Book Description
Wholeness and Healing for Women Caught in the Crossfire.
As the wife of a man who is addicted to lust, pornography, or masturbation, you are not alone. Millions of men can’t get through the day or the week without clicking on to their favorite Internet porn sites, thumbing through adult magazines, or watching sensual videos–and millions of wives suffer as a result.
Over the past decade, nearly 400,000 men have found inspiration and hope in Every Man’s Battle, the best-selling men’s guide to victory over sexual sin. Now, here at last is the book for every woman who has become a casualty in the fight for sexual purity. Every Heart Restored offers godly guidance and wisdom for a woman facing such personal betrayal.
“WHAT DOES GOD EXPECT FROM ME?”
“HOW CAN I TRUST AGAIN?”
“IS IT POSSIBLE TO OVERCOME PAIN AND UNFORGIVENESS?”
“CAN MY MARRIAGE BE REBUILT?”
“WHAT IF I JUST WANT OUT?”
Filled with stories from wives and husbands at every stage in the struggle for sexual purity, Every Heart Restored addresses the questions and real-life issues that matter to you most. Whether you are facing the startling new revelation of your husband’s sin, dealing with a long-term problem, or cleaning out an old wound, Every Heart Restored will meet you where you are and guide you to healing greater than you imagine possible.
Also available: Every Heart Restored Workbook
Customer Reviews:
Deceptive Title.......2007-07-14
If you've just been hit with the revelation of your husband's "secret life", this book may not help. The title is deceptive because it implies that you will be healed after reading it.(Healing is God's job!) I was frustrated with the first few chapters, because it dealt with man's sexuality rather than the wife's torment. My raw agony was nowhere to be found within the pages of this book. However, this book was still useful. Overall, the book was all right.
There were nuggets of practical advice and hope. I liked the way views from both wives and husbands were presented. The most important thing I learned was that it is possible for a husband to love his wife and still sin against her. I don't understand it or like it, but I believe it and this book does a good job of introducing that concept. I also learned a lot about the importance of a Christian wife's role of encouraging her husband spiritually. I liked Fred's description about how Brenda influenced him by lovingly refusing to accept anything less than righteousness from him. I also liked Brenda's attitude that her destiny is forever entwined with Fred's and that when one sins it pollutes the stream for both of them.
If you are in deep pain right now, understand that healing will take lots of time and lots of God. This book won't fix you or your marriage, but it can give you some insight and encouragement. For biblical healing, I strongly recommend "Lord Heal My Hurts" by Kay Arthur.
Great book.......2007-06-29
I'm half-way through it. So far, it is a really great book w/ super insight. I highly recommend it. Best description for this book would be "lifechanging".
WHAT A GREAT BOOK! .......2007-02-23
This is an outstanding book. This addresses a very real problem and does it in terms we can all understand. It is an easy read and includes enough actual stories from actual people to cross the bounds of "it could never happen to us" Thanks Fred and Brenda!
You are NOT alone!.......2006-09-02
This book has helped me realize that I am not alone and that it is completely NORMAL to have these types of feelings.
Women share their personal stories and feelings in this book. Wisdom is handed out to help you make your own decisions.
One word of caution...personally, it kind of fueled my fire in a way...not sure how to describe it, but it almost gave me more bullets against my husband.
It's not a feel good read by any means, but it is a should read.
Realistic and helpful steps to restoration.......2006-08-27
Understanding why your spouse was stupid enough to become entangled in the porno web is one thing; forgiving him and restoring your relationship is quite another. This book lays it all bare and gives practical counsel that, if followed, will help a woman wanting to accomplish that end.
Some reviewers of this book expressed disappointment with the focus on pornography and masterbation, but I bought it anyway. Adultery begins in the mind. With easy access to internet pornography, thoughts are turned into images. Sexual obsessions have mental, spiritual, and emotional ramifications. Each has to be acknowledged and addressed. This means going back to where it begins. Cut off a weed at its roots and it will die. This is a good book for women who are truly ready to forgive.
Book Description
Here is a scripturally based blueprint for the woman who truly desires to be the wife God intended her to be. This book is based on Proverbs 31:10: An excellent wife, who can find? For her worth is far above jewels. Thousands of women have already discovered the worth of this volume and testify to lives and marriages changed because of a commitment to the principles presented here. If this is a commitment you have made, or want to make, The Excellent Wife answers the difficult questions facing you today.
Customer Reviews:
Great for small groups!.......2007-10-09
I am currenting using "The Excellent Wife" book and study guide with a small group of women. It is an excellent resource for helping women understand God's design for women in marriage. It is very biblically based. You won't find many stories in this book, rather author Martha Peace shares from her wisdom and experience as a Christian counselor the principles and scriptures that she has found most valuable in her counseling with women. I would encourage every church to include "The Excellent Wife" in their women's Bible study curriculum.
For those who are ready to be humble.......2007-08-23
This book was about more than just being a good wife. Many of the principles she draws from remind the reader about being a closer Christ follower in general. Submission is a big topic in this book, and honestly, more wives need a clearer picture of what that really is. Do not miss the sections, where, she explains that submissive wives are NOT doormats.. but faithful helpers who submit to their husbands at the same time being used by God to refine him into the man God wants him to be.
I wish I could give it a negative star.......2007-06-28
I was recently married, and an in-law gave me "The Excellent Wife" as a present. I would have prefered a dish towel.
My husband and I didn't know whether to laugh or cry as we read this book. "The Excellent Wife" is probably the most disturbing book written by a "Christian" that I have ever read. Martha Peace actually advocates that battered wives stay with their husbands who hurt them. She says that the correct thing to think when your husband hurts you is this: "My husband may hurt me again. I hope not, but if he does, I will just have to let him and glorify the Lord." What kind of advice is that? Women who are getting hurt by their husbands need to get out of the marriage!
