Plays by Y York: Gerald's Good Idea, the Secret Wife, and the Snowflake Avalanche

Plays by Y York: Gerald's Good Idea, the Secret Wife, and the Snowflake Avalanche
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Plays by Y York: Gerald's Good Idea, the Secret Wife, and the Snowflake Avalanche
Y. York
Manufacturer: Broadway Play Pub
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Binding: Paperback

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Mama Gena's Marriage Manual: Stop Being a Good Wife, Start Being a Sister Goddess!
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Fresh perspective

Fun and inspiring!

Great Book

It's Wonderful

This woman is ridiculously selfish, it's no wonder she is getting divorced.

Mama Gena's Marriage Manual: Stop Being a Good Wife, Start Being a Sister Goddess!
Regena Thomashauer
Manufacturer: Simon & Schuster
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ASIN: 0743261100

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Why be a saintly Good Wife, caring for his every need, when you can be a sexy Sister Goddess and make you both twice as happy?

"Diva of Desire" Regena Thomashauer (a.k.a. Mama Gena) delivers a saucy, surprising, absolutely essential guide to reviving passion and pleasure in your marriage.

Let Mama cure you of the "Good Wife Syndrome" -- that common malady characterized by an unnatural drive to sacrifice yourself, organize your married life around your husband's needs, and then blame your bewildered husband for your profound unhappiness. Mama Gena's Marriage Manual is here to remedy your condition by administering a simple yet tremendously effective antidote: fun. Fun because when a woman indulges her desires, she has an uplifting effect on everyone around her. Mama gives specific strategies and exercises for increasing the pleasure quotient in your life, improving communication with your mate, and gathering a powerful network of Sister Goddesses that will help speed you toward your goals.

Mama Gena's Marriage Manual will help you craft a partnership that enables you to do more, have more, and be more than you ever can on your own.

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Mama Gena wants you to throw off the shackles of the Good Wife Syndrome and enjoy a marriage that's free of guilt, blame, and obligation. Mama Gena's Marriage Manual will help you craft a partnership that enables you to do more, have more, and be more than you could ever be on your own.

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Fresh perspective.......2007-04-12

This book coutradicts all we gals have been taught. Not sure i buy into it all but putting some things into practice so we'll see how things turn out.

Fun and inspiring!.......2007-01-09

It's as good as her other books and she just kept me engaged in enjoying my relationship, myself and our life together more...

Great Book.......2007-01-08

I loved this book. It was right up there with "The Rules" and "He's Just Not That Into You". Much wisdom in this book about how to honor yourself and achieve a good marriage in the bargain! So many of us lose ourselves trying to make our husbands' happy and we end up making everyone miserable. Follow the suggestions in this book and everyone will win.

It's Wonderful.......2006-07-09

Mama Gena is not the blanket cure for marriage problems, but she is honest in her beliefs about how joy affects the lives of everyone. She believes in living in the moment, and to learn to accept responsibilty for the joy in your own life. She never claims to be a marriage band-aid. Yes, she is getting a divorce, but that has no bearing on her books.
Some marriages have to end for the benefit of both partners, and she is a human being and therefore subject to the whims of life, just like we all are. I think it's sad whenever a relationship of so many years ends, but obviously it was in the best interest of the two people involved.
What the rest of us believe about them and their relationship, has nothing to do with the fact that she is a good writer. She has helped thousands of couples, and that there is a possibility that she is just what you have been looking for. She helped me realize that I cannot sit and wait for my husband to make me happy when I have never even tried to do that myself. That I cannot expect him to read my mind when I don't even know what I want. Sound obvious? When you become a wife, its amazing the logic that you allow to become fuzzy. Its sad that they are breaking up, but there is perfection in everything, she will find it in this. She never claimed to have a perfect relationship with her hubby. What do you think started her off on this course of marriage guidance. I'll bet she and her hubby had a wild ride before thy decided to part ways. She doesn't have all the answers, but she is a very intelligent lady.

