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Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline: The 7 Basic Skills for Turning Conflict into Cooperation
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Book Description
The 7 Basic Skills for Turning Conflict into Cooperation.
Have you ever opened your mouth to discipline your child, and your parents' nastiest words tumble out? In an era when most parenting books focus on the child, this book supports parents in dealing more positively with themselves as well as their toddler–to–school–age children, offering specific tools to stop policing and pleading with kids and start being the parents we want to be.
Based on Dr. Bailey's more than 25 years of work with children, this book explains that how we discipline ourselves is ultimately how we discipline our children. Her "Seven Powers for Self–Control" dramatically increase our ability to keep our cool with our children. These correspond to "Seven Basic Discipline Skills" we can use with our children in conflict situations. As children internalise these skills, they naturally learn "Seven Values for Living," which include integrity, respect, compassion, and responsibility.
Customer Reviews:
You need to get past the Seven Step business.......2007-08-07
I am buying this book after picking it up at the library. I try very hard to read parenting books, but usually have a lot of trouble. In general, they use too many easy examples and offer techniques that may or may not apply to my situation. They leave a sense that I need to take on a project of doing things exactly their way to be successful.
This book takes a different approach. It emphasizes the behaviors and attitudes one exhibits when one is expressing love to another person, which of course is what we all MEAN to be doing with our children. Just having that adjustment in perspective has really helped me think before I speak to my children, and has changed the tone of our home. For me, that is more important than a specific technique; I want our home to be a more loving, supportive environment.
That said, the author works really hard to smash what she's saying into a Seven Powers framework that doesn't work. I think the Seven Ideas are probably good, but they are so awkwardly smashed into a list of seven with catchy neumonic devices that it becomes a handicap. Every time she mentions the Power of Perception, or one of the others, I shudder. The neumonic names don't describe the idea she's trying to have you remember, and the "Seven Powers" thing is just cheesy. Unfortunately, the ineffectiveness of this device might make the book just too annoying to read. Underneith it, though, are a lot of good ideas worth suffering through Cheesy Self Help Speaker language to absorb.
I think it IS practical and helpful.......2007-06-12
I found the negative reviews surprising, because I have found this to be the most practical positive parenting book that I have read, particularly the tips on coping with sibling conflict. Moreover, I think she herself in supportive of parenting, and is very open with her own self-discipline struggles.
I would skip this one if I were you........2007-05-13
I have been struggling to get into this book for weeks now. Granted, I keep getting interrupted by my own parenting challenge, but most books I read don't take NEARLY this long to figure out. I borrowed it from the library, and I just don't "get" it. It seems as though the author is repeating herself endlessly, without really giving any advice I can use. Like a previous reviewer said, it seems very philosophical without any real strategies to put in place. I may keep trying to finish it but I honestly doubt it. I have so many other highly-recommended books to read...this one just is very uninspiring.
review.......2007-03-18
This books helps out so much. It teaches parents self control with your children. The only thing it is lacking is a consequence for misbehavior. Yes, talking through things has helped out a lot but sometimes I need something more.
Best ever.......2006-11-10
I have been teaching Parenting classes for the past 20 plus years. Ever since I was introduced to Becky Bailey's Conscious Discipline I have used Easy to Love as my main source. It is the absolute best philosophy for parenting, teaching and living- combining all of the best practices with brain research. EXCELLENT!
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One of the warmest and gentlest collections of stories by Calvino, and one of the most grounded in the real world. Lovely and elegant prose that lolls in your imagination like a story whispered into your ear on late spring day.
Book Description
Tales of love and loneliness in which the author blends reality and illusion. “The quirkiness and grace of the writing, the originality of the imagination at work,...and a certain lovable nuttiness make this collection well worth reading” (Margaret Atwood). Translated by William Weaver, Peggy Wright, and Archibald Colquhoun. A Helen and Kurt Wolff Book
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Laudable observations of life.......2006-08-20
"Difficult Loves" is a collection of four sets of stories, each set revolving around a particular theme or setting. Calvino's perspective and style remain constant, however, as he navigates effortlessly between a disparate set of characters and situations. The hallmark of Calvino's perspective is his ability to take small "slices of life", understand them in great detail, and convert them into fascinating and gripping tales. The attraction to his stories is heightened by the occasional recognition of, and correlation to, the plethora of complex feelings aroused by these small and innocuous happenings. The fact that these feelings are so often buried in our subconscious and never played out recognizably indicate how acute an observer and analyst Calvino really is.
