Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and Other Realities of Adolescence

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A great book for moms of preteen girls

A must-read to understand adolescent girls OR boys!

Realistic and honest

A "must read" for every parent!!!

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Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and Other Realities of Adolescence
Rosalind Wiseman
Manufacturer: Three Rivers Press
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ASIN: 1400047927
Release Date: 2003-03-04

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The Basis for the Movie Mean Girls
PARENTS CAN MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN GIRL WORLD

Do you feel as though your adolescent daughter exists in a different world, speaking a different language and living by different laws? She does.

This groundbreaking book takes you inside the secret world of girls’ friendships, translating and decoding them, so parents can better understand and help their daughters navigate through these crucial years. Rosalind Wiseman has spent more than a decade listening to thousands of girls talk about the powerful role cliques play in shaping what they wear and say, how they feel about school, how they respond to boys, and how they feel about themselves. In this candid and insightful book, Wiseman discusses:

• Queen Bees, Wannabes, Targets, Torn Bystanders, and others: how to tell what role your daughter plays and help her be herself
• Girls’ power plays, from birthday invitations to cafeteria seating arrangements and illicit parties, and how to handle them
• Good popularity and bad popularity: how cliques bear on every situation
• Hip Parents, Best-Friend Parents, Pushover Parents, and others: examine your own parenting style, “Check Your Baggage,” and identify how your own background and biases affect how you relate to your daughter
• Related movies, books, websites, and organizations: a carefully annotated resources section provides opportunities to follow up on your own and with your daughter

Enlivened with the voices of dozens of girls and parents and a welcome sense of humor, Queen Bees and Wannabes is compelling reading for parents and daughters alike. A conversation piece and a reference guide, it offers the tools you need to help your daughter feel empowered and make smarter choices.

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A great book for moms of preteen girls.......2007-06-08

This book was such an eye opener. It helped me to not only understand where my girls are right now but also helped me understand some of the things I experienced as a girl in middle and highschool. I think every mother of a preteen daughter should read this book.

A must-read to understand adolescent girls OR boys!.......2007-05-07

Though this book is intended for parents, anyone who spends time with young people- mentors, teachers, program administrators, etc.- will benefit from the insights and detailed instructions contained in this highly readable volume!

It is clear that Ms. Wiseman has done her homework. Working with diverse groups of teenagers for years myself and having been one not THAT long ago) I recognize and relate to the characters and conflicts she describes and value the advice she offers.

If you've seen the movie, MEAN GIRLS, which was based on this book, you've gotten a small taste of what's addressed here- cliques, fads, teen politics, gossip, sex, and parental influence- but there's lots more!

And for those of us who are raising boys to be honorable and respectful young men, Queen Bees and Wannabes is a terrific resource, too.

I've often heard that there is no "manual" for raising kids. I respectfully disagree- there are MANY manuals for raising kids and this is the best one I've read dealing with adolescents and teens.

READ it and encourage others to do so. The young people in your life will thank you for it!

Realistic and honest.......2007-04-20

I am a 25 year-old girl who has experienced many of the situations cited in this book, either as the target or the bully. I grew up an overweight, unpopular, artsy little girl. In the 8th grade, I lost a ton of weight, grew, and my clothes became trendy. Needless to say, things changed. With one easy swoop, I went from victim to bully. Only now, as a (young) adult, I come to terms with both my nerdy, victim past and my mean girl high school years, with the help of this book. As other reviwers noted, most teenage girls will probbaly experience both sides of the scenario and often are a combination of the traits lised for each of the diff. person. types. As others noted with this book, there is no judgement imposed on the "mean girls". Most girls have "mean" moments, no matter how quiet, shy or unassuming, and I think Wiseman portrays this accurately. Sometimes, the worst bullying is from girls who simply follow others or stealthily do things, like not inviting someone out with a group of friends or not being honest because they're too "nice". I find it completely annoying that alot of the mothers/teachers/family friends/etc. who are commenting on here refuse to believe that their daughtes/students are not like that. ALL girls, or kids, are to some degree. It doesn't make them evil or not great kids. It makes them human. You can still be "hysterically funny, kind, emotional, creative and most of all INDIVIDUALS" as one reviwer wrote but still have mean girl moments. I don't think Wiseman oversimplifies. I think alot of the parents and teacher do in their reviews. Kids are much more complex than being good or bad. The mean girls need love too and have problems as well. I'd like to believe that some people are just mean and that's it but that's often not the case. Some are defensive or have family problems or are insecure or are being abused or may be depressed. Wiseman doesn't demonize anyone in this book, which I find great. In addition, to the reviewer who said she has no credentials and should not be writing about this, as a youngish adult woman, I'd rather have someone who knows what goes on and is close in age commenting on this stuff than someone who is out of touch.

