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One of the country's leading researchers updates his revolutionary approach to solving--and preventing--your children's sleep problems
Here Dr. Marc Weissbluth, a distinguished pediatrician and father of four, offers his groundbreaking program to ensure the best sleep for your child. In Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child, he explains with authority and reassurance his step-by-step regime for instituting beneficial habits within the framework of your child's natural sleep cycles. This valuable sourcebook contains brand new research that
- Pinpoints the way daytime sleep differs from night sleep and why both are important to your child
- Helps you cope with and stop the crybaby syndrome, nightmares, bedwetting, and more
- Analyzes ways to get your baby to fall asleep according to his internal clock--naturally
- Reveals the common mistakes parents make to get their children to sleep--including the inclination to rock and feed
- Explores the different sleep cycle needs for different temperaments--from quiet babies to hyperactive toddlers
- Emphasizes the significance of a nap schedule
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Rest is vital to your child's health growth and development. Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child outlines proven strategies that ensure good, healthy sleep for every age. Advises parents dealing with teenagers and their unique sleep problems
Customer Reviews:
Not the best sleep book available.......2007-10-10
I purchased this book based on my doctor's recommendation when I mentioned at her 6 month appt that she was waking every 1.5-2hrs. I was completely exhausted. By 7 months I had resorted to sleeping on the floor in her room because I was so tired of walking out of my room to hers. Then eventually she was sleeping with me on a mat on the floor and it was getting so insane! But even with all this craziness she still was not sleeping. So I decided I should do something. This book was extremely confusing and contradictory. It had some good advice as far as keeping a schedule and making sure they nap and go to bed on time, but this is fairly obvious. After reading the book I didn't feel confident in following the advice. So at 8 months old I followed the advice of a friend who recommended Dr Ferber's book and it was WONDERFUL! Much more concise and gave you concrete examples and things to do. I think I liked the idea of set times and a chart to follow. So I would have to say that although this book had some useful info, it was scattered and hard to decipher, the ferber book is much better in my opinion. She is now sleeping from 7pm-7am and just waking once to feed as I have decided to work on that separately and phase it out slowly.
#1 Must have book for parents.......2007-09-29
We have used this book for both babies. Works wonders. Very informative and helpful. Buy it.
Great book.......2007-09-26
Loved this information in this book. It was very helpful, as I am a first time mother. Discusses how to get your baby into a nap cycle and sleep cycle.
healthy sleep guide.......2007-09-25
I borrowed this book from a friend and found it so informative and helpful that I had to get a copy for myself. It's an easy read as well.
Helpful despite extreme wordiness and poor organization.......2007-09-18
This book could be boiled down to 20 pages, but instead you'll have to slog through it to get the invaluable information. The author's main point is that the best thing for baby is to get lots of sleep and for parents to try and follow the baby's natural pattern. Also he recommends the "cry it out" technique after reaching the appropriate age and weight. However, if you cannot emotionally handle this technique he offers some less heavy-handed solutions. Worked well for our kid, but then we've been blessed with an "easy" baby who has never cried more than 20 minutes before nodding off.
From the book we learned that putting a baby to bed earlier can help him sleep longer in the morning. Our guy was sleeping 9 PM - 4 AM, which we stretched to 7 PM - 6 AM in ten days, simply by gradually reducing his bedtime as recommended. He was nearly four months old at the time.
The other amazing thing is that our little guy fell into his own pattern before I even read in the book that it's the normal cycle for 80% of babies. He sleeps 7 PM - 6 AM, takes two 90-120 minute naps at 8 AM and noon, and usually takes a third, half-hour nap in the afternoon. Just like it says in the book. Every baby is different, but it helped to know this was the norm.
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Whether this is pregnancy number 1 or number 10, nothing makes it easier to connect with a growing baby than knowing exactly what magical development is happening every day. Filling the need for practical information, medical data, emotional and spiritual fuel, and even "pregnancy trivia," The Pregnancy Journal is easily one of the best books available for a woman or couple expecting a baby. The journal contains about half a page of information for each day from conception through delivery. Nutrition, how to avoid discomforts associated with pregnancy, childbirth customs in other cultures, and practical parenting tips are among the topics touched on. Many days in the journal have a great section called "Did You Know"; for example, from Day 49: "The baby's arms at this point are only as long as this printed 1." At the bottom of each page is a quote from a literary or historical figure; some are sentimental, some pithy, some humorous, all inspiring.