"The Adventure of a Soldier", a part of the last set of stories ("Stories of Love and Loneliness"), is a beautiful example of Calvino's keen observational faculties. In this story, a man embarks on a complex and courageous mental (and somewhat physical) journey, on the basis of a perceived physical contact with a fellow passenger on a train. Such is the honesty of Calvino's account of the soldier's emotions, that the reader can almost palpably feel the various contacts with the co-passenger, while sympathizing, if not empathizing, with the soldier's state of mind. This story is also a great illustration of the use of dramatic arc as a story-writing tool, especially to connect seemingly disjointed ideas or states.
The one serious drawback of this book is that while it manages to avert becoming platitudinal, it nonetheless becomes increasingly monotonous with the passage of each story. Calvino's disposition to simplicity and lucidity become his greatest failing as the novelty of his perspective wears off. Thus, overall, this is a book definitely worth reading, but best read in a piecemeal fashion to avoid weariness.
These Stories Stay With You.......2005-12-16
I read Difficult Loves a month ago and found that the stories in this book have staying power. Italo Calvino conjures up vivid imagery to accompany magical and unsettling stories. His story telling abilities are such that he reminds readers of long forgotten sensations. We feel the marvel and anxiety of two children who happen upon a property that is both enchanting and disturbing. We experience the elation of a man who is new to glasses and his disappointment upon realizing he found only a temporary reprieve from his same old life. Another story that opens with a leathery old man warning a weary traveler against crossing a mountain pass is one of the most powerfully written tales in the book. Difficult Loves is worth rereading.
Glimpses of exceptional ordinary lives..........2005-11-13
Difficult Loves provides a comprehensive look at the art of storytelling, and its ability to expose the subtle emotions and personalities of everyday life. Calvino is particularly adept at honing in on a definitive moment, or succession of moments in the lives of his characters, and capturing the surprising shifts of relation and consciousness that occur suprisingly and spontaneously. The last section in the book, Stories of Love and Loneliness, shows Calvino at his most artful, examining the ways that certain types of people experience life and love. An earlier reviewer pointed out that everyone can find something to connect with in these stories. This is true in an even deeper sense, namely, that within the narration, sparkling moments of truth are revealed about the workings of the human mind, and they can only be read with a consistently deepening respect for the author and his art. There is a confessional quality to the work as well, and Calvino hints at his own obsessions and deviancies and shortcomings as a thinker. This authorial honesty conforms well with the subjects of the stories, all of which are betrayed in a state of almost disconcertingly fallible humanity. These are the anti-heros, the heros of everyday life and love. With Difficult Loves, Calvino maps out another essential area of human experience, and does it with a simple beauty that belies the complexity of his grand project.
Most of us can identify with at least one of these stories.......2005-04-29
This collection of stories represents some of Calvino's best early work (the stories were originally compiled in two books from 1949 and 1958). Those who have read "The Baron in the Trees" (from 1957) will recognize the style at work here. The book burgeons with short stories, 28 in all divided into four sections, and each one includes a discovery of some sort as well as a reflection on the most bizarre of human emotions: love.
The stories contained in the book's first section, "Riviera Stories", seem to have political subthemes. Many deal with the haves and have nots and their interactions. "The Enchanted Garden" tells of two children that happen along a seemingly deserted villa to discover a utopia or a dystopia - are the people who live in such luxury happy?; "A Goatherd at Luncheon" explores the gaps between the rich and the poorer classes when the man of the house invites the goat herder to lunch; In "Big Fish, Little Fish" a very capable young diver comes across an astonishing motherload of fish along with a sobbing sunbather who says she's "unlucky in love", but every fish the boy pulls out seems to have problems - the downside of a bonanza; "Lazy Sons" traces a day in the life of two boys who refuse to work in spite of the fulminations of their hard-working parents.