A "must read" for every parent!!!.......2007-04-01

It can be painful to look back honestly at your junior high and high school experiences. But it will better enable you to help your children navigate through those emotionally turbulent years. Rosalind Wiseman has the personal and professional experience to guide any reader to a better understanding of the pitfalls and landmines on this journey. She offers not only her words, but the words of many 11-21 year olds that are currently in the trenches. Very interesting, very insightful, and seemingly dead on target. A surprisingly easy read although the subject matter is almost gruesome at times, in the degree of painful insight it offers.

Disappointed.......2007-02-28

Just not that impressed with this book. The write-up was much better than the book itself. Superficial. Will be selling my copy as used.

I'm Not Mad, I Just Hate You!: A New Understanding of Mother-Daughter Conflict

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What a relief!
highly recommended for parents of teen girls
Great advice if your kids perfect already!
No, I'm not going crazy!
best book re teenage girls

I'm Not Mad, I Just Hate You!: A New Understanding of Mother-Daughter Conflict
Roni Cohen-Sandler , and Michelle Silver
Manufacturer: Penguin (Non-Classics)
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ASIN: 0140286004
Release Date: 2000-02-28

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If you are a mother and many of your conversations with your teenage daughter begin with a rolling of eyes, move into shrieked insults, and end with a door slam, I'm Not Mad, I Just Hate You! could save you both. As Roni Cohen-Sandler and Michelle Silver illustrate, even if you often seem to be living on two different planets, conflict does not have to define your relationship.

Cohen-Sandler, a clinical psychologist specializing in issues of women and adolescent girls, and Silver, senior editor of Girls' Life magazine, have done mothers a great service with this thoroughly researched book. Their main point is simple: arguments are bound to occur, but if approached correctly, confrontation can actually lead to deeper mutual understanding and a stronger mother-daughter bond. Consistently working through battles also demonstrates a sense of constancy that will offer good lessons for future relationships. Through case studies, exercises, and detailed scenarios, the authors describe the most effective ways to communicate about such loaded topics as dating, sexuality, drugs and alcohol, and peer pressure, paying particular attention to the "classic battle starters": the state of her bedroom, her clothing, and her makeup and jewelry choices. Other in-depth chapters focus on the right and wrong ways to respond to verbal attacks and the importance of choosing battles wisely. Some of their advice will not be easy to follow, especially when the fight is on, but if some effort is exerted, these tips should help mothers and daughters not only survive, but even enjoy, the teen years.

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Almost without exception, the teen years are tumultuous for both girls and their mothers. Teen girls, who are socialized to stifle their anger and avoid confrontation, frequently take out their frustration on their mothers as the only safe and available targets. The good news is that with patience and the right guidance, mothers can transform the teenage years into positive ones and enrich the mother- daughter relationship. "I'm Not Mad, I Just Hate You!" combines the expertise of a clinical psychologist (who has worked with women and adolescent girls for more than twenty years) with that of a senior editor at a leading teen magazine. The book demonstrates how mother-daughter friction during adolescence, managed creatively, empowers girls by teaching them invaluable skills and can even foster intimacy. Discussion of social, emotional, cultural, and psychological issues is interwoven with the voices of mothers and daughters in case studies that are illuminating and reassuring. In the wake of widely popular books exposing the perils adolescent girls face, "I'm Not Mad, I Just Hate You!" provides mothers with much-needed practical strategies to help their daughters grow into emotionally healthy and capable adults. At the same time, women will encourage loving and lifelong connections with their daughters.

Customer Reviews:

What a relief!.......2007-03-28

This past summer my husband and I were devastated with our 16 yr old daughter's sudden behavior change. It was horrible. I went on Amazon to try and find some books on parenting teens in today's day and found this one. What a relief! As I was reading the case studies I cried, I swore they were some of my experiences word for word. If anything this book gave me comfort in knowing that I was not crazy and I was not alone. It also gave examples of the appropriate way to respond to different situations(in addition to counseling and a lot of praying). I've since recommended this book to our pastor and two other mothers who had sudden similar experiences. This is a must read for any mother with a teenage daughter!

highly recommended for parents of teen girls.......2006-06-03

I really learned alot from this book & plan on reading it again. It helped me adjust my parenting techniques with my 13 year old daughter and also made me feel better about myself. I have told many people to read this book, it is very well written and really helps a parent with the adolecent girl.

Great advice if your kids perfect already!.......2003-02-19

I wouldn't have bought this book if I wasn't dealing with a VERY defiant, and manipulative teenage daughter--so when this book assumes that I can just say the right thing and everything will be fine, is an absolute joke! This advice would be great if it worked as simply as the book says. But if you already have a tough kid, these tips are NOT going to suddenly make her see the logic in my rules. Kids don't care about the explaination of why it's wrong to dress trashy or wear too much makeup...they want what they want. This book assumes that your kid obeys you in the first place! The title really drew me in--I thought that I had finally found a book that understood what I am going through. But it's just another below-average parenting book with a catchy title!

