaches an understanding of the topic of BDSM.
This book is horrid. So is his other rambling book of ghastly grammar, misspellings and run-on sentences.. One could hope that he goes back into his little life of obscurity and never bothers us with his inane self-promotional drivel again.
I returned them both. Wow, they are THAT staggeringly bad.
Nothing new.......2002-07-08
Altogether i'm rather disappointed. From the title i expected a more in-depth treatment on dominance and submission in a relationship, but Rinella's offering is more of a general introduction to the Leather/BDSM scene. The book is essentially a series of unconnected essays, most of which were published separately elsewhere, and now weakly tied together. It offers a melange of firsthand experiences, expositions on theory, and tidbits of practical advice, all mixed together.
The book is definately written from a gay male perspective. While his introduction acknowledges the lesbian, bi, and het participants in the scene, and there is the occasional reference in the text, for the most part he speaks in gay leathermen's terms. If you find "Screw the Roses" or "The Loving Dominant" too het for your liking, this book might be a more comfortable introduction to the scene (although i think those other two provide a more thorough grounding, and are better organised).
There's nothing wrong with that--for the most part the practical advice is the same regardless of gender and orientation. But there are exceptions. For instance, he recommends using lubricants with Nonoxynol-9 (a spermicide which has killed the AIDS virus in lab experiments). This may or may not be good advice for men, i don't know, but it is definately bad advice for women. Most women are allergic to N-9, and the resulting irritation and swelling can make them MORE likely to contract an STD.
In the end i can't bring myself to recommend this book. If you're looking for a good intro to the scene, there are better books out there. From my own experience, "Screw the Roses" wins hands down for both practical information and fun, and Warren's "The Loving Dominant" covers roughly the same ground as Rinella, in more depth and with better organisation. For those looking for an intro written specifically from a gay men's perspective i can't make a recommendation from my own experience, but the guys i know in the NLA often recommend Joseph Bean and Larry Townsend--and so does Rinella, for that matter. The bottom line is, Rinella's "The Master's Manual" just doesn't add anything new to the body of literature that already exists.
Basic Thoughts.......2002-07-04
The book seemed to me to be almost condescending and patronizing adding little to no significant information that would effectively aid anyone who might somehow find Him or Herself in a D/s relationship nor does it offer any assistance for those who might be confronted with a partner whom may wish to experience a D/s dynamic. Much more could have and should have been done with this book. Hardly worth the time to either write it or read it and hardly worth the effort to write it or read it and not worth the purchase price.
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Bringing together many highly regarded specialists in the field of AD/HD, Drs. Nadeau and Quinn have organized an in-depth resource for clinicians. Several important topics unique to women that have received little attention elsewhere are addressed, including the need to rethink DSM-IV diagnostic criteria, the impact of hormones upon AD/HD in women, the use of medications during pregnancy, and the range of coexisting conditions that complicate and often mask AD/HD in women.
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Comprehensive resource on AD/HD in women.......2007-08-10
This is a MUST READ for anyone searching for more information on how AD/HD manifests itself in girls and women. This would be an excellent resource for medical doctors to help make them aware that AD/HD in girls and women IS real and not just "in their heads."
Great AD/HD Resource.......2003-06-06
This is a great resource for professionals who treat and work with females with AD/HD, females with AD/HD, and parents of females with AD/HD. Though the book may be intended for professionals, the setup of the book is very ADD Friendly and the language is easy to understand.
I think reading this book will be very benefical to women with AD/HD and family members of females with AD/HD. It may put females ahead of the game when they seek treatment for AD/HD. It may give them a better idea of whether the professional who is treating them acutally understands AD/HD.
Females who are currently in treatment for AD/HD should consider asking the professional treating her if he or she has read this book. If the answer if no it may be in her best interest to suggest that he or she does.
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For more than 20 years, Betty Dodson has been dedicated to taking the shame out of masturbation, showing it to be a healthy form of sexual expression. With warmth and intelligence, and informative line drawings, Dodson explains how anyone can learn to fully enjoy the pleasures of self-love, pointing out that masturbation is still the safest sex.