The next section, "Wartime Stories", not surprisingly, contains the most violent and disturbing stories of the book. "Hunger at Bévara" explores the desperation of a village caught between two fronts and the hero Bisma who helped save the village, at least temporarily; "Going To Headquarters" plays with expectations as the tensions between two men, one who might be a spy, and the other who may be his executioner, heighten; "One of the Three Is Still Alive" probably qualifies as the book's most disturbing story. A man thrown into a deep pit by the enemy discovers that the dead bodies of his comrades broke his fall, he then tries to escape from the pit; "Animal Woods" is both comedic and tragic. A man tries to shoot a looting German soldier but the livestock of his village keeps interfering.
The third section, "Postwar Stories" deals with a desperate world, one with limited resources and where almost anything goes. "Theft in a Pastry Shop" tells the hilarious story of criminals who suddenly find themselves on a gluttonous rampage during a robbery; "Dollars and the Demimondaine" explores a couple's quest for dollars amongst a crowd of rather lusty American sailors. This section deals with the desperate climate of a postwar country. As people suffer some take a no holds barred approach while others find themselves giving up or asking what's it worth.
The book's final, and longest, section, "Stories of Love and Loneliness" is probably the most intriguing. It presages somewhat Calvino's later book "Mr. Palomar". The style in this section is deeply character driven, and the thoughts and motivations of characters get explained with amazing detail. "The Adventure of a Soldier" follows a soldier's conquest of a woman seated next to him on a train. He cautiously explores her body to gauge her reaction. Did she pull away? Is she acquiesing? "The Adventure of a Bather" explores how some see nakedness as a humiliation, so much so that they risk death rather then being seen unclothed. "The Adventure of a Photographer" depicts a seemingly non-obsessive man's all consuming obsession with capturing life through photographs. He's too engaged to even notice the interest of the beautiful woman acting as his subject; "The Adventure of a Nearsighted Man" shows just how much a pair of glasses can change one's life. The character can now recognize many things, but other people no longer recognize him. Even the woman he yearns for, and who he's known for years, doesn't recognize him with his glasses on.
"Difficult Loves" provides a suitable umbrella title to package these stories under. Many deal with love in its various forms: physical, emotional, spiritual, self, political, material. In nearly all cases the characters in the story have difficulty defining or requiting the love they have for others or things. The book explores the nebulous nature of desire and attraction to others and the inevitable hardships of bridging one's desires with reality. Throughout the book, Calvino's writing mesmerizes (even in translation) and pulls the reader in without mercy. The character studies of the final section are incredible in their detail and ambition. It's amazing how much Calvino can cram into a ten page story. The range of emotions is also incredible. The stories evoke laughter, disgust, pity, shame, and of course love.
If you want a good read or want to study the art of the short story, look no further than this book by Calvino. It won't disappoint.
Delightful.......2005-03-15
First off, Italo Calvino is my favorite author and Difficult Loves is one of my favorites of his books. A collection of short stories, as a whole, the book ranks among Calvino's most imaginative and magical works.
The collection really displays Calvino's virtuosity as a writer with subjects ranging from war to a solitary woman swimming. Each is magical in its own special way. I would recommend this to anyone who enjoys reading--it serves as an excellent introduction to one of the most creative minds of 20th-century literature.
Book Description
At first thought, understanding the doctrine of the love of God seems simple compared to trying to fathom other doctrines like that of the Trinity or predestination. Especially since the overwhelming majority of those who believe in God view Him as a loving being.
That is precisely what makes this doctrine so difficult. The only aspect of God's character the world still believes in is His love. His holiness, His sovereignty, His wrath are often rejected as being incompatible with a "loving" God. Because pop culture has so distorted and secularized God's love, many Christians have lost a biblical understanding of it and, in turn, lost a vital means to knowing who God is.
The Difficult Doctrine of the Love of God seeks to restore what we have lost. In this treatment of many of the Bible's passages regarding divine love, noted evangelical scholar D. A. Carson not only critiques sentimental ideas such as "God hates the sin but loves the sinner," but provides a compelling perspective on the nature of God and why He loves as He does. Carson blends his discourse with discussion of how God's sovereignty and holiness complete the biblical picture of who He is and how He loves.
