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You know the man. He's the one who looks good at a glance -- but not so good once you get to know him. What kind of women fall for him, and why? What are the chances he will change? And what if you've already married him?
More than just a checklist of men to steer clear of, Avoiding Mr. Wrong is a powerful tool to help women learn more about themselves and the Mr. Wrongs to whom they often feel drawn. Those men include: The Control Freak, The Mama's Boy, The Cowardly Lion, The Ungodly Man, and Mr. Wonderful.
Complete with a diagnostic quiz and quick reference lists, Avoiding Mr. Wrong is ideal for women whose hopes have been dashed again and again by a seemingly promising relationship. The book helps them to see more clearly, think more rationally, and act more wisely in the pursuit of Mr. Right.
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Stephen Arteburn is like the voice of reason..........2007-01-04
I really enjoyed this book! So much so, I brought additional copies and gave it to people. I enjoyed it because it did not candy coat things. It let's you know what to look for in other, as well as, what to take notice of in yourself. It is a great book to read it you really want to begin making changes in your life.
Not too helpful...Sorry.......2003-10-04
I got this book based on the description and the reviews written. I found the book to be something easy to just flip through although I tried to read page for page, it was just not too insightful. The stories were good to read, and the checklist/info at the end of each chapter was good. The only thing I did not like was the Bible/Christian perspective of the book. It does not allow all readers to relate to. Some of the suggested advice was to ACCEPT GOD? The author should have atleast indicated where some of the perspective was geared towards. Not every one is Christian, and not every can relate to the bible or a cheating minister as a husband =(
Best Book To Spot The Wrong Men!.......2001-12-04
Wonderful insightful book. It seems so simple, that you would be able to spot these men a mile away and run the other way but not true for some. This book has explained in clear language with a touch of spiritual aspect but not too much. Very real and straight to the point. I suggest this book for women of all ages. A must read.
A MAN TELLING ON HIMSELF WHILE TELLING WOMEN THE DEAL............2001-07-30
This book, writen from a frank, but Christian perspective, lists the types on men to avoid, what they look for in a partner/victim, why the women themselves are drawn to these losers and how to work through the issues to eventually create a better relationship (except if the man is violent). The 2 end chapters also give tips on how to steer clear of "Mr. Wrong" to begin with and hope on making the existing relationship a healthier one. Mr. Arterburn's disclosure of his past mistakes, dry humor and case scenarios make this book a must-read for women who want to empower themselves, gain insight into these types of "men" and start on the path to "Mr. Right", and it will help the men who are open-minded enough to want to correct their flaws. I highly, whole-heartedly recommend this important book.
Life Changing.......2001-07-17
I have shared this book with many, many friends and their daughters. I share it in the hopes that it will keep others from marrying a Mr. Wrong. I am recently divorced, however, I began to read this book while separated from my husband. It helped me to better understand the dynamics of my marriage and my relationship with my husband. The power of this book is beyond measure. RED FLAG: NEVER MARRY SOMEONE WHO IS IN A HURRY TO MARRY. He may be a deceiver who is afraid that you will find out who he really is, so he hurries you. GREAT ADVICE: INTRODUCE HIM TO ALL YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY, BE OPEN TO THEIR INPUT. Mr. Wrong will try to keep away from those who will be honest with you. I now look at relationships in completely different ways, and often times find my self saying .... he is a deceiver, he is a momma's boy....etc. I will continue to read this book over time to avoid meeting a Mr. Wrong and marrying him. One critical feature of the book is identifying characteristics that are changable and those that are likely to never to change and are potentially dangerous. This is a must read.
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- An all-time favorite
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Love in the Ruins
Walker Percy
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Dr. Tom More has created a stethoscope of the human spirit. With it, he embarks on an unforgettable odyssey to cure mankind's spiritual flu. This novel confronts both the value of life and its susceptibility to chance and ruin.
