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With her disarming, intimate, completely accessible voice, and dry sense of humor, Nora Ephron shares with us her ups and downs in I Feel Bad About My Neck, a candid, hilarious look at women who are getting older and dealing with the tribulations of maintenance, menopause, empty nests, and life itself.
The woman who brought us When Harry Met Sally . . . , Sleepless in Seattle, You’ve Got Mail, and Bewitched, and the author of best sellers Heartburn, Scribble Scribble, and Crazy Salad, discusses everything—from how much she hates her purse to how much time she spends attempting to stop the clock: the hair dye, the treadmill, the lotions and creams that promise to slow the aging process but never do. Oh, and she can’t stand the way her neck looks. But her dermatologist tells her there’s no quick fix for that.
Ephron chronicles her life as an obsessed cook, passionate city dweller, and hapless parent. She recounts her anything-but-glamorous days as a White House intern during the JFK years (“I am probably the only young woman who ever worked in the Kennedy White House that the President did not make a pass at”) and shares how she fell in and out of love with Bill Clinton—from a distance, of course. But mostly she speaks frankly and uproariously about life as a woman of a certain age.
Utterly courageous, wickedly funny, and unexpectedly moving in its truth telling, I Feel Bad About My Neck is a book of wisdom, advice, and laugh-out-loud moments, a scrumptious, irresistible treat.
Customer Reviews:
Really Funny.......2007-10-05
I love the book. If I didn't laugh out loud while reading, I at least chuckled and giggled. The short essays are bright & witty.
Great read, slightly depressing ........2007-09-25
This book was funny and easy to read for anyone over 50 , if you're any younger you wont get half the jokes . It did get a little depressing towards the end , but some may just call it realistic ( about getting old and death ) .
Not the fun read I expected.......2007-09-25
Maybe it's just me, but I expected so much more from this book. I thought it would be wittier, more original, and use humor to inspire middle aged women like me. Instead I found it to be a negative read and it just brought me down. Sorry, no recommendation from me on this one.
Waste of Time.......2007-09-25
I really feel cheated out of several hours of time and the cost of the book. Instead of funny and insightful, it was whiny and shallow. I should have read the reviews at Amazon instead of seeing her on Oprah and thinking the bookI Feel Bad About My Neck: And Other Thoughts on Being a Woman would be worth my time and money.
I Feel Bad About My Neck..........2007-09-25
Quick and easy read. Entertaining and insightful of how we feel but haven't put our thoughts into book form. Nora did for us.
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Couples consistently name “improved communication” as the greatest need in their relationships. Love Talk is a deep yet simple plan full of new insights that will revolutionize communication in love relationships. Includes The Love Talk Indicator, a free personalized online assessment ($30.00 value).
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What Kind of Love Talk Are We Talking About?.......2007-06-14
This book includes some very helpful grids for helping spouses ( or friends - or enemies!) to understand each other. It would have rated higher with me if it had emphasized more the attitude of a servant spirit to which God calls His people, and the distinctive commands to the wife and the husband.The Excellent Wife: A Biblical Perspective
Love Talk Book.......2006-12-22
I bought this book in hopes to find more knowledge about how to communicate better, however I soon discovered that the book coincides with a workbook. Every chapter describes scenarios/experiences that the authors went through but is followed by "please see the workbook" to find out on how to communicate better. So buy the workbook if you want to get the full use of this book as well as reap the benefits in your relationship.
On the upside the book does have some good examples of what types of communication styles there are. I hoped this is helpful.
Excellent Guide to Enriching Communication.......2005-10-15
I am still working through the book but it has been an excellent guide to improving communication skills at all levels.
Deep Wisdom Practically Explained and Applied.......2005-07-17
"Love Talk" is a very practical book that is also very deep. What a rare combination. Far too often we find deep books that are vague and impractical or how-to manuals that are shallow and unbiblical. "Love Talk," as the authors accurately label it, is "a deep yet simple plan full of new insights that will revolutionize communication in love relationships."
Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott help couples to go deep by identifying their fear factor (a catchy and helpful phrase)--a soul issue necessary to expose for soul talk by soul mates. They then help couples to go simple (but not simplistically so) by helping husbands and wives to determine their communication styles.
They also help couples to go deep by exposing the deep mystery of the male-female relationship, doing so in a way that honors the complex nature of masculinity and femininity. They then also go simple by sharing a "doable" plan for moving husband-wife communication from good to great (another catchy and encouraging phrase).
"Love Talk" offers many deep/simple tools such as the Love Talk Inidicator, the Secret to Emotional Connection, and a short course on Communication 101. Two companion his and her workbooks provide exercises and self-test to help couples apply the content and concepts contained in "Love Talk."
Reviewer: Dr. Robert W. Kellemen is the author of "Soul Physicians," "Spiritual Friends," and "Beyond the Suffering: Embracing the Legacy of African American Soul Care and Spiritual Direction."
College student.......2005-07-01
I got this book because it was required for a class taught by Les & Leslie Parrott at Seattle Pacific University. The class and book are awesome! I'm not married, but I still learned a lot of practical tips for communicating with my future wife (hopefully) and even my friends and family!
They truly taught me a lot about the importance of communication & understanding each other...then you'll reach Love Talk!
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description: ìutterly consumed with dread.î) I was trying to convince myself that my feelings were customary, despite all evidence to the contraryósuch as the acquaintance Iíd run into last week whoíd just discovered that she was pregnant for the first time, after spending two years and a kingís ransom in fertility treatments. She was ecstatic. She had wanted to be a mother forever, she told me. She admitted sheíd been secretly buying baby clothes for years and hiding them under the bed, where her husband wouldnít find them. I saw the joy in her face and I recognized it. This was the exact joy my own face had radiated last spring, the day I discovered that the magazine I worked for was going to send me on assignment to New Zealand, to write an article about the search for giant squid. And I thought, ìUntil I can feel as ecstatic about having a baby as I felt about going to New Zealand to search for a giant squid, I cannot have a baby.î
I donít want to be married anymore.