In doing away with trivialities and cliches, this work gets to the heart of this all-important doctrine from an unflinching evangelical perspective. Yet it does so without losing its personal emphasis: for in understanding more of the comprehensive nature of God's love as declared in His Word, you will come to understand God and His unending love for you more completely.
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excellent book.......2006-11-10
I read this book for a class that I was taking and I thought that it was an excellent book all around. I especially apprecaiated Carson's treatment of the intra-trinitarian love of God and wish he had spent more time on the subject.
God's Love is Matched by God's Justice.......2006-05-28
Any doctrine of the love of God must discuss the doctrine of the justice of God. Why? Because God is one. God loves and God judges. This is inseparable. How do we know? God commits genocide against Jews in the Old Testament in divine judgment. In the New Testament, God (Jesus Christ) comes back and judges and send people to eternal damnation in Hell. God as Judge is compatible with God of Love. God is one.
Excellent-One of Carson's Best.......2006-01-02
Having read the title of this book and after reading several of Carson's other books, I was looking forward to reading this book and it did not disappoint. I read the whole thing in one sitting.
A word of caution: if you've never heard of Calvinism or Arminianism and don't know what phileo and agape are you may be lost at several points. But don't let this discourage you from reading this book.
Carson's book gave me an immense appreciation for God's love and just how difficult a doctrine it is. To learn about the different ways the Bible speaks about God's love was really amazing and caused me to marvel at the great God I serve. Do yourself a favor and read this book. And if you like it, be sure to check out his sequel: "Love in Hard Places."
Short but Deep.......2005-05-10
Until I read this book I never would have considered that God's love was a difficult doctrine. The Trinity is a difficult doctrine to understand - impossible even. The eternal nature of God - that is another difficult or impossible one. But the love of God? I wouldn't have believed it. But having read this book I believe it now.
The Difficult Doctrine of the Love of God by D.A. Carson is just a short book (96 pages) that is drawn from four lectures Carson delivered in 1998. There was a small amount of editing performed, but the conversational nature of the speech carries through the text. It makes for an easy read, despite some deep theology.
Carson begins by outlining five reasons why this is a difficult doctrine. First, he suggests that while most people believe that God is a loving Being, this belief is set within a foundation other than Scripture. Second, many complementary truths about God are disbelieved by many within our culture (and our churches). Third, postmodernism reinforces a sentimental, syncretistic and pluralistic view of God. Fourth, the church has fallen into believing a sentimentalized version of God's love that is not consistent with God as presented in Scripture. And fifth, the church portrays this as a simple doctrine and overlooks certain important distinctions that prove this to be a difficult doctrine.
From this foundation, Carson builds the book around four themes: the distortion of the love of God; the fact that God is love; God's love and God's sovereignty; and God's love and God's wrath. As we would expect from Carson, he goes straight to the source - to God's revelation of Himself in Scripture - to correct false assumptions and provide a deep discussion of what God's love entails. He defends the compatibility of seemingly-opposite characteristics of God (that God can be perfectly loving and yet perfectly just in His wrath) and examines how God's love interacts with His sovereignty in human affairs.
The only caveat I would provide with this book is that it does assume some knowledge of Christian theology since it was initially targeted at seminary students. For example, Carson discusses distinctions between Calvinism and Arminianism without first defining his terms. A basic knowledge of Greek would not hurt either, though it certainly is not necessary.
It is rare to find so much depth in such a short book. At the same time it is also nice to be able to learn so much without having to wade through hundreds of pages of text - this book could as easily have been hundreds or thousands of pages long. Carson does a wonderful job of highlighting the most important issues while confining himself to a limited word count. I highly recommend this book.
Brief but Excellent.......2004-01-04
As other reviewers have mentioned, this book is adapted from a series of four lectures and only 78 pages long. Carson has kept an informal tone throughout the entire book. On the downsides, I think the book assumes at least some knowledge of Greek (which was fine for me, but may not be for everyone) and his discussion of theories of the atonement was rather limited--if you don't already know what Calvinism and Arminianism are, then his discussion of that issue will probably be somewhat cryptic. However, I think these drawbacks are minor and the book is excellent and definitely well worth reading. Do yourself a favor and purchase this book.