This woman is ridiculously selfish, it's no wonder she is getting divorced........2006-05-06

This woman hasn't got the simplest idea of what marriage is supposed to be. Yes, marriage is supposed to be happy, and you are supposed to enjoy your life, marriage and sex with your partner, but what Mama Gena tends to forget is that marriage is not supposed to be constant bliss. Sure it's wonderful if it is..but if it's not, she makes it out to be the end of the world. Marriage is a commitment of love, that needs work. It is because of people like mama gena that there are so many divorces in this world. She spends the entire book teaching people that happiness is the most important thing, and if you aren't happy, then your marriage sucks, and that is simply not true. All marriages suffer at times, for various reasons. It is the ability of that couple to work through those problems and overcome them that makes a marriage a good marriage, not constant happiness. Furthermore, SHe spends the rest of the book placing complete emphasis on the fact that a woman should give up the idea of being a good wife and simply fullfil her own needs and desires, and basically not give a crap about what her husband feels or thinks about it, just makes herself happy. in her diluded world, she thinks this will make your husband happy as well. Right, like your husband is going to be thrilled that you do whatever you want without caring whetehr it hurts his feelings or makes him angry, as long as you are happy, right? WRONG! Marriage is aboiut compromise. I am not in anyway saying that women should totally submit to their husbands every wish and demand. A woman has a say too, but not if it is going to hurt his feelings or go against his wishes completely. The point of marriage is grow as a couple, not bring the otehr person down just so you feel good. This woman is very selfish, and it's no wonder she is getting a divorce if this is how she acts in her marriage.

Husband and wife should work together to give each other the space they need and also the love they need. Wife and husband should not hog all the glory, or back into a corner, but compromise and support each other. This woman also obviously has no faith in God, and hasn't go tthe slightest clue as to what God's plan for marriage is.

I think she needs to stop writing this trash and keep her open, self-absorbed marriage dreams to herself. This is not the kind of example womne should be looking to for marriage advice. If i didn't know better, I'd think this was Paris Hilton's writing.

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The Good Wife Poops Out?
Wonderful
Good Read.
Same Old, Same Old
Strikes Back? Strikes Out!

The Good Wife Strikes Back
Elizabeth Buchan
Manufacturer: Penguin (Non-Classics)
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Elizabeth Buchan's New York Times bestseller Revenge of the Middle-Aged Woman was hailed as “a thoughtful, intelligent, funny, coming-of-middle-age story” by The Boston Globe. Now she's back with another wise and entertaining novel about a woman who veers off the beaten path—and finds much more than she bargained for. After nineteen years of being the perfect wife to an ambitious politician, Fanny Savage is restless. Tired of merely keeping quiet and looking good at public engagements, she remembers the career she abandoned and the life she left behind as a successful partner in her father's Italian wine business. She has devoted two decades to being the Good Wife. Was it worth it after all? Could it be time for a trip back to Italy—to the pleasures of sun, wine, and food? Could it be time for . . . a change?

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The Good Wife Poops Out?.......2007-02-09

I'm surprised at all the good ratings for this book, especially given how much better Revenge of the Middle Aged Woman is. I was really very disappointed in this book. The story creeps along at a slow snails pace, with details that seem intended to lengthen word count more than anything else. I didn't find much sympathy at all for the main character Fanny, and never really got to know any of the other characters enough to form in strong opinion either way. A weak and disappointing follow-up to Revenge...

Wonderful.......2007-01-31

I bought this book for my wife, and considering the price, the condition, and the timely delivery, it was awesome. She loves the book, and we will be buying many many more from Amazon, as well as this seller. Thank you for a satisfying online buying experience.

Good Read........2006-08-27

I would recommend this book to my friends. I really enjoy Elizabeth Buchan's writing style. I will continue to purchase her other titles.

Same Old, Same Old.......2006-08-25

I liked the first book I read by this author, but now I can see it is the same storyline. A middle-aged married couple. The man is dominant and the wife has no backbone. Through the entire book, I kept wishing the female character would stand up for herself. Finally, I got so bored I just skimmed through to the end. I won't be buying any more of her books. They are ALL the same. It's a shame, because Buchan is a good writer. She just needs to give her characters some personality.