In daylight hours, I refused that thought, but at night it would consume me. What a catastrophe. How could I be such a criminal jerk as to proceed this deep into a marriage, only to leave it? Weíd only just bought this house a year ago. Hadnít I wanted this nice house? Hadnít I loved it? So why was I haunting its halls every night now, howling like Medea? Wasnít I proud of all weíd accumulatedóthe prestigious home in the Hudson Valley, the apartment in Manhattan, the eight phone lines, the friends and the picnics and the parties, the weekends spent roaming the aisles of some box-shaped superstore of our choice, buying ever more appliances on credit? I had actively participated in every moment of the creation of this lifeóso why did I feel like none of it resembled me? Why did I feel so overwhelmed with duty, tired of being the primary breadwinner and the housekeeper and the social coordinator and the dog-walker and the wife and the soon-to- be mother, andósomewhere in my stolen momentsóa writer ...?
I donít want to be married anymore.
My husband was sleeping in the other room, in our bed. I equal parts loved him and could not stand him. I couldnít wake him to share in my distressówhat would be the point? Heíd already been watching me fall apart for months now, watching me behave like a madwoman (we both agreed on that word), and I only exhausted him. We both knew there was something wrong with me, and heíd been losing patience with it. Weíd been fighting and crying, and we were weary in that way that only a couple whose marriage is collapsing can be weary. We had the eyes of refugees.
The many reasons I didnít want to be this manís wife anymore are too personal and too sad to share here. Much of it had to do with my problems, but a good portion of our troubles were related to his issues, as well. Thatís only natural; there are always two figures in a marriage, after allótwo votes, two opinions, two conflicting sets of decisions, desires and limitations. But I donít think itís appropriate for me to discuss his issues in my book. Nor would I ask anyone to believe that I am capable of reporting an unbiased version of our story, and therefore the chronicle of our marriageís failure will remain untold here. I also will not discuss here all the reasons why I did still want to be his wife, or all his wonderfulness, or why I loved him and why I had married him and why I was unable to imagine life without him. I wonít open any of that. Let it be sufficient to say that, on this night, he was still my lighthouse and my albatross in equal measure. The only thing more unthinkable than leaving was staying; the only thing more impossible than staying was leaving. I didnít want to destroy anything or anybody. I just wanted to slip quietly out the back door, without causing any fuss or consequences, and then not stop running until I reached Greenland.
This part of my story is not a happy one, I know. But I share it here because something was about to occur on that bathroom floor that would change forever the progression of my lifeóalmost like one of those crazy astronomical super-events when a planet flips over in outer space for no reason whatsoever, and its molten core shifts, relocating its poles and altering its shape radically, such that the whole mass of the planet suddenly becomes oblong instead of spherical. Something like that.
What happened was that I started to pray.
You knowólike, to God.
3 Now, this was a first for me. And since this is the first time I have introduced that loaded wordóGODóinto my book, and since this is a word which will appear many times again throughout these pages, it seems only fair that I pause here for a moment to explain exactly what I mean when I say that word, just so people can decide right away how offended they need to get.
Saving for later the argument about whether God exists at all (noóhereís a better idea: letís skip that argument completely), let me first explain why I use the word God, when I could just as easily use the words Jehovah, Allah, Shiva, Brahma, Vishnu or Zeus. Alternatively, I could call God ìThat,î which is how the ancient Sanskrit scriptures say it, and which I think comes close to the all-inclusive and unspeakable entity I have sometimes experienced. But that ìThatî feels impersonal to meóa thing, not a beingóand I myself cannot pray to a That. I need a proper name, in order to fully sense a personal attendance. For this same reason, when I pray, I do not address my prayers to The Universe, The Great Void, The Force, The Supreme Self, The Whole, The Creator, The Light, The Higher Power, or even the most poetic manifestation of Godís name, taken, I believe, from the Gnostic gospels: ìThe Shadow of the Turning.î
I have nothing against any of these terms. I feel they are all equal because they are all equally adequate and inadequate descriptions of the indescribable. But we each do need a functional name for this indescribability, and ìGodî is the name that feels the most warm to me, so thatís what I use. I should also confess that I generally refer to God as ìHim,î which doesnít bother me because, to my mind, itís just a convenient personalizing pronoun, not a precise anatomical description or a cause for revolution. Of course, I donít mind if people call God ìHer,î and I understand the urge to do so. Againóto me, these are both equal terms, equally adequate and inadequate. Though I do think the capitalization of either pronoun is a nice touch, a small politeness in the presence of the divine.
Culturally, though not theologically, Iím a Christian. I was born a Protestant of the white Anglo- Saxon persuasion. And while I do love that great teacher of peace who was called Jesus, and while I do reserve the right to ask myself in certain trying situations what indeed He would do, I canít swallow that one fixed rule of Christianity insisting that Christ is the only path to God. Strictly speaking, then, I cannot call myself a Christian. Most of the Christians I know accept my feelings on this with grace and open-mindedness. Then again, most of the Christians I know donít speak very strictly. To those who do speak (and think) strictly, all I can do here is offer my regrets for any hurt feelings and now excuse myself from their business.
Traditionally, I have responded to the transcendent mystics of all religions. I have always responded with breathless excitement to anyone who has ever said that God does not live in a dogmatic scripture or in a distant throne in the sky, but instead abides very close to us indeedó much closer than we can imagine, breathing right through our own hearts. I respond with gratitude to anyone who has ever voyaged to the center of that heart, and who has then returned to the world with a report for the rest of us that God is an experience of supreme love. In every religious tradition on earth, there have always been mystical saints and transcendents who report exactly this experience. Unfortunately many of them have ended up arrested and killed. Still, I think very highly of them.
In the end, what I have come to believe about God is simple. Itís like thisóI used to have this really great dog. She came from the pound. She was a mixture of about ten different breeds, but seemed to have inherited the finest features of them all. She was brown. When people asked me, ìWhat kind of dog is that?î I would always give the same answer: ìSheís a brown dog.î Similarly, when the question is raised, ìWhat kind of God do you believe in?î my answer is easy: ìI believe in a magnificent God.î
4 Of course, Iíve had a lot of time to formulate my opinions about divinity since that night on the bathroom floor when I spoke to God directly for the first time. In the middle of that dark November crisis, though, I was not interested in formulating my views on theology. I was interested only in saving my life. I had finally noticed that I seemed to have reached a state of hopeless and life-threatening despair, and it occurred to me that sometimes people in this state will approach God for help. I think Iíd read that in a book somewhere.