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An all-time favorite.......2007-05-13
Like a good doctor, Percy distracts you with charm or by saying something funny and then sticks you with a shot of the truth while you're off-guard. There are a lot of truths in this zany book that features a lot of Percy's wry humor, perhaps the most important being that the hypersexualization of our society is the product (or perhaps cause) of the deadening of our souls. You'll like the protaganist, Dr. Tom More, enough to want to read the sequel "The Thanatos Syndrome." Finally, if you Google "Ralph Wood Love in the Ruins" you'll find an English professor's insightful notes on this book. They draw out some meaning that I'd missed. I usually don't read books twice but I had seconds on this one.
Great reading? Are you kidding me?.......2007-05-05
Who could possibly claim the following sentence (which DOES occur in this novel) is in any way good, or that it was written by an author with even a shred of skill?: "High though he was getting, Chuck, what with his three years at M.I.T. and his 800 SAT score, is digging me utterly."
Flannery O'Connor, in a letter to one of her friends, wrote of Thomas Wolfe that anyone who admired his novels liked good fiction only by accident. The same holds true for Walker Percy.
The End Is Near.......2007-04-24
What do you do when the world is coming to an end right before your very eyes, but no one seems to believe you? That is the concept facing Dr. Thomas More, distant relation to the famous/infamous Saint Thomas More, in Walker Percy's novel "Love In The Ruins". The United States is at a time of crisis, but few seem to understand the implications of the events unfolding around them. It is up to Dr. More, who knows how to diagnose the problem, but not necessarily treat it, to try to prevent the chaos from happening.
The story begins on a hot fourth of July, with Doc staking out the abandoned Howard Johnsons motel in town. In three separate rooms he has cocooned his three paramours and he is waiting for an event that he knows is going to happen; an event that could very possibly bring about the end of the world. The novel then shifts back in time to the three previous days, tracing Doc's journey that led him to seek refuge at the motel. The reader learns that he has created a Ontological Lapsometer, a sort of "stethoscope of the human spirit", through which he can diagnose exactly what ails a person's soul, and finally discovers how to treat it. Meanwhile, there is a revolution brewing; the Bantus and love children are ready to take over what the white man has destroyed, if a major catastrophe doesn't befall everyone before that can happen.
"Love In The Ruins" is a truly southern novel, crafted through Percy's intelligence and tempered with the same absurdity that is a trademark of great southern writers such as Percy and Flannery O'Connor. The reader must suspend disbelief as to the events unfolding, even though they are frighteningly realistic, and not so far-fetched in this present day. Percy's hero Doc More is an antihero on par with those of Hemingway; flawed, prone to drink, forever chasing after women who are wrong for him. This novel is his coming-of-age, in a sense, because Doc learns what it is he wants out of life, and how to best achieve that. Subtitled "The Adventures of a Bad Catholic at a Time Near the End of the World", "Love In The Ruins" is a deliciously funny and poignant look at a near-apocalyptic America.
Saying a little bit in a glorious way.......2007-01-10
Walker Percy was a little too much of a child of post-WWII America, taking himself, his Catholicism, the South, and Manifest Destiny entirely too seriously. That being said, he was a gifted author, and "Love in the Ruins" showcases his keen powers of observation, a Chestertonian ability to wonder at triviality, and an incisive wit.
I cannot help but compare Percy to John Barth. Love in the Ruins bears similarity to Giles Goat-Boy in the sense that both are thoroughly informed by the temporal abortion of the 1960's. But where Barth never emerged from his cocoon of depravity, Percy walks the same ground and retains a vestigal morality. Though the majority of Love in the Ruins is a dystopic fantasy, Percy is able to communicate real and heartrending emotion through Dr. Tom More's periodic memories of his daughter. Outside of this one thread (never fully developed) Percy's work is synthetic: brilliant, but inhuman.