The information and quotes seem to invite musings and speculation on the miracle unfolding inside the womb; there is some space for recording data and thoughts, but if you want to write more than just a few lines every few days, you might want to have a blank journal to accompany The Pregnancy Journal. The format of this book makes it much more manageable and inviting than most books on pregnancy, and the information is made even more accessible by the inclusion of a glossary/subject index in the back. Don't wait until the shower to give this excellent resource and thoughtful gift--moms-to-be will want to have it from the very beginning. --Katherine Ferguson
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Since its publication in 1996, this definitive journal for expectant families has sold over a million copies. Author A. Christine Harris brings a revised and thoroughly updated edition to today s parents-to-be. Still featuring daily entries, a personalized timeline, and pregnancy glossary, the revised edition provides a clearer picture of the baby's in-utero development and the latest advice about giving a growing baby every advantage prior to birth.
Customer Reviews:
I love this pregnancy journal!.......2007-10-04
I love this journal - I bought it for myself, and a girlfriend of mine, since I loved it so much! There is info about the baby every day and space to record your own thoughts and progress - lovely!
The Pregnancy Journal.......2007-09-21
This is a beautiful discovery of what happens in a woman's body throughout pregnancy and a wonderful way for you as a couple to bond with your baby. The book takes you through the journey and it is a real discovery.
Favorite Pregnancy Book.......2007-07-07
If you are looking for a blank journal - this isn't the book for you. If you are looking for a way to daily connect with the child growing within your womb - this is the perfect book for you. It was a psychological lifesaver for me. When my back was aching and nausea overwhelmed me I would often go to this book and read and it always reminded me that all the tough times of pregnancy are well worth it! I love the in depth detail on the estimated events that are happening. I realize that we all progress differently so the timing may not be perfect. However, as a nurse I am impressed with the accuracy of the material.
I have two sons and purchased a book during each pregnancy. I love reading through my notes in the books and recalling the sweet (and not so sweet) memories of pregnancy. We are planning on trying for another baby soon and this is the top book on my list! It will be a very special part of each of our children's memory chest.
The Best!.......2007-07-02
I bought this journal in 2000 for my first pregnancy and I bought it again in 2006 for my second. It's very user friendly and has just enough space to write down all the important things you want to remember. I love the day by day explanation of what's going on with my body and the baby. I highly recommend this!
wonderful!.......2007-06-27
Best pregnancy journal around...the day by day details are exciting to read and very informative.
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- this is a book that every parent should own, a baby shower gift
- The Fastest Way To Understand How To Be A More Effective Parent or Teacher
- This is the tenth copy I have bought of this book!
- Recommended
- One Important Tool for the Parental Toolbox
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Nurture by Nature: How to Raise Happy, Healthy, Responsible Children Through the Insights of Personality Type
Paul D. Tieger ,
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A groundbreaking guide that shows you how to harness the power of Personality Type to develop the parenting strategies that work with your child. Every parent knows that children, even babies, have distinct personalities. Now, with this one-of-a-kind parenting guide, Paul Tieger and Barbara Barron-Tieger show you how to use Personality Type analysis, a powerful and well-respected psychological tool, to better understand your child and become a more effective parent. You'll learn: Which of 16 distinctly different types best matches your child's personality.How this personality type affects your child in each of the three stages of development--preschool, school age, and adolescence. How you can adapt your parenting style to your child's type, and get better results when communicating, supporting, motivating, and disciplining. Whether your child is a tantrum-prone toddler, a shy third-grader, a rebellious teen, or somewhere in between, Nurture by Nature will give you the power to understand why children are the way they are--and to become the best parent you can be.
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A groundbreaking guide that shows you how to harness the power of Personality Type to develop the parenting strategies that work with your child. Every parent knows that children, even babies, have distinct personalities. Now, with this one-of-a-kind parenting guide, Paul Tieger and Barbara Barron-Tieger show you how to use Personality Type analysis, a powerful and well-respected psychological tool, to better understand your child and become a more effective parent. You'll learn: Which of 16 distinctly different types best matches your child's personality. How this personality type affects your child in each of the three stages of development--preschool, school age, and adolescence. How you can adapt your parenting style to your child's type, and get better results when communicating, supporting, motivating, and disciplining. Whether your child is a tantrum-prone toddler, a shy third-grader, a rebellious teen, or somewhere in between, Nurture by Nature will give you the power to understand why children are the way they are--and to become the best parent you can be.