Strikes Back? Strikes Out!.......2006-02-12

I picked this book up and started reading the first few pages and was hooked. It was readable and flowed smoothly, although the way Fanny knuckled under to everyone else's $hit irritated me. She plays like 2nd (or 3rd) fiddle in everybody's life and even though she sometimes complains, she never *does* anything about it. Then, just about the time she gets in a situation where she could empower herself and step out on her own, POOF! Several events occur that just sweep her problems right away. What was that? How did she strike back when she never changed as a person? Why have her get out of her predicament not under her own steam but be "rescued" by circumstances that change her life *for* her? It's almost like the author was given a contract that said, "You can't go over X amount of words," and she was thinking, "Oops, better end the book fast before I run over my quota!"

In sum, if ya wanna see a wife strike back, watch *The Little Foxes,* starring Bette Davis as a woman who knows what the word revenge means and takes it to new heights. Now there's a role model!

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To Love forever
Another winner from Betty Neels
A good wife

A Good Wife
Betty Neels
Manufacturer: Harlequin
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Binding: Mass Market Paperback

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To Love forever.......2003-09-28

Serena Lighfoot is engaged to Gregory but he only wants Serena's home, and the income he thinks her unnatural father will leave her.
Serena's brothers are no better than her father, how Serena could have been raised by the same father I don't know.
Henry is a cold fish, and Matthew is a wimp.
Matthew tells their father Serena wants a break, so the man disinherits Serena and dies soon after.
He is mean, and cold & he treats Serena like a indentured slave.
Ivo Van Doelen knows what he wants he wants Serena, but he thinks he is too old for her.
Serena is in love with Ivo, but she thinks Ivo doesn't want her love. So the yo yo starts.
Serena needs a job. Ivo gets her a job. Taking care a of a little girl named Heather.
It isn't a good job, the girl that Serena is to take care of is as mistreated as she Serena is by her mother and father.
Heather has a brother that her mother and father love and they could care less about Heather.
Serena soon gets to know this about Heather, and she gets a kitten for her, so Heather loves and respects the animal.
This is like all the other Betty Neels books, but you do learn more of what Ivo is thinking. Betty Neels has made the sweet romantic books no one else would, because the publisher wants sex in book other writers gave in and wrote about sex. Betty Neels never did, and we loved her for that!!!
Ms. Neels will surly be missed.

Another winner from Betty Neels.......2003-08-14

Readers of Betty Neels will recognize some familiar elements in this story: a Dutch surgeon (Ivo van Doelen); an impoverished English miss (Serena Lightfoot, who is estranged from her uncaring family); a beautiful Dutch home, complete with the best servants; commutes between the United Kingdom and the Netherlands. Serena needs a job and Ivo provides her with one, but not one she had in mind! The romance between the two is enjoyable and easy to follow, not a lot of details to keep in mind. I enjoyed how Betty wove in characters from previous books. She also provides more insight into the mind of the male hero than usual. Of course, there are the usual misunderstandings to work out and people who aren't what they seem. But it wraps up into a nice ending with a different twist.

A good wife.......2002-09-12

This is Betty Neels at her best. As always, well written and well loved.

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Promising theme left unresolved

The Good Wife
Elizabeth Buchan
Manufacturer: Penguin Books
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Promising theme left unresolved.......2005-06-14

This novel has a promising subject/theme - wife gives up her life to completely support husband in his political career. As her only child leaves home and her father dies, she begins to wonder if she has done the right thing, and whether she should go after personal fulfilment. Easy enough to read, but I didn't particularly like the technique of jumping back in time regularly - I kept wanting to "get on with it". I also didn't find the ending in any way satisfying - way too many issues had been raised and nothing resolved. Maybe that's the way "real" life is, but I'd prefer a little more satisfaction from a novel. However I would consider reading another book by this author - to see if she gets any further in her other work.

How to Get Your Husband to Go to Church with You

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faith IS the victory
Faith in Action
How to apply the word on God in your life
Book packed with bible living techniques
Excellent Read!

How to Get Your Husband to Go to Church with You
Vivian D'Arezzo
Manufacturer: Great Revival Press
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ASIN: 0978777603
Release Date: 2007-03-05

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In "How to Get Your Husband to Go to Church With You," the author shares powerful biblical principles on how to turn a marriage around so a husband may find God and consistently go to church with his wife. As a saved spouse with spiritual knowledge, God can use you to facilitate His will for your husband to attend church. The author includes anecdotal information based on her own struggle with her husband going to church. If your husband has never gone to church, if he has not been in years or attends only occasionally this book is ideal for you! God's Word does not change; He will do what seems impossible for you by changing the heart of our husband to become church goer. Jesus died on the cross and paid the price for our sins. He also purchased redemption for every area of our lives, including our marriages. God gave us a covenant of love sealed with the precious blood of His Son whereby we can live victoriously. This book will show you how to enforce the victory Jesus already won for you the victory of your husband going to church with you - the victory of your husband going to church with you!