There is an interesting bit of commentary on the Catholic Church as seen through the lens of post Vatican II confusion, and it is hard not to see a parallel between the three "loves" of Dr. More and the three pieces of the splintered Catholic Church. Whereas Percy invents a schism in which the American Catholic Church, the Dutch Schismatics, and the Roman Catholic Church compete with varying effectiveness for the Catholic population, so do Lola, Moira, and Ellen lay different claims to More's ultimate allegience. Lola, like the (Tridentine) American Catholic Church, is big, graceless, but a talented classical cellist. Commitment to Lola would bring More into the goodwill of society and offer a comfortable life in the presence of a hollow classicism. Moira, like the Dutch Schismatics, is shallow, sexual and effortless; offering little but expecting nothing. Ellen, like the Roman Church, is demanding, presumptuous, somewhat naive, but salvific.
Love in the Ruins is a novel of tensions, with the protaganist held in a sort of self-imposed exile in the midst of those tensions: neither Knothead or Leftist, scientist or layman, AmChurch or Roman. The novel concerns the inflection points associated with the inability to sustain these tensions. Percy paints man as a being with a deep rift in his nature, paved with a thin veneer that disguises the self divorced from itself. And, being a novel concerned ultimately with God, Percy paints a tantalizing picture: his image of man forsaken of himself gives a clue to the fullness of the human condition expressed as God forsaken of God in the cry: "Eloi, Eloi, Lama Sabachthani?"
While taken as a whole, the ending is not satisfying in the Dickensian sense, Love in the Ruins is not a morbid novel. Nor is it a progressive novel. Adherents of Call to Action and modern Amchurch afficianados will find an unstable ally in Percy, for his soteriology is as fully developed as his catechism. Percy, through Dr. More, emerges from the fog of zeitgeist intact, which is much more than can be said of most of his generation.
Morality and Honor in a Declining Culture.......2006-07-15
Walker Percy was a shrewd observer of culture: locally in the South of his birth, more broadly in the western world of the late 20th century. The author's pessimism speaks broadly of decline and loss; yet in the midst of it all, his protagonist clings to hope. Why? Rather than resolving our questions, this book raises them in tribute and salute. This book will linger in your awareness.
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A laugh-inspiring book chockfull of the kind of "gotcha's" that contain serious lessons just beneath the surface.
Pat Love and Sunny Shulkin hold up a big fun-house mirror to the kind of relationship behavior most of us are guilty of. Yup, there we are -- expecting but not giving … paying attention to everyone but our partner…waiting for things to get better by themselves - so many relationship-busting behaviors, so little time! Thing is, Pat and Sunny's observations may make us giggle, but they also reveal something very important: they show us what "growing apart" really looks like, day to day. And with most couples who split up giving this as the reason for the split, becoming conscious of how growing apart manifests a long the way seems one good way to prevent the ruination of a perfectly good relationship (one that can get even better with some attention to the details).
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Walker Percy (1916-1990), the reclusive southern author most famous for his 1961 novel The Moviegoer, lived most of his adult life in Covington, Louisiana. In the spirit of traditional southern storytelling, this biography of Percy takes its shape from candid interviews with his family, close friends, and acquaintances. Their voices—sometimes in agreement, sometimes not—reveal the ways Percy interacted with the people in his very deliberately chosen environment.
In thirteen interviews, we get to know Percy through his lifelong friend Shelby Foote, his brothers LeRoy and Phin Percy, his former priest, his housekeeper, and former teachers, among others, all in their own words. Over the course of the interviews, readers learn intimate details of Percy's writing process; his interaction with community members of different ethnic, religious, and socioeconomic backgrounds; and his commitment to civil rights issues. Presenting Percy from a variety of vantage points, David Harwell provides new material to help us better understand Percy's existential questionings and offers a more comprehensive treatment of the writer's character than traditional biographies provide. What emerges is a multidimensional portrait of Percy as a man, a friend, and a family member.
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Walker Percy Remembered.......2007-08-14
Walker Percy best described by his brothers Phin and Roy, and Shelby Foote. In Walker's books there appears to be no influence by Shelby, and in Shelby's books there is not a hint of Walker, but these friends from childhood were always a part of each other's life. The person who knew Walker Percy the least appears to be the ex-priest, James Boulware and sadly, the person who knew him best, his wife Bunt, is not heard from. A marvelous little book...will make you want to read all of Walker Percy's books!