Customer Reviews:
this is a book that every parent should own, a baby shower gift.......2007-05-28
How I wish I had had this book when my 28 year old daughter was born. We no longer have a relationship even tho we love each other but we are 16 (the farthest) personalities apart. I am an extreme extovert ESTJ and she is and extreme introvert (infp)just about the worst combo for mom and child. because she held it all in. She didn't have a chance to speak nor did she like conflict so it wasn't until she found a safe rock to jump to when she got engaged at 25, and she jumped all the way off my rock and never intends to return. I can't blame her looking back, but it wasn't my fault either, my biological family was definitely not introverted and I didn't know they would hold it all in. I am so sorry for what pain I caused her and never knew it, I was a great great mom,and elem teacher,but never knew my own daughter probably highly disliked me. Not until way too late, if only I had known. My heart is broken as I now have a grand daughter I will never get to be a grandmother to, and you may not understand this, but I am very extoverted and it is almost impossible for her to be around me even when I tone down 90% because of the experiences she probaby endured ages 0-5. So I'm sharing with you so you don't suffer the horrid pain I have suffered but have come to accept over the last 3 years since she married.I want only for her to be happy and I think that means she gets to be free of me :)
The Fastest Way To Understand How To Be A More Effective Parent or Teacher.......2007-04-16
I work with students in an alternative K - 12 public school. We have found that it is always necessary to improve the understanding and communication between parent and child if academic and behavioral performance is to be improved.
This book is extremely valuable in helping an adult understand the child and the child to understand him/her self.
The book makes it easy for the adult to determine the adult's and children's styles that are interacting. It then goes on, for each style of child, to provide a brief overview, and then sections dealing with preschool, school-aged, and adolescent child. Within many of these age sections the authors have a sub-section that talks about "the joys and challenges of raising the child," and concludes each type with a page that recaps what works with that particular type of child.
I read the appropriate section to a mother and student and both agreed that it was a perfect description of how the child functioned and how the parent needed to deal with the child.
The advice given in the book on how my meetings with the student could be structured to maximize the achievement of goals I had set for the meeting produced results.
I strongly recommend this book to teachers and parents that wish to make a difficult objective easier to reach.
I also suggest you review the author's other books.
I use Do What You Are: Discover the Perfect Career for You Through the Secrets of Personality Type to narrow down the types of jobs a student may be interested in before administering a career interest survey.
I use Just Your Type: Create the Relationship You've Always Wanted Using the Secrets of Personality Type to improve my understanding of how a person of my type can best interact with the type of person I am dealing with in a particular meeting or teaching / mentoring situation.
This is the tenth copy I have bought of this book!.......2005-09-14
Why? Because I give them away and wear them out with people I care about. It is that practical. OK, I admit to being a certified instructor in the Myers Briggs and a licensed children's counselor now working as a leadership development consultant, but TRULY the insights of Type have helped me to be a better parent (my most important role)to my beloved children. Try it. Take a MBTI assessment for yourself and learn about what each aspect of your own Type means. Follow thorugh with helping you child learn about their type. You will see the bridges to cross together that lead both of you into a richer, more productive relationship with greater joy.
Recommended.......2003-08-26
I bought this book before I had children because I was trying to understand my own personality a little better. Now I am trying to type my 2-year-old son-at least I am having a great time trying, even though I suspect I won't have any final answers until he is able to express himself a little more. Even at this age though, it helps me to identify different traits and not worry about the differences between him and other children in his environment. I think my son is an ESTJ and I am an INTP-so this book has helped to remind me that my son's way of relating to the world is different from mine, and that I need to consider his actions and needs in his context. Also, I like the fact that different learning styles, activity levels, and verbal abilities are discussed as well as the standard introversion vs. extroversion Myers-Briggs typing.
One Important Tool for the Parental Toolbox.......2003-05-01
It is hard to underestimate the value of understanding personality type for developing effective business, spouse, peer, and parent-child relationships. I would speculate that many family conflicts are due to different personality types not being able to communicate with one another, or a child not fitting the behavior model established by the parents or siblings. Still, this is only one tool in the parental toolbox. Personality type should not be the only tool used, it doesn't mean that the tools of common sense and tradition are totally thrown out the window, yet it is a very useful tool and one that many parents are not aware of.
If you are not familiar with personality type, this book serves as a great introduction to understanding both your own and your child's, and may well be the first of a number of books you explore in this area of psychology. If you already have some knowledge about personality type (such as having read 'Please Understand Me II' by David Keirsey), it is still worth picking up a copy of this book. You will find the specific examples and descriptions of how personality type manifests itself in children at different ages to be helpful and insightful.