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faith IS the victory.......2007-07-31

As a husband whose wife does not go to church with him, I read this book from the perspective of a man having a similar problem but with his wife - the same spiritual truths apply to men! If a man would implement what this book instructs, he too could learn to operate in faith and allow God to move on his situation. Armed with knowledge of the scriptures and an understanding of the actions I can take, I have every expectation that my wife will soon be going to church with me! This book provided me with the hope and tools that not only this situation but any situation I may face can be turned around by God

Faith in Action.......2007-06-25

As a single woman, never married, I was not sure how this book would apply to me. I found this book to be an outstanding account of "Faith in Action." The biblical references and examples of standing in faith for God's promises apply to all of us. I was moved by the honesty of the author to share her experience and the willingness of her husband to allow this story to be told. I also learned a lot about the importance of respecting your husband, standing on the promises of God (regardless of how the situation looks) and faith that the Lord will accomplish his plan for our life if we don't give up. It is a story of hope, perseverence and victory! I highly recommend it.

How to apply the word on God in your life.......2007-06-22

When I started reading this book I could not put it down. I was astounded by its practicality to my every day life. The principles used in this book can be applied to any situation. The book is a loaded with scriptures and also real life experiences which gives you hope that you are not alone. Loved the book, and greatly recommend it.

Book packed with bible living techniques.......2007-04-27

This book is packed with little known bible techniques to help carry out God's plan for you and your family. Don't let your denomination hinder your exploration of God's Word.

Excellent Read!.......2007-04-12

This book lends instruction on how to get the promises of God to manifest in your life. The best kind of prayer is ANSWERED PRAYER. It is a read that will get you excited about what is truly available to you through the scriptures. I have never read a book that offers instruction on 'How to be baptized in the Holy Spirit'. These principles apply to anything that you are praying for, not just a husband who isn't going to church. It's worth its weight in scriptures!

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Dull
Good Writing & Idea - Unlikeable Characters
Another Beautiful Downer By O'Nan
powerful
Stunning

The Good Wife: A Novel
Stewart O'Nan
Manufacturer: Picador
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Stewart O'Nan's ninth novel, The Good Wife, begins with that classic harbinger of bad news: A phone call in the middle of the night. Small-town housewife Patty Dickerson, pregnant with her first child, has been waiting in bed for her husband Tommy to get home. When the call comes, it's from jail. Tommy has been arrested for murder after a robbery gone awry. He doesn't make it home for 28 years.

With his usual practicality, O'Nan kills the hope off quickly in The Good Wife. This isn/t a novel of beating the odds but of enduring them. We follow Patty through her husband's long incarceration as she moves in with family, gets a series of low-paying jobs, remains faithful to Tommy, and raises their son Casey alone. These aren't unique circumstances--although they rarely form the stuff of fiction--and these aren't unique, unforgettable characters. Patty Dickerson could be anyone, and that's the point. This is a story of ordinary lives and small graces. O'Nan's refusal to dress things up (or down) is part of the charm of this clear-sighted, uncompromising novel. --Regina Marler

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On a clear winter night in upstate New York, two young men break in to a house. Within minutes, an old woman is dead and the house is in flames. Across the country, Patty Dickersons phone rings. Its her husband. He wants her to know that he and his friend have gotten themselves into a little trouble. So Pattys old life ends and a strange new one begins. For the next twenty-eight years, she must live with the absence caused by her husbands incarceration, attempt to raise her son, and brave the scorn of her community. As unflinching as it is heartrending, The Good Wife confirms ONans place as one of our countrys most wide-ranging and empathetic masters.