Unique windows into Walker Percy through his friends.......2007-05-15
Nicely packaged little treat for Walker Percy junkies, it can also serve as a fine introduction to the man. Harwell gives us an intelligent and well researched, but utterly unpretentious and accessible, set of interviews with some of Percy's closest associates. The reader is given insights from brothers of Percy, his priest, Shelby Foote, his teachers, housekeeper, New Orleans bookstore owner Rhoda Faust, and, most interesting of all if illusive, Rev. Will Campbell.
The picture that emerges is beautiful and complex. Percy is the committed Catholic convert, yet forever questioning. He is warm and social, yet private. Civil RIghts activist, but Vietnam War supporter to the end.
Takes its place alongside Ralph Wood as my favorite work on Percy.
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How to Ruin Your Love Life
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A good love relationship isn't really that important. In fact, it uses up a lot of time you could spend thinking about yourself . . . and doing things all alone or with your drunken, loser friends. That's why Ben Stein has written How to Ruin Your Love Life. Following up on the wild success of his pioneering "do-the-opposite-of-what-I-say" self-help book, How to Ruin Your Life, he now brings you, in 44 easy-to-follow-steps, ways to definitively and absolutely . . . ruin your love life.
The essays in this bitingly humorous book include such master strokes as: "Talk about Yourself Exclusively," "Make Fun of Your Lover's Family," "Demand Expensive Gifts from Your Lover," and "Compare Your Lover with Lovers You've Dated in the Past." And then there's the most important one of all: "If You're Dating Someone Who Has a Lot of Problems, Is Generally a Mess, and All of Your Friends Dislike Him or Her, Get Married Anyway—Marriage Will Solve All of Your Problems."
This work will not only make you laugh out loud, it will allow you to honestly assess how many of these relationship-killers you (and your lover) are currently engaging in. Learn from this book—and for heaven's sake, do the opposite right now!
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A quick, fun read that uses reverse psychology to drive home its point.......2007-03-13
Instead of writing another book of advice on what to do to KEEP your guy or gal, Stein writes a tongue in cheek book on how to drive your prospective lover or mate away. By doing so, he underlines the fact that you should clearly do the opposite of following his advice if you want to find romance- and does so humorously.
The information he provides seems as though it SHOULD be second nature but it apparently isn't, since so many people keep making the same mistakes. So Stein suggests they use certain tactics to GUARANTEE they'll keep people at a distance - talk too much about themselves, be interested in marrying only for money, be overdramatic, pick fights when things get too calm, etc. You get the point. This book is such a quick read that you could probably browse through it in the bookstore in less than an hour... but you might want to buy a copy for that friend (and everyone knows one) who keeps making the same romantic mistakes over and over. Or just buy a copy and leave it on your coffee table. I guarantee people won't be able to resist looking through it.
What you always knew.......2006-06-12
In this book, Ben Stein reviews many of the things we always knew were unattractive in a prospective or current mate or lover. They're in a lot of movies about romance. We see the behavior in others and shake our heads. And as we read this little book, we nod and say, "I knew that." So if we already know all this, why read the book?
We should read this book now and every so often just to remind ourselves of the behaviors that could kill our romance. It's like holding up a mirror and really taking a look at ourselves. All of us can see in others what we can't see in ourselves, even when the behavior is as obvious as pointing out our lover's imperfections in front of his friends. Or when it's a bit more obscure, such as overdramatizing everything. When you read about people who talk about themselves exclusively, don't you just want to shake them and say, "Wake up"? Well, consider this a wakeup call.
Stein's telling of the behavior in a reverse psychology form helps to clarify and isolate the behavior. It's different from saying "thou shalt not," possibly seeming sillier to some, but even viewing his style in that way can make what he says more immediate.
Readers may not find this pleasant reading, but most will surely find it thought provoking. And those who are interested in the subject might also enjoy "He's Just Not that Into You" or even "Sex and the City."