What I said to God through my gasping sobs was something like this: ìHello, God. How are you? Iím Liz. Itís nice to meet you.î
Thatís rightóI was speaking to the creator of the universe as though weíd just been introduced at a cocktail party. But we work with what we know in this life, and these are the words I always use at the beginning of a relationship. In fact, it was all I could do to stop myself from saying, ìIíve always been a big fan of your work ...î
ìIím sorry to bother you so late at night,î I continued. ìBut Iím in serious trouble. And Iím sorry I havenít ever spoken directly to you before, but I do hope I have always expressed ample gratitude for all the blessings that youíve given me in my life.î
This thought caused me to sob even harder. God waited me out. I pulled myself together enough to go on: ìI am not an expert at praying, as you know. But can you please help me? I am in desperate need of h...
Customer Reviews:
BRAVO Elizabeth!.......2007-10-10
I thoroughly enjoyed this book start to finish and plan to pass it on to my daughter and nieces. It was very disheartening to read the "slams" this author got from other women. I admire Ms. Gilbert; you don't get to where she is by being a slacker. That woman is well-educated and very disciplined. Writing a book is damn hard work and if any of the naysayers ever attempted one like this they would be eating their words. It also takes sheer guts to step out of the box like she did and brave foreign countries (alone, no less).
Don't knock it until you've tried it! (and succeeded)!
Exhibit "A".......2007-10-10
To those who can find mostly fault in this book and little good, I have included in this post a small but absolutely beautifully written passage from Ms. Gilbert's work that totally made me want to read the rest of EPL. It appears early on in the book, after her husband has finally signed the divorce papers after a protracted, hostile standoff, and she has arrived in Rome. To me it doesn't read like someone who is all about "ME" but rather someone who is aware enough to get to the heart of emotions that afflict all of us at one time or another.
"Depression and Loneliness track me down after ten days in Italy. I am walking through the Villa Borghese one evening after a happy day spent in school, and the sun is setting gold over St. Peter's Basilica. I am feeling contented in this romantic scene, even if I am all by myself, while everyone else in the park is either fondling a lover or playing with a laughing child. But I stop to lean against a balustrade and watch the sunset, and I get to thinking a little too much, and then my thinking turns to brooding, and that's when they catch up with me.
They come upon me all silent and menacing like Pinkerton Detectives, and the flank me--Depression on my left, Loneliness on my right. They don't need to show me their badges. I know these guys very well. We've been playing a cat-and-mouse game for years now. Though I admit that I am surprised to meet them in this elegant Italian garden at dusk. This is no place they belong.
I say to them, "How did you find me here? Who told you I had come to Rome?"
Depression, always the wise guy, says, "What--you're not happy to see us?"
"Go away," I tell him.
Loneliness, the more sensitive cop, says, "I'm sorry, ma'am. But I might have to tail you the whole time you're traveling. It's my assignment."
"Id really rather you didn't," I tell him, and he shrugs almost apologetically, but only moves closer.
Then they frisk me. They empty my pockets of any joy I had been carrying there. Depression even confiscates my identity; but he always does that. Then Loneliness starts interrogating me, which I dread because it always goes on for hours. He's polite but relentless, and he always trips me up eventually. He asks if I have any reason to be happy that I know of. He asks why I am all by myself tonight, yet again. He asks (though we've been through this line of questioning hundreds of times already) why I can't keep a relationship going, why I ruined my marriage, why I messed things up with David, why I messed things up with every man I've ever been with. He asks me where I was the night I turned thirty, and why things have gone so sour since then. He asks why I can't get my act together, and why I'm not at home living in a nice house and raising nice children like any respectable woman my age should be. He asks why, exactly, I think I deserve a vacation in Rome when I've made such a rubble of my life. He asks me why I think that running away to Italy like a college kid will make me happy. He asks where I think I'll end up in my old age, if I keep living this way.
I walk back home, hoping to shake them, but they keep following me, these two goons. Depression has a firm hand on my shoulder and Loneliness harangues me with his interrogation. I don't even bother eating dinner; I don't want them watching me. I don't what to let them up the stairs to my apartment, either, but I know Depression, and he's got a billy club, so there's no stopping him from coming in if he decides that he wants to.
"It's not fair for you to come here," I tell Depression. "I paid you off already. I served my time backing New York."
But he just gives me that dark smile, settles into my favorite chair, puts his feet on my table and lights a cigar, filling the place with his awful smoke. Loneliness watches a sighs, then climbs into my bed and pulls the covers over himself, fully dressed, shoes and all. He's going to make me sleep with him again tonight, I just know it.
I loved this book.......2007-10-10
truly one of the best books I have ever read
so inspiring .. couldn't put it down didn't want it to end
Good For A Dentist Office.......2007-10-09
Why does this book remind me of all the soul searching of celebrities going in and coming out of Rehab? I felt like I was reading the vapid travelogue of a LA Valley girl, not a New Yorker. Like it was especially written for Oprah. There's nothing new or really that insightful about the subjects or places she covers... If you're going to write about Divorce, Love and God, please tell me something new because it's covered ground - stamped down to bedrock actually. "Over-indulgent, cliched, search-for-self by well to do 30-40 something woman" is right. You would think that she might draw out the characters she meets - and they might be interesting - but they're all cute little caricatures on the blissful way to Bali. None of them are remotely real. It reads like a travel narrative that is worth picking up at the doctor's office, but not when you have so many other better books to read. Yes, I'm a man. But I worship other female authors. Karen Blixen, Virginia Woolf, Gertrude Stein; they have minds. Are we that lost that we have read this regurgitated self love spoiled goddess hippy lore and call it original? She should really get off the meds and think about what she's writing about. Not just write down drivel so she can feel happy about herself. But then she's laughing herself all the way to the bank.