No, I'm not going crazy!.......2000-12-20

I thought I going was nuts, not knowing how to parent my pre-teen. At last, a book to let me know I was not going crazy by myself, that it is perfectly normal what we are going through, why I as the mom am the target and spring board for her growing up. It also gives ideas on how to rethink parenting, your responses to issues. It shows why "I" the mom am the only one, cuz I'm the closest one to her, that she is 'experimenting with life' off of. I don't feel so alone, I'm okay, and can see why I get the backwash, and the testing. I highly recommend this book to other moms and also dads too, so they can understand the battle while they watch from the sidelines.

best book re teenage girls.......2000-03-08

At a time when I was ready to give up on being a mother till my teen "grew up", this book was a godsend. My feelings of desperation, confusion, loss, and wondering where I went wrong were all validated. I have already started trying techniques recommended. Even if it doesn't change my daughter, my perception has changed so that I'm better able to cope. Very readable (not a bunch of jargon) I'd recommend it to any mother of a teenage girl. The only reason I didn't give 5 stars was because there were no illustrations. Of course, as an adult I don't have to have them, but I like them. Sometimes a well-placed cartoon helps to illustrate a point. It may be the authors thought illustrations are inappropriate for their book.

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Great book!!!
Another solid performance from Gardner
Not her best
Better than The Perfect Husband
detective story

The Other Daughter
Lisa Gardner
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ASIN: 0553576798
Release Date: 1999-07-06

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What you don't know can kill you.

In Texas a serial killer is executed, taking to his grave the identity of his only child.

In Boston a nine-year-old girl is abandoned in a hospital, then adopted by a wealthy young couple.

Twenty years later, Melanie Stokes still considers herself lucky. Until...

Until the terrifying visions begin.

Until a has-been reporter starts investigating her past.

Until the first note arrives saying YOU GET WHAT YOU DESERVE.

Melanie had lost all memory of her life before the adoption, and now someone wants to give it back. Even if it includes the darkest nightmare the Stokes family ever faced: the murder of their first daughter in Texas. As Melanie pursues every lead, chases every shadow in the search for her real identity, two seemingly unrelated events from twenty years ago will come together in a dangerous explosion of truth. And with her very life at stake, Melanie will fear that the family she loves the most may be the people she should trust the least.

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Twenty years later

She was late, she was late, oh, God, she was so late!

Melanie Stokes came bounding up the stairs, then made the hard left turn down the hall, her long blond hair whipping around her face. Twenty minutes and counting. She hadn't even thought about what she was going to wear. Damn.

She tore into her room with her sweatshirt half pulled over her head. A strategic kick sent the heavy mahogany door slamming shut behind her as she shed the first layer of clothes. She toed off her tennis shoes and sent them sailing beneath the pine bureau that swallowed nearly a quarter of her bedroom. A lot of things came to rest beneath the battered dresser. One of these days she meant to clean it out. But not tonight.

Melanie hastily shimmied out of her ripped-up jeans, tossed her T-shirt onto the sleigh bed, and hurried to the closet. The wide plank floorboards felt cool against her toes, making her do a little cha-cha-cha along the way.

"Come on," she muttered, ripping back the silk curtain. "Ten years of compulsive shopping crammed into one five-by-five space. How hard can it be to locate a cocktail dress?"

To judge by the mess, pretty hard. Melanie grimaced, then waded in fatalistically. Somewhere in there were a few decent dresses.

At the age of twenty-nine, Melanie Stokes was petite, capable, and a born diplomat. She'd been abandoned as a child at City General Hospital with no memory of where she came from, but that had been a long time ago and she didn't think of those days much. She had an adoptive father whom she respected, an adoptive mother whom she loved, an older brother whom she worshiped, and an indulgent godfather whom she adored. Until recently she had considered her family to be very close. They were not just another rich family, they were a tight-knit family. She kept telling herself they would be like that again soon.

Melanie had graduated from Wellesley six years earlier with her family servi

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Great book!!!.......2007-05-13

I'm relatively new to Lisa Gardner books, this was only the second one I've read. I loved it! She knows how to create a main character that is really likeable, and I found myself rooting for her in the end. Great book with lots of surprises.

Another solid performance from Gardner.......2007-05-08

Lisa Gardner is a talented, dependable author. Her stories are riveting and a sheer pleasure to read. The Other Daughter is no exception. This is a hard story to try and give a synopsis for. There are so many turns and twists, you think you have it figured out, then it abruptly makes a sharp turn on you and goes off in a different direction. The one thing I can say about the story, is that it's worth the price of the book.

Melanie has grown up knowing that she was adopted by Dr. Stokes and his wife. She was found abandoned in the ER department when she was 9, with no knowledge of who she was or where she came from. The Stokes already have an older son, Brian, and they had a daughter once, but she was murdered by a serial killer. That serial killer would be none other than Melanie's biological father.....or was it? There is so much that can't be expounded upon in this review or I will give away all the fun. Just know that this book takes off after the first couple of pages and never looks back.