Excellent!.......2005-10-27
It's witty, funny, and accurate! Now I understand why my ex is still single at 42, and why I couldn't put up with that relationship anymore. My ex was very proficient when it came to doing all that this book says you shouldn't do. Following all this rules helped her to ruin her love life. And somehow that helped me to realize that there are some kind of people that I don't want to be with at all. You also learn by being on the other side of the one person that follows these rules.
One of a great series, Good reverse Psychology.......2005-06-20
Ben Stein is one of those rare Renaissance men who seem to be able to put their talents to any task and do a good or better result. This Book is one of his better efforts! Unfortunetly, it won't be read by those folks who need it the most! (Not that I am any paragon of virtue myself.)Bless you Ben and save Ferris!
In a man's world ..........2004-06-22
... everyone is born on an even playing field, and a chirpy, positive mental attitude combined with advanced degrees automatically = big money & nice cars (which seem to be Mr. Stein's definition of success). Mr. Stein, tell that to the people I know who have Ph.D.'s from prestigious institutions, but who work for $6.00 an hour because they weren't born with the right knobby connections that obviously surrounded you from the time you first drew breath.
In a man's world, "real-world" examples in self-help books for women always include references to "making their husband a home-cooked meal for the first time in ages" and "cleaning the house", while the examples for men contain references to "doing yard work" and "working extra hours on the job."
I have to say that I was a bit surprised to find the anti-working class, anti-female bias in this book, but I was actually flabbergasted to see Mr. Stein's childish blasts against vegetarians.
Because Mr. Stein is a household pet rescuer, I find it bizarre that he hates vegetarians so much and thinks that we should be chowing down on veal (in order to not appear "holier-than-thou"??) if it is offered to us at our friends' houses. Excuse me, but all of the vegetarians I know (including myself) are the most discreet people on earth when it comes to not eating meat and would not dream of even disclosing that we are vegetarians if we are guests somewhere; preferring to come up with some polite excuse not to eat the dish served or to simply say nothing at all and push the food around the plate to make it seem like we did indeed eat. In fact, we often find *ourselves* on the receiving end of unprovoked "holier-than-thou" verbal attacks from anti-vegetarian people such as Mr. Stein as our intelligence, personalities, and very souls are attacked by people who are very defensive about vegetarianism for some reason.
The fact that there are more female vegetarians than male vegetarians and the fact that being vegetarian is seen as a "feminine" characteristic in our society surely added fuel to Mr. Stein's petulant fire.
In a man's world, this is a great book. In my world -- it's not.
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In her best-seller,
10 Bad Choices That Ruin Black Women's Lives, relationship expert Dr. Grace Cornish has written a lively, provocative guide for black women everywhere who want to shed the duds and find the studs who will treat them with respect.
According to Dr. Cornish, six out of every ten black women are either in bad relationships, share a man, or are celibate. The problem is not the women themselves, she explains, but the bad choices they keep making. In this frank and refreshing book, Dr. Cornish speaks to unique aspects of the African-American female psyche by targeting ten of the most common and foolish choices black women make in their lives regarding men, and how they can correct these problems.
Relying on case studies, interviews, and the letters she has received, Dr. Cornish gets to the heart of the matter by illuminating why black women, no matter how smart, savvy, and successful, continue to lose at the dating game, and how they can face, erase, and replace the problems that have kept them from finding true love.
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Wonderful, Wonderful, Wonderful.......2006-03-25
I ordered this book mainly from the title, description and reviews. I work in my church with young women and i thought it was a catchy title. I had a co-worker that immediately wanted it when she saw the title. I ordered it for her birthday. The incredible part is that i had a male friend that took the book before "I" read it and commented on everything. He actually enjoyed it! I could relate to a lot of things that were in there. I can't wait to read other books by her.
A real eye opener.......2006-03-12
This book is a must-read for any woman who wants to face her reality about bad relationship choices, and make a turn around for the better. I have to warn up upfront: Dr. Cornish is very straight-forward (yet compassionate at the same time). If you have personal issues and not ready to face the truth about yourself, you may get bitter when the truth sets in and try to bash the book. But if you are a level-headed person who is really seeking to better her life and relationship choices, you will love this book!