I was so disgusted by this patriarchal and mysogynistic book that I am going to throw it out! I was considering selling it on Ebay, and making $2 off it, but I don't want to be responsible for a battered woman reading this filth and deciding to stay with her abusive husband!
An Excellent wife can have an opinion........2007-06-28
I found the book to be unrealistic at times, every marriage is different. Every wife is different. I have been married to my husband for 10 years and we have mutual submission to each other and we rely on each others strengths.This book says that you should agree with every thing your husband says except if he asks you to sin. I respect my husband as the head of the house hold because that is what the bible says, but every man needs a storng woman thats not gonna just agree to everything. I don't recommend this book for wives with husbands that are not following the Lord. Read the bible, pray and seek Godly counsel from real people.
Even with four stars, still one of the best books on marriage........2007-04-29
This book overall was very good. Martha Peace is very biblical in her writing and uses Scripture accurately. Some of the arguements of other reviewers is that Martha Peace speaks of obedience and that she is wrong in doing that. Sadly, those reviewers must be unaware that the concept of obedience was not invented by Martha Peace but by God, and she speaks of obedience in the right way:
"Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, 2 when they see your respectful and pure conduct.
5 For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands, 6 as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. And you are her children, if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening."
1 Peter 3:1-2,5-6
Notice that verse 6 says Sarah is our example because she OBEYED Abraham, calling him lord.
Okay, now that I've said that... My only concern with this book is how Martha Peace addresses the issue of confrontation. She believes that it is okay for a wife to gently, meekly confront her husband everytime he sins. Though we are instructed to confront sin, I think that in marriage it is often better for the wife to be silent more often than to "rebuke" her husband. (And I am speaking from my own experience.)
Even when I gently "rebuke" my husband, he sees that as nagging. When I let him be won "without a word", and instead actively fear God myself, I have found this to be much, much more effective. That is not to say that I don't ever address issues in my husbands life, but the rule of thumb is to be silent more often than I confront. She urges confrontation more than silence.
If I could take out these passages in the book, I would definitely have given the book 5 stars. Overall though, as far as books on marriage go, it would still be in the top three books available.
Product Description
How would you describe the spiritual aroma of your home? The source of this aroma is the relationship between husband and wife. Many can fake an attempt at keeping God's standards in some external way. What we cannot fake is the resulting, distinctive aroma of pleasure to God.
Reforming Marriage does what few books on marriage do today: it provides biblical advice. Douglas Wilson points to the need for obedient hearts on the part of both husbands and wives. Godly marriages proceed from obedient hearts, and the greatest desire of an obedient heart is the glory of God.
Customer Reviews:
A must-read for husbands and wives.......2007-09-19
I bought this as a wedding gift for my best friend and her husband who just got married. I thought the book would get them much, much farther in life than a stainless steel place setting. ;) In all seriousness, this book is a phenomenal read, implementing biblical principles in a very readable style. Some books tell you what not to do; this book explains *why*. I highly recommend Reforming Marriage for husbands and wives, or even engaged couples preparing for marriage.
Letting God's word rule our household.......2007-09-15
We've found that every book we've looked at on marriage (about a dozen to date) written by Christians is seldom much better than sanctified common sense. At best, the world's issues and agendas are given a Christian perspective. That's well and good, but not enough and not a good starting point.
Doug and Nancy Wilson have written a refreshingly liberating book: let's start with God's word, the sufficient and gracious word of our loving Heavenly Father, and see what He says. Heart-warming and intensely practical it has helped us love one another deeply and have a stronger sense of the role of our household.
If you're only going to read one book on marriage, this is it. If you're going to read more than one, this should be at the top of your list.
So far, the Best Book on Marriage in the Christian Home.......2007-07-08
As I was listening to this audiobook, I was impressed that Douglas Wilson stuck with the Biblical concepts of marriage. The concepts of this book is exactly what is needed in today's world. It is refreshing to see someone going back to the Bible basics on what a Christian Home should be like. I recommend this to be part of any Church study for couples young and old.
Married or Not Here It Is Straight From the Bible.......2007-07-05
Amazing how God gives us exactly what we need at the very moment we need it. Read this to find out what submissive really means and what respect really is in a marriage. Why God wired women and men differntly? To compliment one another, help one another. To bad we are all so self absorbed to see what Amazing Grace really has been given to us.
Love at first sight, but then..........2007-02-27
I suppose I am the only male to give this book less than five stars, but here goes. There are many good points in this book (which is why I gave it two stars, and might even give three), but there is a major foundational error. The error is three-fold (1) Man's calling, (2) God's love and (3) spiritual authority
Before my wife became ill I believed that I was "called to be a missionary" and my wife was "called to me." This view would be in complete agreement with Wilson's book and theology. Sounds great, but now I see that this was very wrong. After my wife's illness she had no energy to "help me" in my vocation, but she became even more beautiful and priceless to me. As I have watched her grow over the years I am amazed at the work that God is doing through her and I have no doubt she is the greater in the Kingdom of God.
While my voaction is missions, and my wife's vocation is a homemaker --OUR CALLING IS CHRIST!!! A single woman can fulfill this calling as well (if not better than) a married woman. Wilson's view of vocation is nothing more than the Christianized version of "Stand by your man."
In this book Wilson says, "...he (husband) faces his future and calling under God, and she (wife), by his side, faces him." No wonder so many people hate to hear the Christian Right Wing talk about authority! Can you imagine saying, "he (the pastor) faces his future and calling under God, and she (the church), by his side, faces him"? This statement shows a complete misunderstanding of the spiritual authority that is vested in the husband, and makes him to be more of a "god" than a servant.
While I applaude (in part) Wilson's teaching on efficatious love (love that affects change) I disapprove of Wilson's attack on romance as though it were simply the product of sin and hormones. He presents the "ideal" love as one that focuses on "duty" and "transformation", rather than "sentiment or emotion." I am firmly convinced that this is very unhealthy, and a pathetic onesided view of a holy God who is Love.