Pleasantly surprised, and touched........2007-10-08
I was almost embarrassed to read this, given the book's sappy title and its inherent "Oprahness". I ended up enjoying it immensely. I admit, too, that I was deeply jealous of Gilbert (Italy, India, Indonesia...wow!), but I came to like her for her enthusiasm and her guilelessness. Many might find her spiritual quest a bit offputting, but this book is really less about finding your soul and more about learning to love life and love yourself. It's about making your life what you want it to be, and then letting go. Anyone who has been in an unsatisfying marriage, who has dealt with depression, who has cried out her guts on a cold bathroom floor (yes, it's a scene from the book)..should read this book. If I had more courage, and money, about a decade ago, I would have done exactly what Gilbert did, because I was in a very similar place. As I read this book, I slowly grew to like the author more and more, even when it's obvious she was being used by her Balinese friend, and even when she goes to great lengths (in oh-so-politically correct terms) to justify the crass greed that her friend exhibits. Gilbert puts her heart on a platter for her readers. She can infuriate, she can be a bit too self involved, and she can sometimes give us a little too much information. But she's given us a gift here. This book will be good for those it's good for. If you are intrigued by the subject, you will probably like it.
Assuming, of course, that you are female. I think this is a chick book exclusively.
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Make him chase you...Until you catch him.
Never shy and always laugh-out-loud funny, Sherry Argov's Why Men Marry Bitches is a sharp-witted manifesto that shows women how to transform a casual relationship into a committed one. With the grittiest of girlfriend-to-girlfriend detail, Argov removes the kid gloves and explains why being extra nice doesn't necessarily mean he'll be more devoted. The guide shares real-life "no holds barred" interviews with men who answer the following in raw detail:
- How do men manipulate a relationship to keep it casual?
- Do men deliberately push women's emotional buttons?
- How can she convince him commitment was his idea?
- How can she invite a proposal without saying a word?
Whether you are single, married, recently separated, or just fed up with your family members telling you to fetch a husband because time is running out, Why Men Marry Bitches is the must-have guide that will show you how to exude confidence, win his heart, and get the love and respect you deserve.
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Great book!.......2007-10-06
A must for every woman who is dating and one day plans to get married!! Great insight!!
Worth Every Penny.......2007-09-22
This is a laugh-out funny, insightful book about men...as well as women. Despite the catchy title, this is NOT a book that tells you to play mind games or teaches you how to land a husband. It actually challenges the notion that anyone needs a relationship to feel complete. In addition, it reaffirms what most of us already know---men are turned off by clingy, needy and insecure women---the same qualities that most women find unattractive in men.
The book lists 75 relationship principles as well as practical advice on every day situations, and they do work! The advice on how to handle a relationship that isn't progressing is outstanding. All my guy friends are crying "foul," now that the secret is out.
Bottom line: Get it, read it and enjoy it. You'll get some good laughs out of it, and also several "ah-ha" moments.
Learn to maintain the right attitude to attract men..........2007-09-10
This book is an important book for women who worry allot about getting married. It gives a much-needed push out of the `needy' frame of mind into an independent, in control woman. This not only frees you from obsessing about success with men but it also ends up making you more attractive to men.
One thing I really like about this book is that it is in point form (called principles), with insights into the psychological aspects of men, women and relationships. This is followed by examples which illustrate the points clearly.
To give an idea of the kind of IMPORTANT principles you will learn I have taken a couple of good ones from the book which reveal how different this book is from others on the same topic of `how to get a man'.
Take the following principle as an example, "Men are intrigued by anything they do not completely control". Applying this insight means you maintain your independence including keeping yourself occupied with friends and activities. This will make a man more attracted to you as he has to chase you a bit and you are not too available. This explains the following principle really well, "There's nothing more prized to a man then something he had to wait for, work for, or struggle a little bit to get." It is the challenge that inspires a man. So become a challenge and men will seek you out.
Most important is to SHOW you don't need a man in your life like shown in this principle, "When a man sees you are focused on your own dreams or on elevating yourself, he feels safer marrying you because he doesn't worry about what you'll be trying to take away from him."
Besides these wonderful insights on how to attract the attention of a man there are also insights on how to build your own self-esteem and how to occupy your time without needing a man around. This book helps you from the inside out with tons of tips and advice on how best to date men. This book is definitely worth reading, even if you already have a man in your life.
A man's view.......2007-08-31
Her previous book -Why men love bitches is my favorite and most highly recommended book for women on dealing with men. Keeping us men on our toes. Giving us women that we find challenging, and interesting, and donot take for granted.
Now onto WMMB. Men will test you, just as women test men. These tests serve a purpose. How you respond dictates the nature of the relationship, and whether get respected as the dreamgirl, or treated as a doormat. You teach people how to treat you. Sherry teaches you how to pass these tests.
WMMB entertains, as you might expect from a standup comic. I had to put the book down several times to laugh. Most of her advice is gleaned from many interviews with men, and their experiences with women, and they tell it like it is, what made them decide to marry one person and pass on another. Really, it is our secret playbook. In fact, I got great ideas from this book. So, I recommend this book to men too.
For men, marriage is the biggest financial and emotional decision of our life. If a man makes the wrong decision, and chooses the wrong woman, the financial and emotional consequences are dire.
The right decision, gains him the benefits of an excellent partner and children and opportunities for adventure and bliss, and will inspire and propel him to far greater achievements than would otherwise be possible. Imagine how attractive being independent, emotionally secure, confident, and already fulfilled can make you, and how not being needy or dependent on him for your emotional well being could make you a compelling candidate for marriage.
As you read this book, you will discover the common mistakes women make: the woman on a mission whose biological clock is ticking so loud you can actually hear it, perceiving the man as a vacancy filler, telegraphing commitment interest way too soon, the dreaded talk, the absolutely lethal -where do you see this relationship going question? Sherry's offers solid advice.
What if the guy is not prepared to commit anyway, then you have the dilemma of losing a relationship or continuing with a guy who won't commit. Many guys will string you along indefinitely, because they can.
The most resourceful advice is starting the conversation which will lead to commitment though it only offers one strategy, even if it is brilliant. You should have a few different approaches to pick from.
I disagree on one thing. I don't think it is a sound strategy to avoid talking about marriage entirely, for a long time, so it won't come up on the relationship radar. If you don't bring it up it may never come up. Before you spend years with a guy wouldn't it be wiser to find out in advance what his attitude is? This could bring the denial: You never said anything about a commitment before. Another shortcoming I feel is it does not offer strategies for testing his true attitude on commitment, and decision making.