Also, this book is written by a Calvinist, and does carry Calvinistic presuppositions in places. I think this is fine (as I find Calvinism to be Biblical), but it is worth noting. The author's New Covenant Theology does not enter into the book at all, except maybe in the ABSENSE of discussion of covenants in any fashion (there is no concept of covenantal love, for example, in Carson's categorizations--really this is his fifth category, but he needed to expound on it), but this is forgiveable.
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A Book for Marriage Preparation.......1999-12-09
Excellent preparation, well orgainzed with Scripture into weekly sessions for couples working together or with a counselor.
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When the doubts and fears of life assail us, we may find we are overwhelmed by some difficult questions: If God loves me, why did this happen? Can He hear my prayers? If God is in control, why is life so hard? Sheila Walsh has struggled with these questions in her own life journey-and found some answers. Not easy, pat answers, but real-life, lived-out-in-the-flesh answers that can help all Christians find meaning and purpose in the midst of their "Job experience." In Life Is Tough But God Is Faithful, Sheila looks at eight crucial turning points that can help you rediscover God's love and forgiveness. She offers encouraging insight into God's presence in the midst of our questions and struggles-and highlights positive choices you can make, no matter what your circumstances.
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Life Is Tough, But God Is Faithful: How To See God's Love In Difficult Times.......2005-07-21
This is a wonderful book! It really helps you to have some perspective on the difficult things in life. It really encourages you to keep going on! (Her book Honestly is WONDERFUL too!) She is so honest! I would recomend this book to anyone, but especially someone who is struggling!
Life Is Tough but Gos Is Faithful.......2000-06-23
Very touching, very emotional book. I found that this has helped me look at things in my own life and this book has really helped me.
Very touching and well written........1999-06-07
Life is Tough but God is Faithful is one of the most touching books I have ever read. Sheila Walsh always tells the honest truth about life and how God controlls it all. It will help you through the pain to see how God can change lemons in to lemonade. Sheila shows you that God in in charge, and lets Him truly speak through her. Her book Honestly almost leads you into this one, with its story of her struggle. If anyone is in pain, pick up this book or Honesly, then pick up a Bible.
excellent.......1999-06-05
Sheila is wonderful. I love her honesty! Definitely read all her other books.
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The Most Challenging Spiritual Practice -
Twenty years ago, two spiritual seekers met at a workshop on conscious dying. What happened next is the extraordinary foundation for To Love and Be Loved—a life-changing workshop on what it means to be alive and in love. Together ever since that first day, Stephen and Ondrea Levine poured all of the wisdom they gained from their work with others into the mystery of their own relationship. The result is a beautiful, unexpected unfolding: a teaching that transcends the anguish of existence to show us the way to God—through the darkest nights of our most intimate relationships.
In the depths of our personal pain, the Levines teach, lies the essence of intimacy—with both one another and God. This is why true commitment requires us to "swim across the reservoir of each other's grief." Stephen and Ondrea show how couples can immerse themselves in the "ocean of compassion" —where they will discover how to overcome fear and replace it with mercy: the key to creativity and love.
Why are so few yogis committed to a human partner? The Levines suggest they haven't recognized the profound value of the difficult yoga of partnership. Our intimate relationships, they teach, actually contain a complete blueprint for spiritual realization. On To Love and Be Loved, they demonstrate how to decipher and use this map.
The Teachings of a Lifetime - To Love and Be Loved brings you the crowning insights from these pioneering teachers—more than seven hours of useful exercises, meditations, and practical suggestions on five information-packed cassettes. Out of the crucible of their own experience, Stephen and Ondrea Levine point a proven way to true transformation—through the spiritual challenge of your own relationship.
Customer Reviews:
Want to have an intimate relationship?.......2007-04-28
The meditation that launches these dialogues is inspiring and encouraging allowing space so compassion is approachable. The Levine's in this workshop are truly exceptionally wise and profound. They are great examples of putting intimate relationship into practice. I have listened to these tapes again and again and again...always discovering something relevant to my life in my present circumstance. I think that this presentation can be extremely useful for any relevant relationship in your life even ones that seemed far removed.