I am sorry, Mr. Wilson, but Christ's love for his bride is very passionate and yes even sentimental. I suggest a fresh reading of the Song of Solomon with a Christ centered perspective. Christ is infatuated with His bride.
I for one have much more sentiment toward my wife now than I did when we were 18 years younger. I actually find joy in serving my bride and sister in Christ. I delight in seeing her prosper in ministry to our children, and to younger ladies in the Church. I see her as my equal. I am not her Lord, Christ is. I am only her authority, and in the Christian world that makes me the servant.
No, godly love is not simple infatuation, but it most certainly involves much more than duty. Godly love involves actions, feeling and emotions, and if I may be bold -- PASSION.
Book Description
Raise Him Right
Women are complicated. Men spend years in marriage trying to figure out how to love and understand their wives, only to wind up frustrated and ready to give up. Who better to help a man begin to understand a woman than his mother? While you hope and pray for your son’s future marriage, the time for your powerful influence is now! Don’t wait for the world to change its morality; let Preparing Him for the Other Woman show you how to shape your son’s character and teach him how to interpret the heart of a woman. Find ways to make your home a place of refuge, growth, and peace as you guide him toward becoming the kind of man who looks to God for guidance in loving his wife well.
What Kind of Husband
Will Your Son Grow Up to Be?
His is a generation of boys who have better relationships with their Game Boxes, i-Pods, televisions, and computers than they do with their families. His understanding of marriage is that it has little hope for success, witnessing a fifty percent divorce rate both inside and outside of the church. His world is one where pornography is no longer a hidden shame, but encouraged as entertainment.
Can you raise your son to one day love, lead, and protect
a wife and family in a world like this?
The answer is yes. The heartbeat of this book is to give you the tools to help your son become a tender warrior who will one day fight for his family, a godly husband who will faithfully love his wife, and a leader who will be a man of his word.
The time is now to take your love, tears, prayers, and influence and pour them into his future. Even if our world does not change its moral fiber, you can influence your son and bring hope to the next generation. It’s an opportunity of a lifetimeâyours.
âNot only is this an amazing concept, but it meets an urgent need for every mother of boys.â
Lisa Bevere
Speaker and author of Fight Like a Girl and Kissed the Girls and Made Them Cry
âI have three sons, two stepsons, two son-in-laws, and nine grandsons! Any help I can glean to give me more wisdom is welcome. I would have welcomed more help like this when I was a young mother raising my young men for âthe other woman.’â
LeeAnn Rawlins
Coauthor, To Love Again
Story Behind the Book
When the manager of a large Christian bookstore told Sheri Rose Shepherd that readers of the popular His Princess TM series were futilely looking for material about raising their sons to be godly future husbands, she knew she could help. âThink about how much farther all men would be in their marriages if their moms had trained them how to one day love and understand their wives,â says Sheri Rose . âWe can take all the mistakes we’ve made in our lives and use them to teach our sons the right way to live. And we can use our most powerful weapon of allâour prayersâto fight for them.â
Customer Reviews:
A Mother's Guide.......2007-09-09
I teach parenting classes for a Pregnancy center located in the lowerclass section of a large city. Many of our mom's are single and trying to raise their family without a lot of support from the fathers.They also din't have good role models in their own families while growing up.
I used this book as the topic for our Mother's Day luncheon. It gave them encouragement that they COULD make a difference! I also included the book, The Power of a Praying Parent..because they need God's help and guidance in raising their children.
Our mom's LOVED the class!
Letting him "go" is easier than you think...she'll show you how.......2007-06-12
This is, by far, my very favorite book on this subject matter that I have ever read. It has compelled me to write a review on it; I sent the link to my sister and friends and they all RAVED about it. More than anything, it has helped me to begin treating my "tiny husband" (as I used to think of him as) as a young man with a godly purpose to his life and doing it step-by-step this early on (he's 6)...which will help me to "let go" when God brings his wife to him someday. It will also allow him to "leave and cleave" to his wife in a healthy manner.
It has also helped me to begin truly loving his future wife and anticipating her arrival one day; I now pray more fervently for her.
My husband related to it so well, too. When I read to him that her husband's mother had been praying for her since she was a little girl, he actually choked up, as his mother died when he was a little boy. He's known that my mother always prayed for him - and I read that passage to him on his mother's birthday to let him know that he was never alone. We both now are treating our son in a manner to which he feels inspired to be a godly man, husband and father.
Simple, practical, loving, and Christ-following. This is my guide to loving my son and helping him to be the man that God calls him to be. Thank you, Shari Rose!
timely delivery.......2007-05-29
I received my book order within a week and in very good order.
Thank you Amamzon
Sons are Awesome!!!.......2007-05-09
I am the mother of 4 sons. I wish I had read this book years ago when I was a young mother.
I am also a teacher of young kids and through the years I have seen a decline in respect among children.
This book had some really awesome ideas for how to totally bond with a son, beginning at a very young age.
It teaches how to show young boys how to respect women!!!!!!!
I am lucky that I had my 4th son later in life, so I did do things right with him. And what the book says is true...if you show boys how to behave, they will. My son is now almost 16 and to this day loves to spend time with me, even in front of his peers. He craves personal time and touch with his momma. I know he is going to grow into an awesome husband who will respect and love women.
So if you are a mother of boys, definately get this book. It would also make a wonderful baby gift to a new mom!!
Laurie :-)
Boost I needed.......2007-01-29
I loved this book! This type of book was one that I had been looking for for a long time. I have a 14 year old son and also work for an organization that works with single moms. I am also ordering this book for my staff who have sons. I was feeling helpless since reading other books that put so much stress on dads being a part of their son's lives and leaving out what moms can do. I agree with dads being the important element in their son's lives 100 percent, but what about the son who doesn't have a father figure or whose father is not active in the son's life? This book gives helpful and easy information for any mom to understand and apply. I highlighted many things in my book so I have a quick reference when I slip up and stop encouraging my son like I want to be. It might be common sense to some moms but to some of the moms I know, this book will be great! It's an easy read, even for someone who doesn't care to read much.