The cast of characters are interesting, real, and easy to love and/or hate. Ms. Gardner takes the time to develop her heroes and villians into people cheer for and loath. I gave the book a 4 star rating because I felt that the quickness in which our heroine fell in love with our G-man was silly and unrealistic. Take that out of the equation and you have mystery/suspense masterpiece. Give it a try, I think you'll love it.

Not her best.......2007-04-12

I'm glad I read Lisa Gardner's more recent books first because I would have never believed that the same person wrote this book. Gardner certainly has come a long way with her writing. Melanie is an overdramatic, slightly hysteric romance novel heroine (not surprising since Gardner started out writing romances). The supporting characters are two dimensional and the dialogue is just over the top at times. While I usually read Gardner's books quickly, this one was hard to get through.

The characters in Gardner's recent books are more highly developed and believable as is the dialogue and plot. I don't think I will be reading any more of her early books.

Better than The Perfect Husband.......2007-03-22

While not a great story in my opinion, it was far better than Gardner's previous tale. I will admit that I originally gave up about half way through. I put the book away, read 2 or 3 other books by other authors then decided to come back to it.

I saw the ending coming a mile away. The connection between the original killer and some other characters was as plain as the nose on your face. If you don't see it coming, are you really reading the story?

I've heard the rest of her books are better than this. I hope so. So far I'm not impressed with Gardner.

detective story.......2007-02-11

I love the way Lisa Garndner writes and her stories, this book was no exception. It is a very fast paced story and a great read.

Father to Daughter: Life Lessons on Raising a Girl

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A fun little book for fathers-to-be
basic instructions
Brilliant Wisdom
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I'm sorry, Mr. Harrison- this one was a swing and a miss

Father to Daughter: Life Lessons on Raising a Girl
Harry H. Harrison Jr.
Manufacturer: Workman Publishing Company
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ASIN: 0761129774

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As a former boy, a father immediately understands why his son builds a tower of blocks, calls it a boom crane, and then knocks it down. But why does his daughter build the same tower, call it an ice-cream cone, and then offer a taste? As Harry Harrison, author of the chunky little bestseller Father to Son, would suggest, fathers of daughters should simply enjoy that imaginative treat, and every other she's likely to dream up.

Filled with short, sweet, inspirational words of wisdom, Father to Daughter is a book of guidance for Dads on loving, shaping-and learning to comprehend-their inscrutable little girls. Divided into stages from infancy on up, it offers a pithy lesson on every page. Helpful reassurance: Tickle her, play with her, give her piggyback rides. She's not breakable. Advice on passing down skills: Show her how to climb up a tree. Also, how to climb down. Your role: Be home for dinner on time. This is very important. Make sure she knows she can call you at any time and you will go get her. This is why the cell phone was invented. Guideposts, both material and spiritual: Give her a piggybank when she's little. She's never too young to learn the value of saving. And, Help her understand that there's more to life than wearing the right jeans. And finally: Prepare for the day when you're not the most important man in her life.

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A fun little book for fathers-to-be .......2007-01-02

I received this book in the mail recently and read it in about 20 minutes. It is about 300 or so short pieces of advice for fathers of girls in various stages of development. The quotes are variously witty, funny, instructive, and serious on the challenge men face in raising healthy girls to be self-assured young women. Two thumbs up.

basic instructions.......2006-11-15

I was disappointed with this book for several reasons. I bought this book because I have a one year old daughter and was searching for some insight on how to better bond with her as she ages. This book gave basic instructions that even a teenage parent would know, (if that makes any sense). The book is written on a middle school reading level and did not go into specifics about raising a daughter, it only gave very broad advice. I bought this book for only .46 cents and it was a waste of money. Since the book measures 6 inches by 6 inches I guess it will make a good paper weight ! Not recommended

Brilliant Wisdom.......2006-06-20

I bought this book for my husbands first fathers day this year. I wrote inside that it was the instruction booklet that came with his now four month old daughter.

The only problem I have with the book... I introduce her to the Beatles I named her after a Beatles song "Dear Prudence"

Great Pocket Book.......2006-06-16

At first, I thought this was a silly gift my husband received when I was pregnant with our daughter. I decided to take a look at it, and its such a beautiful book. It has very simple ideas and advice, but very important life lessons.

The whole book is full of common sense ideas, but they are things that get overlooked and forgotten. Every dad should be forced to read this as part of soon-to-be-daddy training.

I'm sorry, Mr. Harrison- this one was a swing and a miss.......2006-06-06

After stumbling upon, at a relative's house, this collection of corny attempts to be witty and creative, I was shocked at how blatantly stereotypical and sexist this book was once I read it cover-to-cover.
Although there were one or two cute trinkets, I particularly remember the following lines much more strongly:

* Mom will introduce her to classical music- you let her listen to the Beatles

* Remember, if you tell a boy not to play with the electrical outlet, he will stomp off or do it anyway. A girl will cry.

* Cheer for her team. Even though they may be called the Pansies.