Simply the Best and Most Basic.......2006-08-18
This will not be a formal review. I found myself with the link available to write one, however, and just could not refrain from making a short stab at it. This set of tapes contains wisdom not just for couples but for anyone, at any time. A comprehensive base of spiritual wisdom drawn from world religions and and the best of thought is condensed into this perspective. Moreover, the suggestions that follow from it are practical and workable. How I wish I had discovered this set of tapes sooner! How I wish it were in hard copy. If you are in need of help, go here. The opening message by Stephen (both he and his wife are conducting the workshop from which the tapes were made) put me off a bit at first, with its quality of incantation. I realize now that this was likely the leading of an opening meditation. Continue. You will not be disappointed!
wow.......2003-12-30
mercy, opening your heart, keeping your heart open and softening to pain because nothing is worse than a closed heart. this was all medicine to me - just what i needed.
Enlightening.......1999-10-02
These tapes remind us how deep our relationships are: We are eternal beings moving consciously through the world seeking to find invisible bonds with others reflecting the nature of our love. Thanks, Ondrea and Stephen, for remindings us how sacred and human our relationships can be. -- Samuel Oliver, author of, WHAT THE DYING TEACH US: LESSONS ON LIVING.
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Excellent book for parents.......2006-03-01
Unfortunately in my profession, as a prenatal genetic counselor, we occasionally providing bad news to expecting parents. Many of those parents have express great appreciate for this book as being extremely comforting during their time of need.
beautiful book.......2003-09-14
I found this book to be an expression of love and support by parents who have had to make the hardest decision. It is filled with wonderful thoughts and memories of those who have loved and lost a child. It was a help for my husband and I who had to make the heartwrenching decision of terminating our pregnancy.
I would recommend this book to anyone who has loved and lost a child.
A must-read for all forced to make a difficult choice..............2003-06-04
I wish our geneticist would have had copies of this book ready to hand out (along with the medical information about our baby's chromosomal abnormality). It would have been a HUGE help to have read this BEFORE interrupting our pregnancy (We learned of this book the week after losing our baby). This reaffirms our choice...we (as THOUSANDS of other parents) chose the route we did out of the utmost love for our unborn son.
The book has stories shared by others who have 'walked a mile in my shoes'; however, most of them went through the L&D process (the main method at the time this book was written). It doesn't mention much about D&E (except for a short section).
If you find yourselves or someone that you love in this heart-wrenching situation, by all means read this book!!!
A wonderful, non-judgemental book.......2002-12-05
I bought this book after my husband and I lost our first and only child to anencephaly. I looked for ages to find a book which specifically addressed the emotional pain that parents who chose to terminate a fatally ill child have, and had no luck. Then I came across this book and it was a godsend. The book takes into account the very personal and gut wrenching decisions that parents must make, and talks about them in compassionate and empathetic ways. I would HIGHLY reccomend this book to any parent facing the loss of a much loved and wanted, yet fatally ill child.
A necessary book for anyone in this situation.......2000-01-09
I got this book after we made our decision, but I would recommend it to anyone who is making a prenatal decision or who is dealing with their decision. Well written, empathetic, a book any parent in this situation can relate to.
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Ouch! It's kinda painful to read this book!.......2006-03-07
I read this book, thinking I had people in my life that would fit the description of porcupines, and that I could pick up a few pointers on how to handle them. Imagine my horror and dismay when I discovered that I'M a porcupine!!! That is, I have a goodly number of the characteristics that the author uses to define porcupine behavior. I was stunned to see that many qualities that I saw in myself as being "helpful" to people are in fact toxic and painful. When I looked at these traits from the point of view of "would I want someone to treat ME that way?" the answer was a definite "No." *sigh* Thus, reading the book became one of the most painful experiences of my life. Now I have to say that I think that I'm one of the nicest porcupines you'll ever meet. Nonetheless, I saw traits in myself that need to be changed. Mr. Lund gives you steps to take if you want to eliminate these behaviors, and it has been my daunting task to work on this ever since. It took me about three years (!!!!! NO, I'm not kidding) to complete the assignment of going through one twenty-four day without saying anything negative at all. Try it before you roll your eyeballs into next week. It's (MUCH) harder than you think. I'm not sure a truly toxic person could take this book. But it does give good strategy suggestions for protecting yourself from such people.