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- Motzart and the Whale
- Insightful and Frustrating
- Really wanted this book
- Their honesty is refreshing.
- Painful, poignant, and hilarious: a rocky road to love
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Mozart and the Whale: An Asperger's Love Story
Jerry Newport ,
Mary Newport , and
Johnny Dodd
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Book Description
A riveting and inspiring memoir about a couple who fell in love, fell apart, and finally overcame the pressures of fame, family, and Asperger's syndrome to build a life together.
When Jerry and Mary Newport met, the connection was instant; neither had ever felt more comfortable. A musical genius and a mathematical wonder, the two shared astronomical IQs, but they also shared something else -- they both were diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome, a form of autism that affects millions of Americans and makes social contact painfully unbearable. Finding each other after a lifetime of loneliness was a miracle. When Jerry and Mary married, they were catapulted into the limelight. They appeared on 60 Minutes and soon were known as "superstars in the world of autism," shining examples of two people who refused to give up in the face of their mutual challenges.
But just when it appeared that their lives would enjoy a fairy-tale ending, their marriage fell apart. The Hollywood feeding frenzy was too much to handle, and they divorced. After years of heartache, soul searching, and personal growth, Jerry and Mary remarried. Today, with their union stronger than ever, they have dedicated themselves to helping countless other people with Asperger's and autism lead lives of dignity. Mozart and the Whale is an unforgettable love story, the incredible chronicle of their journey together -- and apart.
Customer Reviews:
Motzart and the Whale .......2007-10-10
Very good book, well written, would recommend it to anyone who someone with autism. AAA+++
Insightful and Frustrating.......2007-08-26
"Mozart and the Whale" is the story of two people with Asperger's. Despite their areas of competence and even brilliance (Jerry and mathematics), they fail to rise above entry-level jobs such as taxi-driver, librarian assistant, cashier, etc. due to being held back by lacking normal career drive and planning, unpredictable and uncontrollable rages, inability to form normal social relationships and emotional connections, not answering the phone at times, and self-focus, as well as inappropriate job behavior.
The authors take us through their early lives, meeting and marrying, splitting, and finally joining up again. The bad news is that both come close to suicide, and the good news is that they eventually find happiness together.
What is the solution? Jerry suggests understanding adults during one's early life are very helpful, but that marrying Asperger's people together is not a solution - eg. the male/female ratio is about 4:1.
My "frustration" with the book? That so much is lost due to a slightly different DNA, internal brain wiring and/or chemical balance.
Really wanted this book.......2007-04-12
After seeing the movie and meeting Jerry and Mary Newport really wanted and needed the book. Usually like books over the movies. So glad to have and I am reading it right now. Good to have it.
Their honesty is refreshing........2007-04-09
This book is an honest account of growing up autistic. The authors do not, as many authors on the spectrum do, attempt to force-fit their lives into some sort of mold. They describe their lives as they were, the good, the bad, and the ugly.
In doing so, they have made a book that's easier for me as an autistic person to identify with, than a lot of the books in which people fit themselves to a mold. I loved reading about Mary's increased trouble in school during adolescence, I had the same problem, and some of the same responses to it. While it was a confusing and horrible time in my life as far as my own experience of it goes, it might have been less confusing if I'd had a book like this at the time. If Mary Newport reads this, I want to thank her for writing about that.
I also like their unflinching looks at their flaws. The ability to look at oneself honestly without shying away from the bad parts is something I have admired, and wanted to emulate, for some time.
The most important thing that I got out of this book, more than the many complex details in the lives of the authors, was the honesty, the ability to tell it like it was to the best of the authors' ability. I am glad they wrote it, and glad to read it: It is a refreshing change from a lot of what's out there in the world of autism literature.
Painful, poignant, and hilarious: a rocky road to love.......2007-03-06
Jerry and Mary were both adults before they learned there was a name for the way they were - Asperger's Syndrome - or "autism-lite" as Jerry dubs it. They met in middle age after a lifetime of no relationships (him) or destructive relationships (her), and their moving, painful and funny memoir starts out at their nadir - apart and suicidal.
But even as Jerry lies miserable, waiting for the 60 pills he took to do their job, he's distracted. "For an instant, I started to obsess about the number sixty, mulling over what an interesting number it is and how I never imagined I'd die because of it. Sixty is the product of 2 times 2 times 3 times 5. Sixty is the number of degrees of arc covered by the side of a hexagon inscribed inside a circle. Each side equals the radius, and the hexagon is made of six equilateral triangles linked together. Fold them all outside and you get six more, forming a total of twelve which makes a Star of David with one equilateral triangle for each tribe of Israel...."
Jerry is a numbers savant who aced an actuarial exam without the prerequisite education, but couldn't get through the interview. He's worked mostly as a courier and a cab driver. Mary is an artistic savant. Painting and music are her passions and she, too, has had a series of jobs, including cook and hairdresser.
Taking off from the lowest point, they alternate chapters, tracing their lives from childhood and the frustrations and loneliness they felt trying to fit in. Much of it is painful; attempts to cope with confusion and alienation, bullying from other children, intense family dynamics. But there are joyous moments of epiphany and accomplishment - usually alone. And there is humor throughout.
Their early relationship is wildly joyous. They delight in each other's talents and eccentricities. But when they move in together things change. Jerry is regimented and insecure; Mary is spontaneous and unpredictable. Jerry is given to terrible tantrums, Mary is plagued by depression.
By the time they marry their relationship is hanging on by sheer will, rather than compromise and understanding. Neither of them are any good at reading non-verbal cues or putting themselves in the other's place. But neither wants to be alone and there are enough good times to put off the inevitable crash and burn.