* Teenage girls spend hours doing something in their rooms. No man has ever figured it out.

* She may look cute, but her diaper can be as challenging as any boy's.

There was also another about letting her mother have time alone with her, and one about protecting her from boys.

In conclusion,
Sure, this book is wonderful- if you live in the 50's......

GIRLS WILL BE GIRLS: RAISING CONFIDENT AND COURAGEOUS DAUGHTERS

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Nothing new here
a must read
Exploring Feminine Mysteries
You Go Girl!
Finally--Sensible Advice in Readable Form!

GIRLS WILL BE GIRLS: RAISING CONFIDENT AND COURAGEOUS DAUGHTERS
JoAnn Deak , and Teresa Barker
Manufacturer: Hyperion
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ASIN: 0786886579

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Deak looks past the 'scare' stories to those that enlighten parents and enable them to empower girls. She draws from the latest brain research on girls to illustrate the exciting new ways in which we can help our daughters learn and thrive. Most telling of all, she gives us the voices of girls themselves as they struggle with body image, self-esteem, intellectual growth, peer pressure, and media messages. The result is a masterly book that addresses the key issues for girls growing up; one that fulfills a desperate need for clear guiding principles to help mothers, fathers, and their daughters navigate this chaotic contemporary culture.

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Nothing new here.......2005-02-25

This book does not stray an inch from the usual 'Raising Daughters: For Dumb***es' formula, which consists of the following:

1) Pop-science involving the brain and hormones is used to 'confirm' the most banal stereotypes about females. If you've heard the ones about how they are supposedly all more 'empathetic' and 'relational' than males, you have heard the basic premise of this book. The author even mentions something about how she believes that stereotypes 'usually hold truth'.*

2) The sort of trite parenting advice that was once called 'common sense' but is now called 'marketable'. Plenty of tiresome and unenlightening 'real-world examples' are used as padding to make up for the book's lack of anything that can be called substance.

* Indeed -- but only if one doesn't bother to look any further.

In short: don't be a sucker. Hopefully this review will be of help.

a must read.......2003-05-02

A must read for anyone raising or working with young girls. And if you think this book is phenominal, don't pass up an opportunity to hear her speak. She'll knock your socks off!!!

Exploring Feminine Mysteries.......2002-09-03

We're privileged to have Dr. Deak's experience in the
crucible of girlhood, an educator/psychologist in the public
school system, to inform us of the facts and superstitions of
young 'femaleness'.

We're presented with current neurological theories of the
chemical differences between boys and girls and given
numerous ways of accomodating these differences.
Examples are varied and there's a clear delineation of the
needs and cultural conditions that today's young woman is
presented with.

This is an important work for all parents, including the parents
of boys. I feel that we're aided in a more conscious form of
child-raising through the ideas laid out here and may find
that a more positive impact is made on this future generation
as a result of our implementing them.

You Go Girl!.......2002-08-06

I truly enjoyed this practical, funny, touching and true guide to parenting girls from a real expert. She really knows how to keep your attention with real stories and get her point across with humor and detail. We can all learn how to help our girls grow up to be the women we all wanted to be.

Finally--Sensible Advice in Readable Form!.......2002-08-05

Those of us who are parents/relatives, educators, or mentors of girls have become increasingly aware of the difficulties that young women face as they mature from the stage of irrepressible confidence to the insecurities of adolescence and young adulthood. And while girls do walk a constant balance beam, tilting back and forth between doing and being too much or too little, the adults in their lives are right there behind them--wondering whether they should under-react or over-react. But one thing is certain--they are reacting, often out of panic or the need to control the uncontrollable!

JoAnn Deak is there on the balance beam with us all. Thanks to her experience in schools and expertise as a counselor, she presents comprehensible insights regarding physical and psychological issues, along with memorable anecdotes and solid advice to help us approach the complexities rationally. When we have finished reading, we know more about the girls and how best to support them. And we also understand more about ourselves.

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June was 9 years old when she came home from school and her schizophrenic mother met her at the door, angrily demanding to know, "Who the hell are you? What are you doing in my house?" In another family, Tess repeatedly saw her mother wait outside church then scream at family friends as the emerged, accusing them of spying on and plotting to kill her. Five-year-old Tess and her 7-year-old brother would just cry, begging their mother to take them home as onlookers stared. These are just two of the stories gathered for this book as psychotherapist Nathiel conducted interviews. The children, now adults, grew up with mentally ill mothers at a time when mental illness was even more stigmatizing than it is today. They are what Nathiel calls "the daughters of madness," and their young lives were lived on shaky ground. "Telling someone that there's mental illness in your family, and watching the reaction is not for the faint-hearted," the therapist says, quoting another's research. But, she adds, "Telling them that it is your mother who is mentally ill certainly ups the ante." A veteran therapist with 35 years experience, Nathiel takes us into this traumatic world--with each of her chapters covering a major developmental period for the daughter of a mentally ill mother--and then explains how these now-adult daughters faced and coped with mental illness in their mothers. While the stories of these daughters are central to the book, Nathiel also offers her professional insights into exactly how maternal impairment affects infants, children, and adolescents. Women, significantly more than men, are often diagnosed with serious mental illness after they become parents. So what effect does a mentally ill mother have on a growing child, teenager or adult daughter, who looks to her not only for the deepest and most abiding love, but also a sense of what the world is all about? Nathiel also makes accessible the latest research on interpersonal neurobiology, attachment, and the way a child's brain and mind develop in the contest of that relationship. Some of the major topics addressed include: BLFeelings of guilt in the child - Is it my fault? BLKeeping the secret BLRole reversal - when child acts as parent BLFear of the same fate BLBuilding resilience and accepting help BLInsights from daughters of mothers who were schizophrenic, psychotic, severely depressed, paranoid, and personality-disordered.