It was "required reading" for our University sociology class project. Each student had to do a thorough report and chapter-by-chapter overview of the case studies Dr. Cornish used in the book. She did a great job mapping out how our personal environment affect our personal choices, and demonstrated how "you can change your life, by changing your choice." It is basic, yet brilliant, the way she communicates in a non-threatening and helpful tone. I can see why Dr. Cornish won so many national and international awards for this and many of her other books-- she is an excellent writer!
The book is down-to-earth and easy to read-- The case studies are so honest, that many will make you rethink your life, some will make you angry at the truth, but others will make you laugh with relief. Thank you Dr. Cornish for providing such a helpful tool to show us how to prevent and/or heal from poor relationship choices. By the way, thirty-three students gave this book an excellent review! (only two out of the entire class were negative) That's exellent considering the amount of people who loved 10 BAD CHOICES. And,let's be real, "you can't please everyone all the time," but this book certainly pleased me--a big THANK YOU to Dr. Cornish for this important, eye-opening work. I love it!!! What a special gift she is to black women and all women! (I don't believe a busy celebrity like Dr. Cornish ever gets the time to read these reviews, but if she ever does, I'd like to personally say: Keep up the good work-- we certainly need and appreciate you.)
Big ol' bag of BULL. .......2006-02-26
First off, if I could give this book 0 stars, I would. Second, notice the title refers to the things black women do to mess up their lives, but all TEN mistakes are about relationships. Last I checked, women make a whooooole lot of mistakes than just sleeping with other people's men. Oops! I forgot - all black women are out to do is get rich, black husbands.
Also, there is NOTHING in this book that solely relates to black women. This easily could've been written by a woman of any race, directed to an audience of any race. The only thing Dr. Cornish mentioned that's even remotely ethnic-related was skin color, the light versus dark angle. But guess what - replace "light" and "dark" with "skinny" and "fat" and you're right back to the issues that ALL of us face as women. Is this woman honestly trying to tell us that only BLACK women sleep with married men, or sleep with men too soon, or rush into marriage too early? Please. Cornish touches very briefly on the issues of interracial relationships as well a VERY short mention on bisexual men. The way she was able to cram in so much homophobia on just a couple of short pages is a talent, indeed. As for white men, I'll spoil it for you - if the relationship the woman is having during of Cornish's little stories is ANYTHING but a black man, the dude is evil.
My problem isn't with the poor writing, the constant mention of her other book, or the repeated mentions of her TV show, the HORRIBLY annoying rhyming titles that are on EVERY...FRIGGING...PAGE, or the fact that Dr. Cornish doesn't even bother to discuss WHY some women act as they do (the only childhood trauma she touches on is her own), or the fact that some single woman is trying to tell other single women how to have successful relationships. (What's next? Is Oprah going to write a book about parenting?) My problem is her writing a general relationship advice book with was full of nothing but "no DUH" kind of so-called tips (don't sleep with a married man? WHOA, NO KIDDING!) and then pushing it off as a book solely for women of color. By painting us as a bunch of needy, gold-digging, colorstruck idiots, Dr. Cornish is no better than the TV producer she berates so heavily in the first chapter.
Easy to read but not that helpful.......2004-09-13
I found this book very interesting and easy to read. Basically, the book just gives you the juicy tidbits of the lives of others. The author refers to her appearances on Ricki Lake a lot so you can get a gist of how juicy the tidbits of information was in the book. Although I related to everything that was said in the book, I finished the book not feeling helped not one iota. Telling readers to stop a particular behavior is cookie cutter advice and common sense tells you to stop behavior but, if you could, would you be reading a book that talks about your behavior?