Customer Reviews:
Not worth buying...disappointed!.......2007-03-14
Even at a discount rate this book is not worth it. You have some black and white drawings with written accounts of Betty's ordeals. More of an autobiography than a how-to manual.
I am Christian and the first couple chapters, not pages, chapters talk about how we think everyone that masturbates is going to hell. Sure we don't think polygamy is right and we're pro-life, but we also recognize sex as a wonderful gift from God. Maybe instead of doing research on sex so much, she should actually research Christian ideas as well.
Very Disappointed.......2006-10-24
I was really disappointed especially because I had read so many positive reviews of the book. It very boring and the only exercises there actually were was one little chapter. The book was more of an autobigraphy of the author as well as about the history of the acceptance of women's masturbation which I could have read online if i wanted to. I wouldn't consider this a self-help book at all.
A pleasure to "read"!.......2006-08-25
And to think I thought I had "written the book" on this!
A caveat: Why no chapter on vacuum cleaners?
Mildly entertaining, but not helpful.......2005-09-06
This book reads more like a autobiography then a self help book. Dodson spends most of her time talking about her life and her sexual awakening. While some of it is insightful, a lot of it comes very close to blathering stupidity and an odd kind of boastfulness.
The first chapters deal with her unsatisfactory sex life and her sexual encounters with her wonder lover. The art work is nice, but otherwise, it's skippable. She then goes on to her workshops and her spreading the news about masturbation. This part makes her sound like a loonie on a mission, but it's mildly entertaining.
The part that I bought this book for, the how to masturbate section, encompassed less then 20 pages and was vague, frustrating and unhelpful. Anyone, with a bit of thought, could have figured out most of these techniques.
Over all, honestly, it was a bit dull. If you have issues about your genitals, think that masturbation will make you blind, or just want a laugh over someone who likes to jerk off in group settings, buy this. If you want help with techniques, practical advice, or how to use toys, find another book.
Engineering review.......2005-08-22
While talking to the author about designing and marketing a medical device to assist women to exercise their pelvic floor muscles, Betty recommended that I buy this book to learn more about the anatomy and physiology of the female orgasm, and how the device I am designing might play a role. Betty writes from her three decades of experience teaching "selflove" to many women and some men. But it wasn't until page 157 that I found the relevant information. Betty was part of the early efforts in liberating women's thinking, and her stories of that effort are fascinating. She writes well, and makes her story interesting. I had hoped that there would be more clinical information that I could use for the product design; that is the only reason I subtracted one star. If you are expecting an instruction book, this isn't it. But if you want to learn about the emotional and sexual history of one pioneer of the sexual revolution, buy this book.
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Born into a gendered world, gender affects virtually all of our close relationships. How we interact with one another during each stage of a relationship is influenced by the volatile and sometimes divisive role that gender plays in our lives. Gender and Close Relationships is an exploration into the current world of gendered interaction and the ways in which gender influences how others perceive and treat us. This timely and comprehensive discussion demonstrates, clearly, how societies construct and create gendered relationships, but also suggests how "non-traditional" close relationships may strengthen, or make irrelevant, gender-linked behavior. While framed within a solid scholarship, the authorsÆ presentation style is accessible, engaging, and practical. This book is ideal for students as well as academics, researchers, and practitioners in the fields of psychology, gender studies, interpersonal communication, and family studies. Gender and Close Relationships will also provide the interested lay reader with a deeper understanding of how being gender-identified may influence the quality, quantity, and content of our relationships.
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A general overview of gender issues in relationships.......1998-12-27
This academic work is a worthwhile read for college students in Psychology 101, or for those individuals interested in exploring the basic issues of gender as it relates to the successes and failures of romantic relationships in Western culture and society.
While many psychology books and articles typically raise more questions than they answer, Gender and Close Relationships was quite unsatisfying to read, because much of the material was not terribly informative and it did not answer some questions on the general gender issues it attempted to explore.
The generic case study-type examples sprinkled throguh chapters one through five made this part of the book engaged the reader, making the book easy to read.
However, after five chapters of close scholarship, the book appears to lose steam going into a somewhat related sub-topic (although interesting, this sub-topic deserves its own book.) So, the authors don't totally get back on track for the issue at hand.
Ultimately, the 'Why' of the book did not satisfy this reader.
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