Conan Volume 1: The Frost Giant's Daughter And Other Stories (Conan (Graphic Novels))

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Graphic SF Reader
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Awesome art and a great read
Another great Conan
Conan's Code

Conan Volume 1: The Frost Giant's Daughter And Other Stories (Conan (Graphic Novels))
Kurt Busiek , Cary Nord , Thomas Yeates , and Dave Stewart
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ASIN: 1593073011

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When the internationally famous barbarian hero returned to comics, with an all-new fresh start by award-winning writer Kurt Busiek (JLA/Avengers, Astro City) and dynamic artists Cary Nord, Thomas Yeates, and Dave Stewart, the result was instant sell-outs and multiple printings to keep up with the demand. Now Conan's earliest adventures are collected in a handsome 192-page collection. Catch all the action and savagery as he wars with the murderous Vanir, meets the Frost Giant's Daughter, and is taken as a slave by the ancient sorcerers of Hyperborea! This top-selling new series faithfully expands on original author Robert E. Howard's literary creation.

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Graphic SF Reader.......2007-08-02

The stories here are ok--they should be, as one of them is a straight Howard take.

However, I have a big problem with the artwork. The painted, somewhat pastel at times indistinct style makes Conan look like an eyeless kobold at times, and at others like big-eyed wild madmen all over the place. Non-inked fuzzy style looks crappy, to me.

Growing up with Barry Windsor-Smith this is a change much for the worse.

I won't be reading any more of this with the same art style.

Great magazine!!.......2007-05-14

This could not be better! The drawings are fantastic! Storyline is very good, great characters. Brutally fantastic! You should have this in your comic collection, it will be worth to have it.

Awesome art and a great read.......2007-03-12

This is one of the few comics books that I enjoy to read not just for the great art but also the amazing story. Very well written book, it moves at a nice pace, lots of action and it's not afraid to pull any punches; it definitely caters to an adult audience.

The art by Cary Nord is fantastic, this book doesn't disappoint at any level.

Another great Conan .......2006-07-03

This is a compilation of various of Conans adventures when he was young. Great reading

Conan's Code.......2006-06-12

Conan is more than just the muscle bound barbarian that only thinks of women and riches, which I think is the opinion many who have not actually read a Conan book believe. He has a sense of honor and loyalty to his friends, even those he just met. Granted, he does get to indulge in the pleasures of life, but only after great suffering. He is a man that wants to have his food, drink and women and be left alone. But when the times come that he needs to step up, he will, and you'll regret waking the barbarian within.

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Daughters and Moms
Wonderful!
I Love this little book
Perfect gift for a new mom
Beautiful touching photography

Why a Daughter Needs a Mom: 100 Reasons
Gregory E. Lang
Manufacturer: Cumberland House Publishing
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Binding: Hardcover

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ASIN: 1581823800

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Mothers and daughters often see themselves when they look at each other: mothers seeing themselves as a child again and daughters glimpsing the woman they will likely become. While this can be frightening at times, it also can be comforting. A daughter needs her mother to tell her the journey from girl to woman is more exciting than frightening and, with the blessing of children and grandchildren, the journey never ends.

In his relationship with his own daughter, Greg Lang admits that while she once was his "playful partner in crime" and "most adoring audience," she now turns to her mother for consolation and understanding. "Mothers are the best listeners," he writes, "whether the news is good or bad. Moms know the reason for tears need not always be explained, but a big hug, a laugh, and chocolate always make things brighter."

A mom is a daughter's role model through each stage of life, and wise and fortunate mothers are able to stay one step ahead of their daughters' development along the way. A mother¹s comfort soothes hurt feelings from playground to prom, from first-job pitfalls to first-pregnancy concerns. There is no substitute in a daughter¹s life for Mom.

With charming photographs of mothers and daughters of various backgrounds and ages, Why a Daughter Needs a Mom will inspire mothers everywhere to empower their daughters to reach their full potential in becoming strong, purposeful, independent women.