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- Not "Gentle"
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Good Night, Sleep Tight: The Sleep Lady's Gentle Guide to Helping Your Child Go to Sleep , Stay Asleep, And Wake Up Happy
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Getting a young child to go to sleep and stay asleep is one of the most challenging aspects of parenting. Yet many parents resign themselves to enduring years of exhaustion. Practical help is not easy to find, and much of the available advice stresses letting even very young babies "cry it out," an option that is not comfortable for many parents. Kim West, known to her clients as The Sleep Lady®, has developed an alternative and effective approach that is gentler on both parent and child. West emphasizes that sleep is a learned skill and explains how parents can teach children to sleep, even at an early age. She starts with newborns, showing parents how to avoid sleep problems from the beginning. And she has solutions for older babies and children who have developed poor bedtime, nighttime, or nap time habits. The Sleep Lady method—including a gentle, practical, step-by-step program called The Sleep Lady Shuffle—has proven effective for hundreds of families. West has spent more than a decade successfully teaching parents how to help their children sleep soundly and independently through the night. She provides specific, achievable guidelines that work, while also taking into account the values, lifestyles, and parenting styles unique to each family. Most parents who adopt The Sleep Lady Shuffle see dramatic improvements in a few weeks, if not days. Good Night, Sleep Tight contains age-specific chapters from birth through five years old, in which West succinctly outlines what action to take; discusses important developmental changes; provides sample waking, feeding, and napping schedules; advises how to use The Sleep Lady Shuffle; and lays out common problems and solutions. Included throughout are real-life testimonies and anecdotes from parents West has assisted. Good Night, Sleep Tight also discusses co-sleeping, bedtime strategies for twins and siblings, and dealing with nightmares and illnesses. West even offers tips on how to minimize sleep disruption when families travel or experience other breaks in routine. Essential reading for any tired parent, or any expectant parent who wants to avoid the pitfalls of sleeplessness, Good Night, Sleep Tight offers a practical, gentle, easy-to-follow remedy that will work for all families in need of nights of peaceful slumber.
Customer Reviews:
Not "Gentle".......2007-10-10
I was told that this was an alternative to the CIO method but it really isn't. You just stay in the room while they scream instead of leaving. It even suggests you keep a towel handy because your child may get so upset that he/she throws up, but if that happens you are still not supposed to pick them up. I don't consider that "gentle".
A good mix of sleep strategies.......2007-09-21
I first read Babywise, which a friend had given me. We started on a flexible schedule with feedings about every three hours. This was very helpful and a good start, but after reading some negative things about the book, I wanted to read some others. There are so many different theories on sleeping and feeding! I found Good Night, Sleep Tight and really liked it because it seemed to be a good mix of the different theories. There are a few main components that almost every sleep book I've read recommends, including having a bedtime routine, putting the baby down drowsy but awake, and creating a sleep friendly environment. This book begins with those basic components and gives you additional information and resources. I like that it gives some guidance as to what a typical schedule might be like, what you might expect, etc. It's also nice to see that what you're experiencing is very normal and that there are things you can do about it. My son started sleeping through the night at about 3 months. Naps are still a little difficult to settle him down for and I just pulled the book out again to get some advice on making naps a little easier. There is a whole section of suggestions. I don't think this is a cry it out book. She creates a middle ground between letting your baby cry and responding immediately. Although we didn't need to do the "Sleep Lady Shuffle" she suggests, so I can't comment on that. You will drive yourself crazy trying to find the "right" way to do things. Read what you can and do what feels right.
not worth it.......2007-08-25
This is essentially a "cry it out" book, except she recommends staying in the room for the crying part. There is no new information I could find. So utterly not worth it. It seems that this book was written to generate sales for her individual consultation service. If you've read "No Cry Sleep Solution" and "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" you do not need this book. Just meet the ideas in the middle and realize there will be some uncomfortable nights, then spend your money on something worthwhile.
Not much help for younger babies.......2007-08-24
We bought this book when our daughter was four months old (and had it shipped overnight--we were getting desperate!). It wasn't very helpful, as it turns out. Her advice for babies this age essentially boils down to letting them cry it out, but staying in the room with them. Not particularly helpful, especially since our daughter was more hysterical when we stayed in the room with her than when we left her alone. We ended up doing more of a Ferber approach. No fun for anyone involved, but it worked.
When she was seven months old, we went on a trip, and her sleep schedule got all messed up. We got the book out again, and this time read the chapter on six- to seven-month-olds. This is the age where West introduces her Sleep Lady Shuffle. The idea is that you stay near their crib and "shh-shh-shh" at them, pat their back, whatever. It's a pretty good approach, and it seems to work for our older baby. So if you're looking for advice on how to get your six-month-old to sleep, you'll probably get some good information here. If your baby is three months old, get another book.
It's okay.......2007-08-21
I needed something to tell me how much my baby should be sleeping and to give some direction on how to help that happen. If you want to or need to impose a schedule on your baby, this book is the least dogmatic I've read. It's also okay if what you want is some general baby sleep information.
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This guide is obviously written from the heart. The tone is gentle and supportive, a big sister encouraging other lesbians to love and accept themselves and live a full life, free of fear and shame. This is a much-needed book, one the authors wish had been available when they were younger and needed advice on how to "make it" in a predominantly homophobic world. It's not preachy, clinical, or cynical. It's readable, humorous, and, most important, kind. Plus, it's chock full of useful information and resources.