The alternating chapters illuminate one another. There are surprises - things that loom large for one go unmentioned by the other, for instance, and the honesty, brutal at times, is both disarming and uncomfortable.
We know from the beginning that they reconcile. The learning curve as they begin to manage their demons and consider one another more deliberately is affecting and admirable.
The Newports' memoir offers an intimate window on life and love with Aspergers. Their quirks and brilliance enliven the narrative and show the reader a different perspective on the world. An eye-opening, heart-wrenching read, leavened with humor and hope.
Book Description
Linda Dillow gracefully and succinctly motivates Christian women to reach for more than they are currently experiencing in their marriages. She includes creative suggestions on how to encourage your husband, live above your circumstances, and develop a plan whereby you can begin to become the woman, wife, and mother that you long to be. She describes a creative counterpart as being more than just a helper. She is a woman who, having chosen (or having found herself in) the vocation of wife and mother, decides to learn and grow in all the areas of this role and to work as though she were aiming for the presidency of a corporation. Also included is a Bible study and project guide, which work perfectly for personal study or small group interaction.
Customer Reviews:
Helpful and concise.......2007-09-11
I am really enjoying this book. I can tell this will be the type of book I'd read over and over again. Linda Dillow is so "real" and uses so much scripture in her examples and applications to living the Christian woman's life.
Great book.......2007-07-25
I did enjoy this book, however I only gave 4/5 stars because it did not focus much on becoming the "Mother You Have Longed to Be." It did had many good points about being a "creative counterpart" in relation to being a wife.
Life changing and Marriage changing..........2007-04-10
I have read many books on how to be a better wife and this is the only one that doesn't make me chaff! Linda puts it all together in a beautiful format that causes you to strife to be a better counterpart!
A gift from God.......2005-08-26
I stumbled upon this book completely by accident. Shortly before our wedding, I was helping my then-fiance pack up some items for storage. I found this book stashed in his bookcase. A family friend had given this book to his first wife in effort to help them work on their marriage and find Christ again. Unfortunately for both of them, she wasn't interested in leading a Christian life and their marriage ended. Thankfully, this book found it's way into my hands shortly before our wedding, and it provided me with excellent pool-side reading during our honeymoon. This book has been a blessing in my life and I re-read it every few months for renewed conviction and encouragement. Mrs. Dillow is a fantastic author; this book is an easy read that is honest and very practical. I give this book as a gift at every bridal shower I attend.
Pick this one!.......2005-01-09
I have read nearly a dozen books on growing as a wife and/or mother in the past two years, and this is by far the best overall book I have come accross. Dillow writes in a very concise, purposeful and poignant way. Dillow consitently writes the best study questions I have seen in women's books. They are thoughtful, challenging and always very practical. Dillow is both practical and deeply theological.
Chapter 4, called "priority planner" provides the best organizational scheme for ordering your daily life and home that I have seen. I have always been very organized, but Dillows plan took my daily routine to another level - a much more peaceful and fruitful one. I especially recommend this book for moms with several small children who have very little time, or with women who are making home their full time job for the first time and need some help learning how to self manage their time 24-7.
I suggest grabbing your best friend or two and reading this book together, following the study guide in the back. Most of us need the accountability and friendship to process the deep and challenging things that Dillow presents in this classic book. This book would work very well as a curriculum for a church class. Our church also uses it for 1 - 1 mentorship.
Book Description
What can a woman do to improve her husband's life? That's the question J.S. Salt asked more than a thousand husbands (ages 18-82). Engaging, funny, honest and revealing, here's the definitive guide to what men need from their wives. Finally, men reveal:
* What to do when he wants to go off with the guys
* How to criticize (if you must)
* What to do when you KNOW he's wrong
* How to deal with his shortcomings
* Two little words that can make life a lot easier
* What to do once in a while
* What to do a lot more often
Like its companion book, How to Be the Almost Perfect Husband by Wives Who Know, this insider's guide will surely serve as a catalyst for conversation leading couples to deeper understanding, better relationships, and improved ... everything!
Customer Reviews:
great book!.......2007-03-08
I just received this book today and have already read completely through it. I had my husband go through it and highlight all the things he wanted me to work on. I think this book is going to be great for my marriage. Great book!
Fuel for the Newlywed Soul.......2007-01-04
This book is by no means a wonderpill for awful relationships or a bible for the newlyweds, but no book really is. What this serves as is more of a running start for people who plan to stay together forever. The advice is sound and badly needed, although some of the "experts" have been divorced several times. Other than that, it's a solid four out of five as far as good advice for long, loving relationships. And the reader doesn't feel like they're being psychoanalyzed by a book. This is the healthy marriage book for people who don't want to be therapied to death.
good ideas.......2004-09-02
There are many good ideas throughout this book. Some are obvious, but still a good bit of information. You can learn how to be the wife your husband desires. There is not a lot of depth, however. It is a collection of quotes and nothing more. Why not ask your husband how you can be his perfect wife?
Filled with gold nuggets for improving your relationship.......2004-04-23
As an Author, Coach, and Motivational Speaker I read alot of books about people, their motivations, and their relationships. Wow, How to Be the Almost Perfect Wife is a guys version of a relationship conversation. It's short, direct, and impactful.
Ladies, please read and act on the items listed in this book. Some of the most important for me are:
** Be my cheerleader. Believe that I have the talent to achieve my dreams, even if it takes longer than I ever imagined.
** I love it when you just listen to show you understand. I also love it when you challenge me with a different perspective.
** If I want to go to bed later than you it doesn't mean I don't love you. It means I want to go to bed later than you.
** Pounce on me unexpectedly
Get a copy of this book and use it in your relationship for fun, for passion, and for romance.
Wonderful!.......2003-07-21
This book and the companion book, "How to be the Almost Perfect Husband" are absolutely wonderful. As a couples therapist, these are the things that often come up that men and women want one another to know about. This is great for men to read, to better understand women and also to understand how universal their needs are. I recommend both of these books highly! These are both my new gifts for bridal showers, weddings, and anniversaries. I just love them!!