All I can say is good luck.
Great Find.......2005-08-19
This book is great when dealing with all kinds of personalities. But what I liked most was being able to identify and cope with the different types. And yes even finding that there were tough to love spots in my reflection. Really a good book for relating to parents, children, spouses and self and anyone you have a close working relationship with.
How to Hug a Porcupine: Dealing with Toxic & Difficult to Love Personalities.......2005-07-10
This book is a must read for anyone who is in a relationship, whether it be parent, child, friend, neighbor, spouse, ------->in other words EVERYONE could benefit greatly from reading this book.
Toxic Mother In Law 101.......2005-07-05
I read this book to help me deal with my very toxic MIL and it has helped me immensely! I highly recommend it for anyone seeking sanity from a highly critical or "toxic" person in your life. John's humor and down-to-earth approach makes this book very easy and enjoyable to read.
You are not going crazy, only being driven crazy.......2003-05-29
This book was like finding a miracle for me. I have dealt with several difficult people in my life. I didn't know that this was not normal behavior. One of them was my mother who is now 85 years old and getting a more difficult personality everyday. This book has helped my perspective in dealing with her immensely. The one sentence, "decide what a reasonable person would do" has been a sanity saver. I have taken my life back and am learning to deal with all the guilt she dishes out in a more positive manner.
I have already given this book to several others that I know are dealing with a toxic personality. Good luck to you, this book will help you deal with these people in a more healthy way.
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- Finding the Peace of Christ
- A guide to a more satisfying life.
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The Christ-Centered Heart: Peaceful Living in Difficult Times
Rick Mathis
Manufacturer: Liguori Publications
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This book begins and ends with the belief that Christ lives within the human heart, and that the main purpose of life is to center on His presence. Drawing heavily on the Bible, the Desert Fathers, and Br. Lawrence of the Resurrection, as well as on such modern writers as Henri Nouwen and Thomas Merton, Mathis combines traditional and contemporary wisdom to show how human love often fails in common experience, but God's love can never fail.
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Finding the Peace of Christ.......2007-01-07
The Christ-Centered Heart is a wonderful book addressing how we live peacefully in the midst of the realities of life. Dr. Mathis artfully weaves together his own reflections with those of some of the great writers in the Christian tradition, as well as writers from other perspectives, offering the reader practical spiritual advice to live each moment in the peace of Christ. The book is well thought out, well researched, and clearly presented. Highly recommended.
A guide to a more satisfying life........1999-04-09
Anyone who suffers from doubts about the meaning of life or who simply seeks a more satisfying way of living will profit from reading this book. A main thrust of the book is that many of us focus too often and too strongly upon ourselves or our worldly goals, resulting in various forms of unhappiness. By moving one's focus off the self and placing it elsewhere--for the author, upon Christ--it is possible to reduce or eliminate the unhappiness and replace it with a growing sense of calm and satisfaction. This is a spiritual, but not a religious, book. The reader need not subscribe to any particular religious tradition to appreciate what Mathis writes. And, while the author is concerned mainly with the "Christ-centered heart," many of the book's points and suggested exercises complement other, more secular, approaches. All in all, an intelligent and wise book.
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Dealing With Difficult Men
Judith, Ph.D. Segal
Manufacturer: Lowell House
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- Ellen Foster
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- Executor's Guide: Settling a Loved One's Estate or Trust (2nd Edition)
- Far from the Madding Crowd (Modern Library Classics)
- Finn: A Novel
- Four Plays by Aristophanes: The Birds; The Clouds; The Frogs; Lysistrata (Meridian Classics)
- Hamlet (Folger Shakespeare Library)
- Henry James: Novels 1901-1902: The Sacred Fount / The Wings of the Dove (Library of America)
- History: Fiction or Science? (Chronology, No. 1)
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