Here's one idea. Ask a man how he feels about children. If he doesn't want to have them or like them, what does that mean? You have learned much from an indirect question.
Other books I recommend are: Dr Phil's Love Smart:Find the one you want, fix the one you got has excellent advice, on getting the commitment,and the 80/20 rule. The Secret Psychology of how we fall in love by Dr Paul Dobransky has excellent advice on testing a man to see if he is commitment material, also on finding the right kind of man, using the women from Sex and the City as the four female archetypes, the queen, warrior, magician and lover to determine both your personality types. There is also a personality test you can take at KWML.com.
So, I highly recommend this book, and good luck.
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I am a testimony for this book! =).......2007-08-30
I am currently in a very happy, and successful relationship with my fiance. When I read the book, everything it says reminds me of myself, and the nature of my relationship.
The principles are true! My boyfriend has helped me become a stronger and more independent woman. And he loves me more for the person that I have become.
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- Helped save my marriage
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A how-to book for men that seeks to clarify distinctions between the sexes with a view toward building a stronger marital relationship with this understanding.
Customer Reviews:
A Great Book.......2007-08-26
I gave this to my husband and he loved it. It is a great book.
Must read!.......2007-07-23
I can't recommend this highly enough. TEN STARS! Men who are or will be husbands, I strongly suggest you place reading this on your to-do list only after reading the Bible itself. Of course you will have to actually put the ideas into practice - small steps are always better than no steps!
Gary Smalley has Godly Insight into Having a Loving Marriage........2007-06-13
If you read this book with an open mind, with the mindset that you could do better as a husband, this book will rock your world.
When I read this book I was under the impression that he had intimate knowledge of what was wrong with my marriage! This was over 10 years ago and I have to say I still refer to this book from time to time. The insight Smalley offers into the male and female psyches is uncanny. He knows exactly why women are the way they are and how men, through their woefull lack of understand of gender differnces, exacerbate the problem.
I have recommended this book to so many people I ought to get a commission. But I believe and have experienced the fruit of applying the understanding of this book in my own life and marriage.
Whether you have been married 4 months or 40 years, this book, and the companion volume "For Better or Best" will show you how to have a Godly marriage based on trust, committment, and love.
Gary Smalley will help you!.......2007-05-16
Gary Smalley has written an insightful book that is helping men understand their wives. The ideas in this book will compliment the ideas found in The Man of Her Dreams The Woman of His! - another book that is available here on Amazon.com
If you need a miracle of change in your marriage, order both of these books!
Joel and Kathy Davisson
Helped save my marriage.......2007-03-29
While the suggestions in this book weren't very applicable to my situation the underlying principles were. It opened my eyes to what I was doing to drive my wife away and helped me grow emotionally. Got me to where I needed to be to save my marriage.
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Whose relationship -- or lack of one -- couldn't use a little magic now and then?
Sometimes Cupid needs a kick in the pants. for every woman tired of waiting for the right man to come along, Bewitch a Man is a fun, empowering manual that shows how to conjure him up fast. Real-life witch Fiona Horne offers effective, easy-to-master spells, charms, and magical know-how so you too can:
• be irresistible to the man of your dreams
• bring a straying lover back to the fold
• ward off a potential rival
• fire up his libido and keep a relationship sizzling
• and yes, hex the jerks who truly deserve it.
Customer Reviews:
More good than bad.......2007-01-09
I received this book as a Christmas gift, and am almost finished, but wished to share my thoughts. Fiona Horne is very important to me as her book "Witch: a personal journey" (published in Australia) actually set me on my Witchy path, so I will always have a soft spot for her.
I enjoy the way that Fiona writes, as if it was a conversaton with your girlfriend, but I think maybe living in LA has changed Fiona into dropping famous people's names more often, which is a shame, but I guess that is LA. Also, I am a bit disapointed in the underlining theme of the book that females have "power over" men, and that this book will help you increase that power. Yes males have had power over females for too long a time in history, but we should know be viewing the sexes as equal.
That aside, I love the section on "Poetry in motion" on page 112 and will use that myself, aswell as the "Let it go" ritual on page 103. All rituals you can use in your everyday life. Also the story on Yhi in the introduction is a must-read for all Witches, and Fiona's explanation of how a spell works expresses her breadth of knowledge. Even though the title suggests this is a "fluffy" book, Fiona Horne is not a "fluffy" witch.
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- Excellent application of the MBTI to relationship dynamics
- Just Your Type: Create the Relationship You've Always Wanted Using the Secrets of Personality Type
- Helps you understand all relationships, not just romantic
- Matches Every Type w/Every Other Type - Unique & Well Done!
- The best dating guide, divorce prevention, self-help book!
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Are men and women from different planets, or is it Personality Type, not gender, that rules the way they relate? The foremost experts in Personality Type, Paul D. Tieger and Barbara Barron-Tieger provide fresh insight into the mysteries of love. Drawing from years of experience as well as groundbreaking research, the authors offer an individualized approach to improving your love life: they help you figure out which of the 16 personality types best describes you and your partner; reveal the rewards and frustrations of your type combination; identify the essential aspects of a good relationship for each type; provide the best advice about communicating with your mate, and much more.
Customer Reviews:
Excellent application of the MBTI to relationship dynamics.......2006-06-06
Despite its somewhat maudlin title and front cover, this book is very interesting. It based on Jungian MBTI theory which in my view is a very powerful tool for understanding people's personality. The book itself is not theoretical: it gives a brief description of the 16 types and then there is a couple of pages for each of the 136 possible combinations. Much has been printed about the MBTI, but this one has a very interesting practical approach. For each combination, you find a paragraph on the strengths, a paragraph on the weaknesses, and a short list of key recommendations for each partner. Even if you know everything about Jungian psychology you can still discover some new insights on personality relationships. For the anecdote, my INTJ recommendation list (with my ESFJ wife) is a pretty goood summary of everything I do wrong at home !
Just Your Type: Create the Relationship You've Always Wanted Using the Secrets of Personality Type.......2005-07-12
This is a very easy to read book that is broken down into logical and useful sections. It is also a lot of fun.
Helps you understand all relationships, not just romantic.......2003-02-27
If you are into understanding yourself and your relationships with others, you will love this guide.