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Daughters and Moms.......2006-08-01

My review on the companion book, "Why a Daughter Needs a Mom" applies to this one as well.....A book to read over and over, by daughters, Moms, Grandmas, Aunts, etc....and I recommend both of these books be purchased as a set; they make a heart-warming gift for all girls and their parents. My girls gave this one to me for Mother's Day and the other to my Husband for Father's Day......we read a few pages from each book at the end of the day; makes you look forward to the next day....whatever your plans may be! Enjoy!

Wonderful!.......2006-05-25

This book is the perfect gift for a mother! I cry every time I read it, and now that I'm having a daughter I feel that it means even more. Definately worth having!

I Love this little book.......2006-03-31

This book is very sweet and inspiring for Mother and Daughter. I love to read it and I love to read it to my daughter. This is such a feel good book.

Perfect gift for a new mom.......2006-01-29

Pair this book up with "Why a Daughter Needs a Dad: 100 Reasons" for a perfect gift for new parents. Both of these books are wonderful!!

Beautiful touching photography.......2005-12-10

The photography in this series of books are touching and beautiful and very creatively presented. They bring back memories of times with my mom and dad. Money well spent on gifts.

Mara, Daughter of the Nile (Puffin Story Books)

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Great book, not for kids
Engrossing...
mara rules!
One of the best books I ever read.
Egyptian Masterpiece

Mara, Daughter of the Nile (Puffin Story Books)
Eloise Jarvis McGraw
Manufacturer: Puffin
ProductGroup: Book
Binding: Mass Market Paperback

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ASIN: 0140319298

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Great book, not for kids.......2007-10-07

I ordered this book as a supplement to our Ancient Egypt unit. We read "The Golden Goblet" together, and "Mara" was recommended on the Amazon site as another good title. I read this myself on my way to Florida, and found that the situations are more adult and mature in nature. There was nothing wrong with anything that happened in the story, everything was 'clean', but I couldn't see my 9 and 12 year old listening to or reading it with interest. Highly recommended for any mature teen to adult who would like to read some good historical fiction from that time period!

Engrossing..........2007-08-04

Just enough romance to keep you hooked, completely clean. Lots of tension between right and wrong. Good character development.

mara rules!.......2007-06-05

i read this book many years ago on a summer reading list & enjoyed it so much that i own several copies that i still read. this was my first introduction to ancient egypt, pharaohs who were female, river travel on the nile,etc. it is an engrossing adventure that a tween or adult would enjoy. mara made an impression on me because of her guts & sharp mind & any book with a ballsy heroine who achieves way more than what she aimed for is okay by me.enjoy!

One of the best books I ever read........2007-02-09

This is probably one of my favorite books. It is adventurous and I am learning about Egypt this year. It really gets you psyched about learning about Egypt and people who lived at that time. I think Eloise should make a sequel or get the book made into a movie.

Egyptian Masterpiece.......2007-01-01

I honestly don't remember when I bought this book, was probably my sophomore or junior year of HS, but I'm a freshman in college now...and I'll still rank it amongst the best pieces of literature I've ever read.

Whether it was the playful (albeit dangerous at times) banter between her and Sheftu or the stunning descriptions of the lotus gardens this book is a masterpiece and my only criticism was that it was not longer......

How I Learned to Cook: And Other Writings on Complex Mother-Daughter Relationships

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Attention, Mothers&Daughters, Fathers&Sons
Myths of Mom
Finally--a realistic portrayal of a complicated relationship
Awful - Proof that you should ALWAYS read the introduction
a must for those that love complex mother/daughter relations

How I Learned to Cook: And Other Writings on Complex Mother-Daughter Relationships
Margo Perin
Manufacturer: Tarcher
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Binding: Paperback

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ASIN: 1585422916
Release Date: 2004-03-25

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A collection of writings by women on the tangled bonds they share with their(often) less-than-perfect mothers.

Every woman has something to say on the subject of her mother. In fact, many of us spend our lives trying to figure out just how we are like-or unlike-them. And yet, as intricate as the ties that bind mothers and daughters can be, most women never let go of the desire to really know their mothers. In How I Learned to Cook and Other Writings on Complex Mother-Daughter Relationships, women authors explore what is perhaps the most complicated of family relationships.

In this elegant collection of writings, daughters describe their relationships with mothers whose own lives sometimes stood in the way of their ability to fill society's ideal of what a good mother should be. With critically acclaimed authors-including Jamaica Kincaid, Paula Fox, and Alice Walker -sharing the page with emerging writers, How I Learned to Cook proves that every daughter has much to discover and understand about her mother.

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Attention, Mothers&Daughters, Fathers&Sons.......2004-07-15

If you are a mother, daughter, father or son you will find something you need to know in this book.

When the topic of "familial abuse" surfaced in my family I did not want to believe it existed. Margo Perin pulls no punches. Abuse happens oftener than any of us would wish. Perin's collection of short memoirs is not just for a daughter to be prodded into saying "Oh yeah..I remember how it was!" Or for a mother to say: 'I wish I had been able to do better." A mother and a son: a father and a daughter: EVERYBODY has some story, and here is a book that will cause you to bring some memories out of the darkness/into the light, if only for a brief painful second: but that second is the beginning of healing...