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Wonderful for anyone curious about why women love women!.......2007-07-13
This book not only is for women who are coming out of the closet, but it is also for anyone who wants a real perspective on Lesbians. The writers use real world examples and experiences to the reader and give a candid understanding of Lesbian life. This is an eye opening read for anyone with questions and I am glad it was there for me to pass onto others. Read it even if you're not a lesbian and you will find out what many already know...lesbians are people just like you.
gentle, caring and informative.......2006-08-23
This book is full of valuable information for anyone, regardless of their sexual orientation. A helpful guide for individuals who are interested in learning more about themselves and others.
Although it is a guide on "how to be" you will be shown the tools to be yourself rather than a recipe to fit into a preconceived role.
Outstanding .......2006-07-24
I'm not the type to write reviews on anything but I would be a fool if I did not. This book is excellent and has enhanced my relationship with my partner. I highly recommend this book.
Newbie with lots to learn.......2006-07-22
It never occured to me that Happy and Lesbian could be in the same sentence. Through the support I have recieved and this book I now believe it is possible. This book is a whole relationship guide which is cool. Not many books take you from how to meet them to how to live with them. The history and terminology and everything included makes it a very helpful and well rounded book for everyone not just those coming out
WHERE ARE MY RAINBOW POM-POMS????.......2006-07-19
Right after I came out, I read how to be a happy lez. I walked into a gay book store in down town Long beach called Equal Writes.........I told the man standing at the counter that I had just come out and needed to learn how to be a lesbian.........he reccommended this book and a few others.......
Shortly after reading this book I had my first date with a woman @hamberger mary's in Newport Beach.......On our date I kept prattling away about how wonderful this book is..........she said "god Mel......sounds like your trying to be "the perfect lesbian", where are your rainbow pom pom's?"
I think when anyone is trying to adapt to a new culture and traffic within a new people group that they need a guide to teach them proper protocal......... I must admit I still have many questions.......I probably will until the day I die..........
What this book helped me to learn was that it's ok to be a gay woman.........its ok to love other women........I am not a pervert that should be locked in a shack in the desert and left to die........
My coming out process started years ago when I became a "fruit fly" (women who is friends with gay men but does not want to sleep with them) and started frequenting gay clubs.........when I came out to my male friends........they helped me as much as they could..........but one thing I have learned from reading this book........gay men and lesbian women come from two different countries.........We have different clubs......customs..........culture.........and languages..........a gay man can not be a lesbians tour guide through lesbian territory...........so whats a girl to do who does not know anyone it town??? How is she to meet people and find the lesbian watering hole?????
If you think you might be a lesbian........if you are a gay man and think your fag hag or fruit fly might be a lesbian..........BUY A COPY OF THIS BOOK NOW!!!!!!!!!! Count all of the quarters trapped between your sofa cushon and buy this book!!!!!!!! Buy a pizza or chineese take out next week...........but BUY THE BOOK TODAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!! This truly is a guide that will answer many of the questions you may have.........and atleast it will give you a good vocabulary and knowledge base to begin further research...........
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Great insight on the dynamics of boys. .......2007-07-05
This book was funny and easy to ready. More importantly it was extremely insightful. I loved it. As a single mom, I need really appreciated the candor and no-nonsense approach the author took.
This is a great book for understanding boys.......2007-02-27
I bought this book because it became clear to me that I do not understand my 3 year old son and I realized it would only become worse as he grew older if I didn't at least try to figure out what is going on from his perspective.
I think that this book really tells it like it is. He doesn't sugar coat it. I also think the person who took offense to his saying boys should stay out of daycare until 3 years old did not read the book very carefully. He does not say that mothers should not work, he says boys should not be put in institutionalized day care settings but that good home based day care or staying with a family member is acceptable. I've read this in other books as well that boys just don't do well in daycare they really need one on one close time with a single, consistent care-giver be it mom, dad, grandma or a home day care.
This book also says many times how it is not trying to put women down or trying to set back the women's movement, it is just trying to show how boys are different. I have already noticed this with my children. I have two girls and a boy and I quickly picked up that my son is 6 months to 12 months behind his older sister in his speaking, reasoning and his ABCs. I talked to his preschool teacher about it and was relieved to find out it is normal for boys to be behind girls and the teacher said exactly what this author says, boys catch up somewhere in middle school but until then they are 6-12 months behind girls emotionally and academically. My son has a September birthday and I will be holding him out a year to start kindergarten at 6 instead of 5. I have already seen it in his preschool class how boys are treated, unwillingly as defective girls. Girls take to things like circle time and learning while boys would rather vroom cars and build block towers. I agree whole heartedly with the author that boys acting out in preschool is because they are anxious or stressed out. Girls withdraw when stressed, boys act out, often aggressively.