After decoding myself (ISTP), I decoded everyone I know well, and it helped me to understand how and why each of my relationships differ. I shared the book with my ESTP boyfriend and we laughed so hard we nearly cried, because the book described our relationship SO EXACTLY it was scary.
We all communicate and make decisions differently. This book explains how YOUR type and THEIR type interact, and how to avoid common pitfalls. It's not only helpful, but very eye-opening and fun.
Matches Every Type w/Every Other Type - Unique & Well Done!.......2003-02-08
I'm a huge MBTI nut, and I've read about MBTI book out there, including those from Britain, etc! This book is truly unique b/c it matches every type w/every other type, to show you the joys, pitfalls, and helpful suggestions. What should an ENTJ know about his/her INFP spouse? This book has very specific and personalized answers.
The best thing is, this isn't just a gimmick. It's VERY well done. The insights are superb and will tell you something new about not only your romantic relationships, but other important relationships as well.
My spouse & I have a wonderful relationship - over 10 years of wedded bliss - and we've also done a ton of Myers-Briggs analysis together. So I was shocked and delighted when my spouse read the piece comparing our types - and said, Hey, there are several things in here I want you to read! There were indeed "hints" that I needed to take to heart, things I never would have guessed but that did truly come from our type interaction.
The best dating guide, divorce prevention, self-help book!.......2002-10-31
First, it's important to know I have been a believer in the validity of the personality test upon which this book is based ... from my own experience in the 15 years since I first took the test as required for one of my science major classes in college, and because the test has a good reputation among professionals. The more people I persuade to take this test, the more impressed I am with the accuracy and validity of the test and the accuracy of several other books based upon the test. That's important information because this book can be no more accurate than the personality test upon which it is based. Secondly, the authors are internationally recognized experts in the application of the test results.
Having established that, in my opinion this particular book is more valuable than any of the other books I own based on that personality test because it presents the various personaly types in a more practical manner: exactly how each of the other types is compatible or incompatible with you, and specifically how to interact with each of the other types in order to minimize conflicts. I'm well into my second marriage now and am astounded by how accurately the good aspects and areas of conflict for both marriages were pinpointed in this book ...same goes for every other intimate relationship in my life where I knew the others' type .... it's like the book was written about me, for me! This book is priceless for those of you in the dating scene screening for Mr or Ms "Right for you" and not wanting to waste any time getting to the altar. Or if you think you're in love but are afraid it won't last, wondering what marriage to them would be like since 50% of marriages these days end in divorce. Or for those already married who want to strengthen their relationship and reduce conflicts .... it couldn't be spelled out more clearly and concisely exactly how to go about it for your individual relationship. This book helped me to get the clearest perspective on how others see me...to see the truth of how each relationship is more than just the sum of it's parts or partners, but that two individuals each effect how the other is in the relationship,... and taught me specifically how I can adapt for each of the various individuals in my life that I'd like to get along with better. More than any other book I've read about relationships, (and that's LOTS of books)this book gives pertinent advice tailored specifically for you and each one of your individual relationships. Other books speak generically to the masses based on "the majority" of people researched. My personality type is less than 1% of the population, yet this book still has a lot of accurate information and specific advice relevant to my individual needs. I think this book is the best money I ever spent and my praise doesn't get any better than that! I can see why the authors are internationally recognized experts in the application of this personality test.
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Are You Ready to Open to Love's Deepest Bliss?
Every woman knows the fairy tale: find the right man, give him what he wants and needs, and he'll love you forever. But when the myth you've been asked to believe fails to deliver—when you sense you've been settling for far less than you know in your heart is possible—how do you attract and keep a man capable of meeting what you most passionately yearn for? In Dear Lover: A Woman's Guide to Men, Sex, and Love's Deepest Bliss, David Deida explores every aspect of the feminine practice of spiritual intimacy, from sexuality and lovemaking to family and career to emotions, trust, and commitment. Written as a collection of letters from a man to his "dear lover," here is this internationally acclaimed writer's invitation to practice love as a living art, as you discover: • Why your man is always your choice—and how to pick the man of deep integrity who will satisfy the needs of your body, heart, and spirit • "Sexual essence" and the three stages of loving: how to understand your fluctuating capacity to experience divine connection with another • Knowing when to end a relationship and how to deal with the "him-shaped void" your absent man leaves behind • Daily exercises to help you and your partner move from separation to openness in two-bodied devotional trust Ultimately, what every woman wants is to give and receive love fully. Whether you're partnered or alone, Dear Lover reveals that "your love is the same love that yearns to open at everybody's heart. You will attract and inspire a man as willing and able to open as you are. Constant yearning is the call to open and give yourself to all as love's offering."
Customer Reviews:
disappointing.......2007-09-01
Talked of moving through multiple partners if one is not fulfilling. Did not provide ideas or guidelines for improving relationships.
WHY?!?!?.......2007-07-16
Couldn't David Deida be MY lover?? I mean, really??? This guide is an absolute MUST READ for women that like sex. It is, needless to say, imperative that women read it who don't like sex. ;-)
so repetitive !! .......2007-06-11
I dont understand why this book gets such good reviews.... the writing is mind numbingly repetitive and the point gets lost. David Deida was recommended to me but I find this book very disapointing.
There are better books out there ... Charles Muir comes to mind, Margot Anand.... and a multitude of others.
Excellent.......2007-02-06
A great book from a great writer.
Also highly recommend WAY OF THE SUPERIOR MAN,
and SECRETST OF SENSUAL LOVEMAKING by Leonardi.
Dear Lover: for every women who has ever yearned or denied her yearning.......2006-11-10
for a deep blissful spiritual connection with a partner. A tad of redundant mid way, but gets fresh again. I bought several copies to give away as gifts to other women in my life for inspiration. I could not put this book down. Do not hesitate to buy Dear Lover.
Book Description
This serious, no-holds-barred answer to The Rules gives single and divorced men a step-by-step guide for romantic success. Covers everything from how to meet women to making romance happen.
It's the 90s and the rules have all changed. This straightforward guide tells men how to handle this brave new dating world, providing complete step-by-step advice on everything from flirting to courtship, establishing intimacy, and maintaining a relationship.