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- single girls guide to marry a man, his kids and his ex wife
- Down to earth advice - too bad she copped out at end
- Good for the girlfriend that is considering becoming a stepmother
- Straight talk for new Stepmoms!
- Great book! Suprisingly Entertaining
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A funny, honest, and empathetic resource for the novice stepmother, which includes advice on The kids: Adjusting to suspicion, resentment, and biological-parent loyalties; The ex-wife: Living calmly alongside her, whether she's a psycho or the perfect mother; The holidays: Accommodating old family traditions and developing new ones; The sex: Keeping love alive through the kids' bed-wetting and nightmares. Plus an invaluable list of resources, websites, publications, and organizations specifically for the new stepmother.
Customer Reviews:
single girls guide to marry a man, his kids and his ex wife.......2007-10-01
This book gave situations that come up that can happen but not suggestions on how to deal with them. this book didnt do me much good.
Down to earth advice - too bad she copped out at end.......2007-09-06
I wasn't quite sure how to rate this book -- I enjoyed MOST of the book, but, boy, she slung a real doozy at the end, which left me with a bad taste in my mouth. First, the good stuff -- she relates with honesty, frankness, and much-needed humor, the struggles faced by stepmothers, using many examples and stories from her own life. I felt relieved, energized and heartened. I found myself taking myself less seriously and began seeing the big picture, and even laughing at some of my struggles (particularly with the ex-wife). She has a young, hip tone, which was refreshing after some of the "psych-speak" books I had previously read (although at times it seems she's trying a little too hard). BUT -- and this was a big "but" for me -- at the end she basically says the only way to be truly accepted is to have your own child with your new partner. Ugh. I felt like I had been sucker-punched. As a "childless" stepmom, I felt completely diminished, devalued and disrespected. I wanted to yell, "Sally -- not everyone chooses to or WANTS to have a child! Have a little respect!" I have to say that this last chapter and this declaration cheapened the book for me. It made her sound naive and judgmental, not to mention insensitive. I wondered how someone who seemed so "with it" for most of the book could be so "out of it" on this point. I'm just so tired of the "have children, it will solve everything and give you a purpose in life" thing. Too bad she resorted to this tired old answer, especially in this age of inclusion, and recognition of ALL types of families. And too bad her publisher didn't think twice about including it. I am rating the book 3 stars, hoping that she is just young and naive, and wouldn't have written that if she were 40.
Good for the girlfriend that is considering becoming a stepmother.......2007-09-04
I am a single gal who was looking for someone to tell me the issues that I might be inheriting if I take the next step with my boyfriend. This is an informative book of issues to be aware of and reads almost like a novel. I had picked up another stepmother book but it was way to dry and had too much homework that I was not prepared to concur just yet. This was an easy read.
This book was written for people that know they are going to marry a man, his kids and ex-wife or already have - not for people contemplating. It did lack such issues as - things to consider when moving in with each other, how to introduce kids into the relationship, etc. If you are still on the fence, you might consider another book that deals with dating issues and the step between dating and marrying.
Straight talk for new Stepmoms!.......2007-09-03
I am a new stepmom to a six year old girl. She's great, but sometimes, things bother me and I have a hard time putting them into words. This book is like reading my mind. It has helped me so much, and it also makes you realize that feelings you have sometimes are natural and ok...nothing to feel guilty about. All new stepmoms should read this book...even if your husband wasn't married before - if he just had children from a previous relationship, as mine did, a lot of the book will still apply to you as well.
Great book! Suprisingly Entertaining.......2007-08-02
This book really helped me to realize that I'm not the only person that does really stupid step-mom things and then regrets them. It's a great read if you're feeling like no one in the world can possibly understand what you're going through.
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Self-proclaimed "feminist and former shrew" Laura Doyle sets forth a whopper of a game plan for establishing profound intimacy in one's marriage. Building on the gender stereotypes defined by bestselling author John Gray (Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus), Doyle seeks to heal the overworked, underappreciated wife who snarls at her mate's every thought or action. Her message to these smart, self-sufficient types: check the nitpicking, the unsolicited opinions, and--egads!--the finances at the marital door (although she says it's still okay to wield control at work). Many women will find such advice archaic and offensive; some will simply laugh off this credential-free anachronism when they receive the book as a bridal-shower gag gift. Still others, identifying with Doyle's profile of a controlling wife, will be curious enough to dabble in her proposed art of "surrendering."
According to Doyle, the wife who chooses to surrender must learn to take care of herself first, overcome the desire to have more power, and abandon the myth of equality. Delving into the personal tales and sisterly advice shared within each chapter's pages, surrendering wives will further note the need to master unsavory phrases like "I can't," and "Whatever you think"--tough to swallow for a generation of women who value their own opinions. While she fully acknowledges that a few bills will go unpaid and a few deadlines or freeway exits will occasionally be missed, she also insists that surrendered wives will encounter less worry and fear, more money, and better sex. Hey, "Whatever you think...." --Liane Thomas
Book Description
This controversial approach to marriage has transformed thousands of relationships, bringing women romance, harmony, and the intimacy they crave.
Like millions of women, Laura Doyle wanted her marriage to be better. But when she tried to get her husband to be more romantic, helpful, and ambitious, he withdrew -- and she was lonely and exhausted from controlling everything. Desperate to be in love with her man again, she decided to stop telling him what to do and how to do it.
When Doyle surrendered control, something magical happened. The union she had always dreamed of appeared. The man who had wooed her was back.
The underlying principle of The Surrendered Wife is simple: The control women wield at work and with children must be left at the front door of any marriage. Laura Doyle's model for matrimony shows women how they can both express their needs and have them met while also respecting their husband's choices. When they do, they revitalize intimacy.