If you are ready to hear what this author says then buy the book. He is very strong on dad being a big part of a boys life and goes as far to say if dad is working 55 to 65 hours a week he won't cut it as a dad. This is hard stuff to hear, but if you want your son to grow up to be a good man it will take sacrifice on everyone's part. If we want our daughters to marry good men we need to make sure that we are raising good sons.
not recommended as very one sided.......2007-02-25
i started reading this book and became very distraught as the information the book was implying that I am in for all sorts of trouble and my baby will be emotionally unnavailable if he goes to day care before 3 years old. And this is what ig got in the first 30 pages. I also found as I am a single mum, it had little to no consideration to me (2 pages), and most children these days are brought up by separated parents or single parents, and generally the mother is the sole carer. Luckily for me my mum is a psychologist for relationships and children and clearly expained all you need to give is love and good base foundation with clear rules and be available for your son, and also agreed that this book should not be taken as gospel nor correct and it is very one-sided. for a best selling book, i thought it was terrible
Not quite up to the press. . .. .......2006-11-10
I much prefered "Raising Cain" over this book. There was no real new information, and little advice worth noting.
we've been Doing It Wrong for decades ~ and EveryOne is.......2006-08-20
paying a terrible price...
since when did the feminist yada get turned into Girls Are Better? It's all about girls having equal opportunities blah blah blah...
i never knew WHAT they were talking about -
it's GREAT to be a girl if you're a girl; it's great to be a guy if you're a guy!
why neuter everyone out???
no one seemed to be noticing the father problems running rampant in the life histories of the strident feminists...
unless you cure cancer or win the oscar, all this Women Can Work Too just lead to an insane rise in the cost of buying a house so that women HAD to work if they wanted a nicer home in a better school district...
Way To Go... that's what can happen when women charge ahead without consulting the men...
which just turned the tables, and didn't improve a Thing...
it seemed stupid... but in the last 10-15 years, it's clearly been destructive to be anti-boy, anti-male...
so now the books of single women are titled "Are Men Necessary?"
No... no one is necessary... but if we're gonna be in this thing at all, we might as well be in it Together...
Book Description
Parents were here first! How did the kids suddenly take control? Sure the world has changed from the days when children were supposed to be seen and not heard but things have gotten a little out of hand. What about some quality time for the grownups? Author Christie Mellor's hilarious, personal, refreshing, and actually quite useful advice delightfully rights the balance between parent and child. In dozens of short, wickedly funny chapters, she skewers today's parental absurdities and reminds us how to make child-rearing a kick. With recipes, helpful hints, and illustrations, this high-spirited book is the only book parents will really need and enjoy.
Customer Reviews:
Not what I expected..........2007-09-28
This is not a funny commentary on raising children as I expected. While I agree with many of the author's basic principles, it was really more of a rant than anything else. I didn't learn anything from the book that I didn't already know (yes, I let my children rule my life more than she thinks I should, but not nearly as much as shown in this book and certainly a lot less than many people around me). I expected a much funnier look at how parents give their lives to their kids.
The author is filled with contempt for all small creatures.......2007-09-19
I was looking forward to this book because I enjoy reading the humorous accounts of parenthood, and I have a pretty healthy sense of humor. This author, however, is mean-spirited in her writing and it seems as if her view of children is merely to raise silent slaves who will fetch your slippers. There is so much contempt in her writing style and she never breaks from her sarcastic, cold tone in order to show any warm humor. You can be funny and still maintain warmth and affection for the subject. This author apparently dislikes her children and all children she has encountered.
As if her contempt for children isn't enough, she puts the cherry on the sundae by displaying her contempt for cats and dogs. Her venom is particularly strong toward cats. I came away from the book feeling as if she hates any creature under five feet tall.
I feel sorry for her family, friends, neighbors, or anyone else who must endure this woman's selfish attitude toward life.
Don't waste the money on this book. I'm astounded that it even got published. The author mentions her love of alcohol so much that I'm beginning to think the only way to enjoy the book is to be drunk while reading it.
Dreadful!
Refreshing!.......2007-08-03
Like a couple of the reviewers in here, I wish I had thought of writing this book! But I don't drink martinis, but do pina colodas count? I finished this book in one hour ~~ a miracle in itself because I normally don't get an hour to read. But since this is the August book club choice and I am a moderator of it ~~ I really needed to read it. And it definitely made my night ~~ with chapters like: Screaming: Is It Necessary? Child Labor: Not Just for the Third World (something I've been trying to tell my kids for three years now ... and this mommy's going to go on strike soon if they don't learn that picking up their toys is very important to a family's health!). There's a chapter on traveling with your kids, and one of my favorites is: Karate, Little League and Ballet: Your Child's Eighty-Hour Week. I just love it all!