Intended for single and divorced men who want to enjoy both casual and intimate relationships with the opposite sex, it delivers specific, detailed advice how and where to meet women today, how to talk to them, how to ask a woman out, how to prepare for a date and keep date conversation flowing. Directly addressing intimacy issues it reveals how to be a success romantically, discussing the five keys and five blocks to intimacy and safe sex in the 90s. Men will discover how to know if she's the one, and how to create a relationship for the long term. Copeland and Louis also cover how to know when it's over and how to end a relationship.
Providing clear, no-nonsense solutions for many difficult dating/relationship problems, this is an invaluable source of information and guidance for any man unsure of the ground rules of the new "dating game."
Customer Reviews:
Great book.. especially if your a computer geek or shy.........2007-08-16
I never had problems getting women.. However, This book is right on target. If you want a manual to getting laid.. this is definatly it..watch out though.. these traitors also have a book for women on how to watch out for guys like us that use this book..lol there getting it from both ends ;)
The only dating book you'll ever need!.......2007-08-09
I'm a college student with average looks. Not long ago I broke up with my first girlfriend and was having trouble getting back in the dating game. I was able win occasional dates, but rarely did these dud dates turn into something interesting. I needed extra help.
I gave this book a chance, and much to my surprise it had the answer key I was looking for. How to Succeed with Women is your own personal "Hitch" that will coach you all aspects in the art of seduction. Unlike other sources what merely present vague advice and tips, this book carefully lays out the do's/don't and tells you precisely how to handle females for success.
It covers every aspect of interacting with women: from how to meet them, to flirting, dating, the bedroom, and beyond. It will build your confidence, and get you understanding the universal psychology of how all females think. The best thing is how descriptive and straightforward it is. I particularly liked the imaginary scenarios presented with Bruce (an effective seducer) and Bob (the ineffective seducer). As you read through, you may even recognize Bob-like tendencies in yourself that can be easily corrected.
I have applied the material from this book and have met immediate success. As one chapter states, the system presented in this book works especially well on geeky/technical minded guys because it is simple as reading a manual! I agree - after putting this book to practice you will wish they had a chapter on handling too many babes. Better yet, fully applying it will help you reinvent your lifestyle to not only succeed with women, but to become a cool character capable of facing all challenges of life.
How to Succeed with Women...........2007-04-27
I read this book many years ago and came across it on Amazon. I read some of the reviews and thought I would offer my perspective. By way of context, I do professional and personal growth coaching and have a graduate education in both biochemistry and psychology. I also played in a band for 11 years and got to watch the dating world from a distance as well as the dynamics between men and women. As a young man, I wasn't shy and being in a band I had a good degree of success with women.
First of all, I do believe that the techniques in this book will really work with a lot of people. I think it plays into women's evolutionary biology and social conditioning. The problem I see with a lot of the contents, however, is that encourages you to be inauthentic and even manipulative. While I understand that to some extent flirting and playing the dating game is similar to sales, but at a certain point this can cross over to manipulation and I believe this book crosses that line.
Second, if you are not being yourself and a particularly attractive woman decides to date you, you will always have to hide who you are and you will never know if she would really love you for you. Also, most likely you will be found out and then your heart will be broken.
If your agenda is to have casual sex, then this book can most certainly help you to find what you are looking for. However, I have to wonder who would want to marry someone who doesn't see and treat women like fellow human beings. If they are doing the same thing in the dating market that seems to me to be their problem. In my case, I would rather invest in being a good person who really cares and finding someone who genuinely appreciates me for who I really am. While I might end up getting less sex, I would most likely have better quality sex with less risk and with a clear conscience.
Something I wondered about philosophically when I did read this book was if I am being phoney and I run across the right woman, she might not recognize me and I could miss the opportunity of a lifetime. In short, if you really believe you have something worthwhile to offer, then why resort to manipulation? If you don't believe you have something worthwhile to offer than why not change that? Resorting to manipulation to get women seems to me like a tacit acceptance that you are not OK as you are. In the long run, I don't see how that could be good for a person's self esteem.
On the other hand, there is a lot of worthwhile content in the book that is good advice, entertaining or at least food for thought. I wouldn't discourage any man from reading this book and deciding what is ethical for him.
Finally, while I do believe there is a tendency for women to want good looking, athletic, attractive and wealthy men, this evolutionary programming is not necessarily destiny. There seems to be many layers to the human psyche and while women and men may have some biological hardwiring, they are also wired to bond and form a family. In this context, intelligence, kindness, conversational ability, vulnerability, love, compassion and the ability to form authentic connections is also a BIG turn on. Personally, I think a man ought to decide what is his most important values and develop them to the fullest, then find a woman who finds these things sexy and valuable. That sounds like a recipe for long term success.
As someone who works with individuals and couples, I hear a lot of heart breaking stories about infidelity, lying, and incompatability. I see a lot of people who waste effort on things without lasting value. Why not become the type of person you want to find and that trust that like will attract like? I have found that this is the best and most fulfilling approach to dating.
Some books you might enjoy that are in a similar vein, but stress long-term happiness are: The Way Of The Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Woman, Work, and Sexual Desire, Finding God Through Sex: Awakening The One Of Spirit Through The Two Of Flesh, Are You the One for Me?: Knowing Who's Right and Avoiding Who's Wrong and Be the Person You Want to Find: Relationship and Self-Discovery.
If you want to understand evolutionary psychology around mating, then I strongly recommend The Evolution of Desire: Strategies of Human Mating. Another good book that looks at the psychological dimensions of the erotic is The Erotic Mind: Unlocking the Inner Sources of Passion and Fulfillment. These last two books are "must haves" in my book. You may also enjoy the The Female Brain to get a better understanding of women. The more you understand about people (including yourself), sexuality and life at all levels, the better you will be as a sex partner, mate and human being. That has been my formula to meet interesting people and you may want to temper some of what you learn in HOW TO SUCCEED WITH WOMEN in a larger embrace. If you are in a place were casual sex is the only thing on the agenda, then the first two books in this paragraph would also be interesting and educational about the mating dynamics that this book is largely based upon.
I read it carefully and used it.......2007-02-10
I bought this book quite a while ago. At the time I was completely lonely. I had never been on a date, I was so shy I couldn't talk to women, and I had no idea how socializing worked. This book helped me understand how women think and how I should be thinking.