Compassionate and practical, The Surrendered Wife is a step-by-step guide that teaches women how to:
- Give up unnecessary control and responsibility
- Resist the temptation to criticize, belittle, or dismiss their husbands
- Trust their husbands in every aspect of marriage -- from sexual to financial
And more.
The Surrendered Wife will show you how to transform a lonely marriage into a passionate union.
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In this radical and controversial approach to marriage, Doyle presents "The Rules" for wives, explaining how women can enjoy a passionate sex life, peace instead of tension, and intimacy rather than alienation, by establishing a new balance of sharing, giving, and receiving with their husbands.
Customer Reviews:
Finally! True Feminism!.......2007-06-11
It was such a relief to read this book, especially since I grew up in a household that espoused such wonderful principles. So many people are attracted to the label of feminism that they forget what feminism is supposed to do: give women choices that would be personally fulfilling and lay paths to happiness. Unfortunately, the feminism that many women prefer guarantees women more misery than contentment and more strife than intimacy.
What struck me most about this book is that it is so honest, straightforward and simple. However, I think it's important not to take her words as Gospel or the book as a "Marriage Bible." The author is human, and as such some of her suggestions are merely reflective of her sincere desire to turn her life around, a desire that borders on desperation at moments. This is most likely due to her surrendering being new to her. It is only natural that a person new to something exhibits zeal and goes overboard at times, such it is with Laura Doyle. Her desire to be better is so profound that she doesn't seem to trust herself to exist individually and better herself as a surrendered wife at the same time. However, most likely time and experience will heal these idiosyncrasies in her practice of surrendering.
However, having been married for 11 years and having grown up in a surrendered household, as well as having embraced these principles long before the "liberated woman" found them palatable, I find that true surrender allows you to dismiss these tips/experiences from the author:
1. Only give your opinion when it relates to your desires. (The key here is to give your opinion while keeping your heart ever open to his, and being content with and supportive of what he decides, even if it goes against what you suggested).
2. Give your husband all of your money and resign yourself to asking for what you want. (In my view, true surrender is to allow him to take care of the finances from his money without contributing unless it's for an emergency; a woman's money is hers; a man's money is theirs. That's surrender).
3. Giving up your last name. (You are an individual, a human being with an identity connected to your blood family and lineage, reflected in your last name. Marriage is the uniting of two lineages, not the disposing of yours).
However, these suggestions do not take away from the power of the book. I strongly recommended this book for the women brave enough to better, and thus truly liberate, themselves.
Try It First (put your heart into it).......2007-02-23
Many women are put off by the concept of letting their husband have the upper hand. Letting mine have what he wants within reason is actually quite liberating. If he wants to display his Dale Earnhart flag in the front yard, it's no skin off my teeth, his buddies think it's cool and my buddies know I didn't put it there so what's the big deal? That's just an example but not spending all my time worrying over him (a GROWN MAN) makes my life so much easier. He does as he pleases and I have noticed that without any input from me, we have food on the table, clothes on our backs and a ton of love in the bedroom. When I treat my husband with the love and respect he deserves I get back so much more when I fuss over him. I am putting my trust, faith and confidence in the man I chose to be my husband. I have done many things that this book suggests for years but reading this reminds me to commit myself to being the best wife I can be. I also like that this book is not specifically Christian, Muslim, Jewish...what have you. Read it and give it an honest try before you write a bad review. Remember, feminism means embracing and celebrating a womans ability to make CHOICES. Some of us exercise our right to choose by surrendering and/or being homemakers. Don't hate, just be happy that everyone is different. This lifestyle may not be for everyone. If it's not for you, please go find your bliss and leave us happily surrendered wives alone.
Two Thumbs Up!.......2006-11-29
This book gives you simple tips to help regain intimacy in your marriage. Sometimes we (us women) are just so comfortable the way things are that we forget how GREAT it used to be at the beggining or how wonderful dating was. Well let me tell you I read the book and I'm back to that stage! Your husband really wants to make you happy, but sometimes we just don't let him, we are too controlling, and this ruins intimacy, not only in the sexual way, but the type of intimacy that makes you feel so lucky you have him in your life. Read this book if you feel like you are always controlling everything, or if you feel deprived in any way, or better yet, read it even if your relationship is already okay, I guarantee if you follow the simple steps you will regain the wonderful man you married and most importantly YOU will feel so much better about yourself!
If You Only Buy One Book to Fix Your Husband Or Boyfriend, Buy This One........2006-09-18
I've read a lot of books about dating and choosing who to stay the course with and who to let go of, and how to handle yourself at that level. I'm seeing someone exclusively now, so I moved on from SURRENDERED SINGLE to THE SURRENDERED WIFE. This book has improved my relationship like no other, except for RELATIONSHIP RESCUE, which is totally different and improved other things than THE SURRENDERED WIFE did. These two are my Top 2 I recommend to friends. (I also recommend GETTING TO COMMITMENT if there are any commitment issues on your part or his, coming up at any stage of dating, relationship or marriage.)
There's so much to say about this book, but I'm going to leave this review short. Just get this one.
I mentioned my top 2 relationship books, and I'm going to mention my third favorite. WHY MEN LOVE BITCHES. The title sounds bad, but it's not about being mean; it's helped my relationship, too.
Stop the Exhaustion! Save and Refresh Yourself and Your Marriage Today!.......2006-08-09
Wow! This book is NOT what I expected in the least! I bought this book used through [...]sometime ago. Thinking it was just another "submissive wife" theology filled book, I was only half interested in it, and so it laid in my unsightly, toppling pile of "maybe I'll read it" books for a couple months.