Excellent book Every Black woman should read.......2004-02-11
I picked this book up after a friend suggested I read it. I read a chapter a day until I finished the book. Dr. Cornish compiled some things we as black women tend to do (she even admitted making some of the same bad choices) outlines the problems, and offers wonderful suggestion to help us STOP making the same bad choices. Bottom line is you have to be willing to hold yourself accountable and admit you are making these mistakes, and be willing to stop them. She will tug at your heart when she discusses the deaths of her mother and Aunt to men, and discusses how their bad choices played a role in their deaths. Six out of every black woman are either in bad relationships, share a man or choose to be celibate. Are you one of those six women? I also feel this book is not just for black women. I think any woman can read this book and find something in this book they can use to help them make wiser life choices.
In this book she will discuss:
1. Sisters Dissin Sisters ?
I wish every black woman would read this chapter!!! It's time for the madness to stop!!! We need to stop talking about each other, and really learn to love our fellow sisters.
2. No Money, No Honey
3. Exchanging Sexual dealings for loving
4. Looking for Mr. Right in the Wrong Places
5. Using your finance to maintain his romance
6. Staying on, although the respect is gone
7. Loving the "Married Bachelor"
8. Emotional dependency, plus unplanned pregnancy
9. decent proposal/Indecent disposal
10. Getting to the Church before time
One or more of these chapters will wake you up and make you take stock of your life. Take stock of the choices you have made, and hopefully you will make better choices in the future. This is an excellent book!!!
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Love among the Ruins: The Erotics of Democracy in Classical Athens
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ASIN: 0691095221 |
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Classical Athenian literature often speaks of democratic politics in sexual terms. Citizens are urged to become lovers of the polis, and politicians claim to be lovers of the people. Victoria Wohl argues that this was no dead metaphor. Exploring the intersection between eros and politics in democratic Athens, Wohl traces the private desires aroused by public ideology and the political consequences of citizens' most intimate longings. Love among the Ruins analyzes the civic fantasies that lay beneath (but not necessarily parallel to) Athens's political ideology. It shows how desire can disrupt politics and provides a deeper--at times disturbing--insight into the democratic unconscious of ancient Athens.
The Athenians imagined the perfect citizen as a noble and manly lover. But this icon conceals a multitude of other possible figures: sexy tyrants, potent pathics, and seductive perverts. Through critical re-readings of canonical texts, Wohl investigates these fantasies, which seem so antithetical to Athens's manifest ideals. She examines the interrelation of patriotism and narcissism, the trope of politics as prostitution, the elite suspicion of political pleasure, and the status of perversion within Athens's sexual and political norms. She also discusses the morbid drive that propelled Athenian imperialism, as well as democratic Athens's paradoxical fascination with the joys of tyranny.
Drawing on contemporary critical theory in original ways, Wohl sketches the relationship between citizen psyche and political life to illuminate the complex, frequently contradictory passions that structure democracy, ancient and modern.
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Love Among the Ruins: A Novel
Robert Clark
Manufacturer: W. W. Norton & Company
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ASIN: 0393020150 |
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A beautifully written story of love, idealism, and our recent history. Amid the crises of the summer of 1968, two teenagers become lovers. Emily is a good Catholic girl, for whom an incarnate God means joy and contentment in the life of the body. William is preoccupied, in a vague sort of way, with politics and the evils of the System. Together, impelled by physical passion and the idealistic notion that "all our life is some form of religion, and all our action some belief," they run away to create a new life in the wilderness. In their absence, their parents' predictable lives take an entirely different course, and America itself seems to lose its innocence, never to be quite the same again. Not since Alice McDermott's That Night or Scott Spencer's Endless Love has there been a novel that portrays with such immediacy and respect teenagers' first love—its intensity, finely calibrated moods, and worldly innocence—and the elusive nature of adult love—its passion and fragility, comforts and betrayals.
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extraordinary work.......2004-04-06
Robert Clark's characters are so authentically identifiable that, upon reading his novels, you sometimes have the haunting feeling that he somehow knows you, too -- and knows exactly how to reach you. His portrayals of his fellow humans, so dignified by precise, loving language, make you feel honored to be included. (And a little grateful, too: He has a gift for compassion and forgiveness.)