This is a tongue-in-cheek book about parenting. It is not meant to be taken so seriously that you think the author doesn't like kids. No, the point of this book is to emphasize that moms (and dads) have the right to enjoy "adult" things like having a martini before dinner, have an uninterrupted conversation with other adults, and to tell the kids to go find something to do while mommy takes a nap, read a book or whatever else that mommy wants to do. Yes, kids are a big and important part of our lives, but they do not need to dominate the entire day. It's about moms and dads taking back part of their lives ~~ and it's refreshing to read this book!
So if you will excuse me ~~ it's time for me to drink a cup of hot tea and read while the kids are playing.
P.S. I would definitely recommend this book for all of your mom friends ~~ young and old. The truths carries over to all generations, well, except the kids, of course.
8-3-07
Perfect gift for a friend with kids--especially if you don't have any.......2007-07-17
Based on the recommendation of a friend, I bought this as a gift for friends of mine who have a 4-year old. They loved it. I read it before I sent it to them, and laughed out loud all the way through. The Three-Martini Playdate will help your friends take parenthood a little less seriously--in a good way.
Terrible!.......2007-06-13
I enjoy this genre of humorous, light parenting book but this was just not funny. The author is very opinionated with her approach to parenting but does not offer any usable advice to help achieve her parental goals. Her blanket suggestions are ridiculous and I know of no family that could follow them. And if she is just trying to be funny, I guess I just don't get her sense of humor.
Book Description
Ever since Eve asked Adam, "Do I look fat in this fig leaf?" it has been apparent that husbands don't know how to relate to their wives. Men believe they understand women and vice versa, but really men know as much about women as a cocker spaniel knows about assembling a Weber grill.
Welcome to The Mr. & Mrs. Happy Handbook, Steve Doocy's laugh-out-loud perspective on love, marriage, and family. The book can be used for its hilarious husband and wife wisdom or, if things aren't going well, as a projectile to get somebody's attention. This is not an advice book. It is a don't even think of trying this book. The author, his family, and his collection of friends (some very famous in the worlds of entertainment, business, and politics) have already discreetly made almost every conceivable marriage mistake, and it is their hope that this irrev- erent manual can save you the trouble of being an idiot on your own.
Doocy, co-host of Fox & Friends, who has been married for twenty consecutive years, provides real slice-of-life stories on everything from early marriage ("I love you, you're perfect, now wear this thong") and pregnancy ("You're eating for two? Who— you and Shaquille O'Neal?") to sending your child to college ("Is that a funnel?") and retirement (high-fiber appetizers on Viagra dates). Most of the stories conclude with "corrections" and additional wise words from Doocy's real-life wife, Kathy, who, after two decades of picking up Steve's socks in the garage, has developed a zany sense of humor herself.
There is also a handy troubleshooting section for when things go haywire, like during the eye- opening experiment undertaken especially for this book, wherein the author wanted to prove to his wife that they were perfect for each other, so he had them join an on-line dating service. Out of a database of several hundred thousand guys, he was not in her top 532 local men. Despite the fact that their one- month experiment ended a year ago, she's still getting photographs of single men whose head shots appear to have been taken at a recent skinhead convention. Luckily for him, she still prefers "bonehead to skinhead."
This book is a celebration of the pageantry that is wedlock, which starts with an "I do" and sometimes ends with a boiled rabbit. Let's face it, marriage isn't always as smooth as a forty-year-old's forehead after six months of Botox. In fact, marriage is ridiculously hard, but laughing about it is now incredibly easy with The Mr. & Mrs. Happy Handbook.
Customer Reviews:
A great book- the laughs never stop........2007-10-10
I read the whole thing in one night- it was great. Could not stop laughing. This one goes on my gift giving list.
Boring.......2007-06-27
I like watching Steve Doocy on Fox & Friends but this book is a disappointment. It's not funny and is actually quite boring. Too bad - he's a funny guy on TV.
AWESOME! .......2007-06-19
How can you not love this guy?!?!? It is nice to be reminded that there are still some traditional, GOOD people out there. A great, funny read.
amusing tidbits of life.......2007-05-19
Note to Steve Doocy - dude, did you make up some of this? Come on, all of this really happened to you and your wife? This book is filled with mars/venus type philosophy and anecdotes from various stages of marriage. Clearly Mr and Mrs Happy are generally, though not always, happy, and they appear to be one united team. I wish Mrs Happy had written more from her perspective.
Haven't had time 2 look at it yet!.......2007-03-22
Highly recommended by friends. So I bought one for myself (even though I'm divorced!!!)and one for a friend.
Customer Reviews:
Use good sense.......2007-06-27
As a seminary educated pastor, I do recognize that a number of Bible verses are used out of context (a problem not unique to this book). At the same time, Christian critics of the book also seem to poorly interpret Scripture in their critiques.