Meanwhile, I continued on in my daily life, much of which includes my husband. I thought we've had a good marriage, inspite of some very difficult times through some substantial struggles. We felt that since we made it through those times together, when others we've seen often do not, we must have a good marrage. However, there has been years of often unspoken disappointment and growing distance between us. We had fooled everyone, most importantly even ourselves. Soon we fell into just a habitual, mundane rhythm to our days, our marriage, our life together. Outwardly, I was pretending things were fine, but inwardly I had began a mantra of "if he would only change _____, I could be happy, we could be purely happy". This began small and progressed until it popped into my thoughts continually through the day. Love, joy, comfort, and peace were no longer words that would color my feelings toward my spouse. Resentment, frustration, bitterness, and anger clouded and reined in my inner heart. I was no longer fooling myself and I no longer was fooling him either.
One day this all just became too much. Or perhaps it was going on 10 years of becoming "too much". In some soul-searching, I began to see myself and my marriage for what it really was and I did not like what I had to see. It was at this time that I picked up, The Surrendered Wife: A Practical Guide to Finding Intimacy, Passion, and Pease with Your Man, from my forgotten pile of paperbacks, flipped open the cover, and began to read. That moment has not only changed my marriage, but also changed who I am, and who I see looking back at me in the mirror each morning. I am amazed!
This book alone cannot change you or your marriage. But what it can do is give you a mirror in your hand and encourage you to look into it. It gives you the tools, the concepts, the ideas, and the inspiration to honestly change what you see into something pure, true, and thriving! This book gives hope and a step-by-step, non-overwhelming way to overcome habits and thought patterns that have made your marriage less than bliss, if not outright miserable. The best part is that all you need is you, an honest, open, and willing-to-see-and-try you! You do not need your husband's willingness to make a life-changing difference. All you need to change how you feel is YOU!
The book is well written, filled with helpful advice, real life experiences, and even a group study guide, if you choose to read with some friends. The format is so skillfully organzied, you really go step-by-step in small and manageable sections. I actually had to resist the urge to read ahead! (I wanted to realize and take action in what I'd read before reading more.) There are few things I would want to change about the book, and even those things are more out of personal preference and marriage experience. Laura Doyle's openness and wit is refreshing and inspiring to weary women. While offering rest and refreshment for the weary, it also gives no-nonsense, secular, clear guidence to make yourself who you want to be.
For years, I had wanted to change just about everything about my husband. I had even dreamt about how it would be if only he was different. For me, after all the many, many things I discovered about myself when reading this book, the surprise was that the only thing I could actually change was me, and then actually coming to realize that. The greatest, most amazing thing was that was all I had to do. It was this book that gave me this realization and the path to do it. Today, I have true intimacy, passion, and peace with my man. We have something that I would never give up. Friends and family have said, "If only I could have what you and your husband have..."...If they only knew what brought us here! May our love, understanding, and respect for one another only continue to grow, and I hope the same may come to life for you! Enjoy!
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The trials and pressures of modern life can make the prospect of a fulfilled, meaningful marriage seem impossible. In The Power of a Praying Wife, popular Christian author and speaker Stormie Omartian pinpoints common marital struggles and reveals the miraculous way that disciplined prayer can alleviate heartache and sustain unity. According to Omartian, a marriage's success depends upon "laying down all claim to power in and of yourself, and relying on God's power to transform you, your husband, your circumstances, and your marriage." Omartian attributes the success of her own 25-year marriage to dedicated prayer for every area--however specific--of her husband's life; from his finances and his work to his integrity and his temptations. Each chapter offers insight into areas that are especially important to men, followed by "power tools" (inspiring, topical Scripture) to guide one's prayer life and transform a woman's mind with regard to her husband. This practical read will encourage women to trust God to change their spouse, and undoubtedly refocus one's perspective on God's power rather than one's own personal predicament. --Jill Heatherly
Book Description
Omartian shares how wives can develop a deeper relationship with their husbands by praying for them. Packed with practical advice on praying for specific areas, including decision–making, fears, spiritual strength, and sexuality, this book helps women discover the fulfilling marriage God intended.
Customer Reviews:
THE POWER OF A PRAYING WIFE.......2007-10-05
THIS BOOK HAS BEEN SUCH A BLESSING TO ME. ONCE I WAS READY TO WRITE OFF MY MARRIAGE AND THE WORDS FROM THIS BOOK ARRESTED ME AND GAVE BE OTHER CHOICES. I WAS SO BLESSED I HAD TO SHARE IT. THIS IS MY EIGHT BOOK I'VE BOUGHT AND GIVEN AS A GIFT. THANK YOU
An Excellent Book.......2007-10-04
An excellent purchase! The Power of a Praying Wife Deluxe Edition is a brilliant book written from the heart with Bible truths that I will read countless times and use forever. It inspires me to pray for my husband in many different areas that I might not have previously thought of. The sample prayers at the end of each chapter will be prayers I continually use in my relationship with the Lord and my relationship with my husband. Anyone seeking a growing marriage relationship and a growing relationship with God will be thrilled with this book!!
Powerful inspiration.......2007-09-21
This book provides some strong inspiration and guidance into how to pray and how your prayers are answered. A great buy well worth the price
A must read.......2007-08-25
This book is wonderful. I simply started reading with the purpose to be able to pray for my husband. But, this book showed me so much more. It is a must read for all wives, no matter how many years you are married.
Great prayer book for those in waiting.......2007-08-13
I am not married, and not committed, so I did not read this book because my marriage was in trouble. The book was recommended to me as a prayer book to pray for my husband to be. I am a firm beliver that God answers prayers; but I was not sure what to pray for in a husband since I dont have one. The book has 30 chapters, and I made it part of my daily devotion to pray for one thing every day. Reading through Stormie's struggles also gives insight of what to pray for in advance, that you would not experince it in marriage. For instance, Stormie talks about her husband not wanting to exercise, and that after prayers, she heard her husband on the treadmill one day. From this, I get insight to pray that God would give my husband an insight to be health conscious even before I meet him. I have recommended this book to a few of my friends, and would recommend it to one that wants a guide to pray for a husband, and especially when you least want to. Worth the time and money spent into it.
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