I neither know Clark, nor am in the habit of writing reviews unless I'm especially moved. This is such a special case: an author who conveys universes with a handful of sweetly drawn individuals.
Tragic and beautiful.......2003-08-18
This book is easy to read, and not-so-easy to read at the same time. It's easy to read because the characters are so real, and there are just two major (intertwined) story lines. The reader is drawn in to the story through the narrative and attention to detail. It's difficult to read because Mr. Clark seems to display an uncanny knack for getting in the mind of 16-17 year olds - he accurately portrays the stage of life without becoming histrionic (like many other writers do). Be warned: some of the thoughts and feelings described may hit close to the bone. If you like literature that will have you examining your own feelings long after reading the final page, read this book.
Title couldn't have been more fitting.......2002-03-12
"Love Among the Ruins" is a story set in the late 1960's centered around two troubled families who live in Minnesota. In the beginning, William Lowry (17) writes a letter to Emily Byrne (16) who he's seen around and would like to get to know better. The first part of the novel sets the stage for their relationship, as they become involved. Though they're very much in love, Bill and Emily feel as if they cannot really be together with heavy issues staring them in the face such as the Vietnam draft. In the end of the first part, they decide to run away and live off the land up north.
The second portion of the novel is a look into the lives of the kids' parents as they react to their children leaving home. Then the third part takes the reader to the new life that Emily and Bill have created for themselves on an island paradise where they can be together and be "free." But, it comes with consequence. Now that they have everything they thought they wanted, Emily in particular begins to reflect back on what they've given up.
Started out good..........2001-10-23
I felt like this book started out good but then the two young "lovers" just run off together and have sex all the time. That's pretty much it. It lacked a good story line. It had a story line...just not a good one.
Wonderful Work -- Again.......2001-09-23
Robert Clark has become one of my two or three favorite contemporary American writers. I loved "In Deep Midwinter" -- having grown up in Minnesota and having experienced the environment and the people he described in that tale. And now this -- growing up and wising up -- in Minnesota in the late 1960s. Clark is a careful and thoughtful writer and his ruminations on our times, on growing old, on the whims and fancies of fate and history, of our illusions of control and of the afflictions of melancholy and the glories of love -- love of a boy for a girl, a man for a woman, a mother and father for children -- is incomparable among other writers today. I am always sad to come to the end of his books -- both because they ring so true in the end in a sad (but true) way and beause I want the story to go on and on and on. Bravo Mr. Clark. Please give us more.
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Love in the Ruins
Percy Walker
Manufacturer: Farrar Straus & Giroux
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- A love story...but so much more!
- A love story...but so much more!
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Powers of Fate: A Story of Love and Courage Born Amid the Ruins of War-Torn Italy
Mono V. D'Angelo
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A love story...but so much more!.......2003-01-12
Powers of Fate is the love story between Mario and Antonella. But it is so much more than just a love story...it's a slice of history...a story of destiny...two lives from two different worlds, eventually coming together. It provides a personal view of World War II from both a soldier's and a victim's point of view. Powers of Fate is a wonderful story of courage, survival, personal growth and the strong bonds of love and devotion of family. Reading this book is an invitation sit by the fire and look through a close friend's family album or read their diary. It's about the power of love and about all the women who left their homelands, families, and everything their lives were made of, for the sake of it.
Cecilia A. Schneider, Santa Barbara, CA
A love story...but so much more!.......2003-01-12
Powers of Fate is the love story between Mario and Antonella. But it is so much more than just a love story...it's a slice of history...a story of destiny...two lives from two different worlds, eventually coming together. It provides a personal view of World War II from both a soldier's and a victim's point of view. Powers of Fate is a wonderful story of courage, survival, personal growth and the strong bonds of love and devotion of family. Reading this book is an invitation sit by the fire and look through a close friend's family album or read their diary. It's about the power of love and about all the women who left their homelands, families, and everything their lives were made of, for the sake of it.
Cecilia A. Schneider, Santa Barbara, CA
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