This is my recommendation: Weigh what is said against the best psychological research and Scripture. As it relates to Scripture, understand that many verses are used out of context, but what is said in the book may still be consistent with Scripture. If you think a teaching in the book is against Scripture, find a verse to support your idea, then ask yourself: Is this verse/passage really against this idea or am I making this up? Use direct teaching passages (like NT letters), because you are likely to find "principles" that the Bible isn't really teaching if you think you "found" a parenting principle from a story, parable, OT Law, or prophecy in the Bible.
No book is perfect, but overall I certainly like the book. It is well worth considering.
Was Jesus bottlefed and forced to cry it out?.......2007-05-18
Was Jesus bottlefed and forced to cry it out? Didn't think so. It's funny how some Christians think that it is damaging to the family unit to respect your baby's needs. Those needs being: Breastfeeding, bedding close to the mother, and not having to cry it out. This book explains how we as humans were designed by GOD to feed our babies with our breasts and keep them near us when we sleep.
Damaging to Family Unit.......2007-02-03
I bought this book thinking it would be a good health manual with a christian perspective but I was very disappointed.
From a christian perspective, I found it shocking that it took several scriptures out of context in developing their permissive-parenting philosophies. Young babies are to be centre of the family (and marriage), rather than equal members. No helping babies to develope in the way they should go. I think this book could be damaging to the core unit called "family" if fully embraced.
Try a more balanced parenting style (not the extremes of demand or schedule feeding) like that which is found in "Secrets of the baby Whisperer" or "Babywise 1".
Worth The Purchase.......2007-01-16
I enjoyed reading parts of the book. Very extensive and detailed. It showed the viewpoints of what a doctor would suggest and what the Lord suggests. In addition, it gives you bible verses and suggested prayers. It has made me more focused to be an effective Christian parent.
Infants.......2006-10-27
I am very concerned by the reviews which seem to suggest that something is wrong with a book that discourages disipline of infants. I understand wanting to raise well disciplined kids. But, babies are different.
Research has shown time and time again that babies CAN NOT be disciplined safely (crying it out is one example) or through other means, without risks both in the short them and the long run. Yes, babies who sleep through the night are a blessing, but not all can do this and they do not have the cognitive ability to learn good behavior through discipline. Besides which if you have a baby in the room with you at night it is less stress for everyone, babies have little tummies and are soothed by closenesss and mom doesn't have to go upstairs several times a night to feed an infant who might have been hungry for ages or isn't hungry yet.
I don't understand how this idea is in conflict with Christian thinking or why this research has been seen by one reviewer as in conflict with religion.
Book Description
Meet Annie Choi. She fears cable cars and refuses to eat anything that casts a shadow. Her brother thinks chicken is a vegetable. Her father occasionally starts fires at work. Her mother collects Jesus trading cards and wears plaid like it's a job. No matter how hard Annie and her family try to understand one another, they often come up hilariously short.
But in the midst of a family crisis, Annie comes to realize that the only way to survive one another is to stick together . . . as difficult as that might be. Annie Choi's Happy Birthday or Whatever is a sidesplitting, eye-opening, and transcendent tale of coping with an infuriating, demanding, but ultimately loving Korean family.
Customer Reviews:
pretty awesome esp. if you grew up with a crazy asian mom.......2007-10-02
hilarious and heartfelt, Annie Choi's book made me laugh out loud, and explained to the rest of the world what it's like to grow up Asian American or specifically, with nutty but loving parents who can barely communicate with you. Except in "Engrish" that is. However, the funniest thing she has written in my opinion was her "Open Letter To Architects" which is not in this collection. Good stuff though.
A bucket of laughs and gems :).......2007-07-31
What a great read! Almost every other page of Annie Choi's "Happy Birthday of Whatever" got me laughing to tears. Annie Choi does a wonderful job of putting humor and a little exaggerated drama in describing her relationship w/ her parents, especially that with her mother. Pick it up - you won't be disappointed!
Annie is so Good.......2007-06-20
The book is funny. The writer is so clean in her prose, so elegant in her descriptions, and so honest in her feelings. The book is moving. It is the story of a daughter with a blueprint to her mother's heart and roads that will lead beyond it. I highly recommend this book: because it is pertinently funny and universally accurate as a work on how we learn from the women who believe: will always be.
I wish I had written this!.......2007-05-29
Touching, sweet, and best of all, funny! As a first generation Korean- American, I thought many of the scenes could have been lifted from my own childhood. I look forward to Ms. Choi's future work.
Funny!.......2007-05-15
Very funny book -- crazy/real situations and Choi has a good turn of phrase. More than a few parts had me laughing out loud like a crazy woman. Definitely looking forward to what she writes next.
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