Myths of Mom.......2004-06-25

Kudos to Margo Perin for taking the mythical and psuedo-religious sense of the Mother Daughter Relationship out of the closet by showing us the truth. Sometimes Mom isn't loving or nice. Within the scope of these stories we see that our family is our first and most important community. Our young hearts, before they are broken, are wide open and expectant of love, however fragile our connection. Margo Perin has put together a collection of true stories by very talented and brave women who faced the truth of parental abuse and named it while offering healing, hope and love in the same breath.

Finally--a realistic portrayal of a complicated relationship.......2004-05-15

No, the stories aren't all roses and puppy dogs--but they are realistic, and well-written. Alice Walker, Jamaica Kincaid, Paula Fox, Kim Chernin--an excellent lineup. I was most impressed by the heavy-hitters, like those listed above; but I was also pleasantly surprised to discover new talents, like Elizabeth Payne, whose mother isn't "terrible", but only mysterious and dealing with the pain of a broken marriage. This collection will enlarge your perspective on your own relationship with Mom.

Awful - Proof that you should ALWAYS read the introduction.......2004-05-14

If I had read the summation on Amazon or the introduction, I wouldn't have read this book. There may be a good, well written story in this anthology. I doubt it though and I will never know because I have given up. After reading a thoroughly disjointed tale of misuse, lackluster stories about domestic abuse, alcohol abuse, drug abuse, and just ill feelings I should have stopped before the one about a father raping his pre-teen daughter, which she doesn't even realize happened. Now I'm just furious that I wasted my time on this book. There was only one that was worth reading and the others made up for it in spades. Save yourself and stay clear!

a must for those that love complex mother/daughter relations.......2004-04-22

Review by Summer Lopez for Small Spiral Notebook:

When we are very little, we see our mothers only as we want to see them-all powerful and perfect. The older we get, the more we realize how untrue-and unfair-that perception is. How I Learned to Cook is a gripping look at the truth about mothers and daughters, and the matchless strength of the bonds we share. That is not to say it is a book full of heartwarming mother-daughter tales. The authors of these stories have reached deep into the vaults of their childhood memories, often exposing pain but always revealing the powerful affect of their mothers in their lives. As adults, they are able to look back and see their mothers as the very real and often very flawed women that they were and are. In some cases the scars of childhood are strong, and one can sense that the writer is still seeking answers and explanations, but in other stories there is an echo of love strengthened through time and understanding. None of these mothers is one-dimensionally caring or cruel, and this lovely and heartbreaking anthology is full of the explorations of this most complex of relationships.

Perin points out in the Introduction that fear of betraying or demeaning the image of the mother or one's own mother has kept many women from telling the truth of the pain inflicted on them in childhood by women who were supposed to protect them from all things. How I Learned to Cook brings some such examples painfully to life. There is Ruth Kluger's mother who, upon arriving in Auschwitz-Birkenau, calmly suggests to Ruth that they go together and throw themselves against the electric fencing. Or Hillary Gamerow's, who tells her young daughter simply one night that she has put rat poison in the family's dinner, and that they will all die in their sleep. When that turns out not to be true, she says, "Well, you never know. I could do it anytime, right?" Then there is the mother in "The Body Geographic," who watches with a gleam of satisfaction as her husband beats her daughter senseless. One cannot help but admire the bravery it must have taken for these women to tell their stories. They are kick-in-the-gut painful, to the point where it is often hard to believe they are real, but they are also gripping and written with lyricism touched with a grief that seeps through the pages.

There are other stories here too; stories where societal expectations and other outside forces shape the nature of the relationship between mother and daughter. Nawal el Saadawi tells of being raised in Egypt, her mother's love separated from her by a veil that is both literal and figurative. In "Home is Where Your Stuff Is" Helen Ruggieri describes her mother's obsession with cleaning and maintaining the "stuff" in her house-her attention to the domestic space she can control seemingly overtaking her ability to focus on the people living within it. In "Anybody Could See It" Elizabeth Payne reflects on her father's infidelity to her mother and the way both women struggled to recover from that betrayal. "Domestic Silence" tells the story of Meena's attempts to rescue her unwilling mother from her abusive marriage, leaving her feeling that she has been the caretaker all along, rather than the other way around.

The beauty of these stories is the authors' willingness to be honest, whether they are sharing the depth of love and respect they feel for the multi-faceted women that brought them into the world, or their deep-seated pain and anger at the betrayal of what we often view as the most natural of bonds. In most cases the truth lies somewhere between these two extremes, where real relationships exist in all their intricacies.

* Odds are this book will make you appreciate your own mother (I felt compelled to call mine and thank her for being wonderful), but I should point out it's not exactly the ideal Mother's Day gift...stick with flowers and keep this one for yourself.

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