First of all, you should be aware that in the beginning of the book they give you advice that is in line with what a real therapist would tell you. The problem with that is you have to spend a potentially long time to get your life get to the point they advise. Basically they tell you to get your life in order, clean up, be passionate about your life, be proud of yourself and who you are, etc., you know the deal. So NO, this book is NOT a quick-fix. But it does tell you in rational/logical man-speak WHY you should follow this time-honored advice (that everyone tells you, and they give suggestions how to get on that path) and what exactly that attitude will do for you when it comes to women. However, if you can't do everything (let's say you're a natural born ugly or you're overweight), they offer some work-arounds and examples to help you out and how you can overcome some things by strengthening other aspects of you.
So now that you got that out of the way, finish reading the book and you will see they give you straight up advice about how to make things go your way. They don't tell you it's going to be easy. In fact, they tell you it's going to be hard, it's going to be a numbers game, but you have to keep at it because that is what winners do. It all makes logical sense. It makes you realize you probably give up way too easily when even the best players probably lose more times than you ever have.
I took the advice from the book and applied it to my thinking. When I started changing my reasoning and outlook to what they advised, talking to women and understanding why they acted the way they do made so much more sense. I had the knowledge to react to females accordingly. It took practice, and they say it will, but I got to the point where I was really getting positive responses from women and eventually getting touched, kissed, dating, and eventually landed one for real after a year or so of practice.
I don't totally owe my success to this book. I changed my life and this book just was one of the many things that helped. But I do owe it a lot of credit for teaching me how I should change my thinking to make it more female-friendly.
Very complete, but that's also it's biggest flaw.......2007-02-05
I'll make it short because many reviewers have already explained most of the stuff in this book.
If you've never dealt with the opposite sex, the information in this big book will help you to actually start having success. Although it is heavy focused on thinking rommantically, and full of pages with obvious-dressing-and-behaving tips for clueless guys, it will make you think about starting to improve your love life and put you in the right direction to flirt everywhere and become more social.
However, if you have already had women in your life, you know what you want (maybe just casual sex for example), dress well, already are a very social person, psychological-healthy, then you will find more than the half of the book with concepts you already know.
For the 'player' kind of guys, you will still find some useful information, but it is up to you if having 5 or 10% of new tips for you is worth the price of the paperback.
I can understand how six years ago this book was a hit, but nowadays, there's lot of info out there about dating, seduction and socializing, simpler and easier to read and start applying it instantly. However, it is still a recommended classic for guys who've never had a woman in their lives.
Book Description
Dr. Patricia Allen's jam-packed seminars in Los Angeles have resulted in over two thousand marriages. Now you too can take advantage of this proven step-by-step program.
Here's what you'll learn:
- How to attract the right man
- When you should make the first move...and when you should not
- Why equality in a relationship may not be what you're looking for
- Why sex before commitment is a bad deal
- How to have sensational sex
- What makes a man run away from a relationship
- How to know when you're giving too much
- How to get what you want without asking
- What makes a man want to commit
- How to BE ENGAGED TO THE RIGHT MAN WITHIN A YEAR!
Customer Reviews:
Five Stars for Pat Allen.......2007-09-19
I know this book isn't for everyone. The information in it can ruffle more than feathers. Yet, in my experience of dating - and beyond - I find it to be true. Personally, when I follow Dr. Allen's tenents I get what I want in a relationship - and more! I find it true for myself that when I let a man cherish me, I feel respected. And when I respect my man, he feels cherished. Like skiing - at first it's a bit counter-intuitive. But when I put it into practice, I saw the benefits.
It was a true honor when Dr. Allen endorsed my book Never Trust A Man In Alligator Loafers. We're all learning, growing, and trying new things. I applaud any woman who commits to her own happiness - whatever that may be.
Choose only one - being respected or cherished.......2007-02-09
Judging High School science fairs and watching "Teen Jeopardy" takes me back to the time when my friends and I were full of energy and curiosity. Well, Pat Allen has a disheartening message for such women: unless you hide your smarts, expect to be respected but not cherished in romantic relationships. According to Allen, a relationship requires that one partner be the consistently receptive (read passive) "female" energy who vetoes what the active partner ("male energy") initiates. This goes from picking which movie to watch to figuring out major life plans.
What hope of being cherished is there for the bright, energetic females I see all around me? Well, you may be a company VP, Neurosurgeon or Police Detective. But prepare to act the '50's housewife in your relationship, so that hubby/bf doesn't view you as an honorary man and becomes confused as to how to treat you except - you guessed it - as a Man! Maybe some women have the energy to maintain a Jekyll and Hyde persona 24/7/365. Consider the logistical pretzel twisting required to maintain your feminine energy, which I'd love to see Dr. Allen address. Let me come up with a real-life scenario to illustrate my point : is a "feminine energy" CEO expected to structure her life so that her husband never hears her end of the conversation when she call a coworker from home, 'cause you don't want him to guess how competent, smart and decisive you really are? How delusional do you really expect a man to be about his girlfriend or wife's decision-making capabilities once he's remotely aware of her high responsibility profession? If you are one of those chameleons, go ahead and read this book if you want your man to cherish you. Otherwise, don't bother.
Every Woman Should Read This.......2007-01-10
Wow, what a great book. Every woman should read it. If you keep falling for the wrong guy and having sex way too soon, then getting dumped, you need to read this. Women have to avoid sex with a man they meet until they find out his TRUE INTENTIONS. If you want a long term relationship leading to committment and marriage, then you HAVE to read this book because if that is not what HE wants, then you waste yourself and your precious body on a dead-end relationship. The book tells you what to do and what NOT to do. Read it, and change your life for the better.
Very Helpful Book.......2006-08-16
This book will help you understand masculine/feminine relationships----not the way you'd "like" them to be but the the way they are in reality. Through understanding the reality of relationships, you'll be able to keep a stable relationship and even "change roles" when appropriate. Awareness is better than "unawareness". Recommended. Email boland7214@aol.co
Terrible.......2006-07-13
Don't waste your time any further. Save yourself time, money, and mental energy by looking elsewhere for self-help.
PLEASE, do not buy this book.
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