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Dull.......2007-05-23

Dull with a capital D! The plot was almost as thin as the character development (or lack thereof)

Good Writing & Idea - Unlikeable Characters.......2006-12-18

The idea of this book was better than its reality. I really enjoyed the author's writing style, so for that alone it gets two stars. However, the lead character, Tommy, is so patently unlikeable and uninteresting, it's hard to fathom his wife waiting idly by for 25 years for him to get out of prison. She is blindly devoted, never really asking the questions most people would, especially about the night in question (and Tommy's history of repetitive burglary). The ending is unrealistic and sugary sweet, so that doesn't really fit after a fairly realistic, depressing rendition of Patty's day to day existence. Overall, I cannot recommend it.

Another Beautiful Downer By O'Nan.......2006-11-08

The Good Wife is another bittersweet (accent on bitter) tale of the inherent desperation of most people. Patty Dickerson's husband gets sent up for about 28 years for inadvertantly killing an old woman during a break-in of her house and O'Nan, in the stark spare writing style that he has mastered , chronicles Patty's journey from young and hopeful to middle-aged and resigned to her life's fate. Similiar in tone to his other books (especially Snow Angel), this story could make Bozo The Clown reach for the Prozac. The sadness is all over every page. O'Nan's understanding of the human psyche and his eye for understated detail give his narrative a powerful sense of realism. He uses real locations and obviously becomes a student of his subject. In this case its the New York Justice and penal system that treats all those connected with the offender as unworthy of any mercy. This is a tough work of fiction and brings to mind Henry David Thoreau's quote that "the mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation". This is a very worthwhile book to read for many reasons. Quality writing, increasing one's knowledge base, and a sense of fellowship with others who hurt. For while the particulars of the story may be fictional the author' aim is true when it comes to articulating the common human condition. Lock up the meds and put the trigger-locks on and then set aside some time for this touching piece of literature.

powerful.......2006-10-20

Told in a matter-of-fact, unsentimental way, The Good Wife tells the story of one family and 25 years of their lives as they work through the New York state penal system.

Tommy Dickerson does something stupid. He follows his friend Gary's lead and ends up involved in a murder for which he (and not Gary) pays the price--25 years in prison. At the time of his arrest, his wife Patty is pregnant. This is her story.

We see through her eyes the frustration of the poor as they try to work the system. Everything is against them, including, it seems, the public defenders. Then as the wife of a prisoner we see Patty at the mercy of the system again--as items are confiscated and her husband transferred from prison to prison (moving farther and farther away--to Dannemora and farther northwest, to eventually Bare Hill in Malone) as she is left to make due as a single mother.

Though they do not thrive, their marriage survives and their son makes it through college and ends up with a great job. It's at the end when Tommy is released and they are together again as a family (like they never were before) that we realize that all of these years have been not just a sentence for Tommy, but for all the rest of them as well.

Yes, Tommy was guilty of a crime. Even if the didn't commit the actual murder, he was there and could have stopped it. But the key to this story is not his guilt or innocence, rather it is about what happens to the family, the extended family, the friends of those imprisoned. What is the world like through their eyes. And you walk away from the book asking yourself, what would I do if my loved one was in jail? Would I be able to persevere as Patty does? Would I be such a good wife?

It's a fascinating, quick read and if you have not read O'Nan before, you should know that he is great. He has a no nonsense approach to telling a story that is utterly engaging and in this book, he has succeeded in doing just that.

Stunning.......2006-10-17

The last fictional character I felt this much love and sympathy for was Mr. Stevens in THE REMAINS OF THE DAY. I plan to read all of O'Nan's work now. He's a beautiful writer, and what a refreshing change to read about people so little seen, let alone written about. I will recommend this novel to everyone I know. -- Monica Wood

Good-Bye, I Love You: The True Story of a Wife, Her Homosexual Husband-And a Love Honored for Time and All Eternity

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Good-Bye, I Love You: The True Story of a Wife, Her Homosexual Husband-And a Love Honored for Time and All Eternity
Carol Lynn Pearson
Manufacturer: Isis Large Print Books
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Good-Bye, I Love You: A True Story of a Wife, Her Homosexual Husband, and a Love That Transcended Tragedy

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An excellent example of Christ-like love
"Hard to put down Book"
For gay/straight spouses, tells both sides of the story
An honest account from "the other side of the closet"
Ms. Pearson told her story well

Good-Bye, I Love You: A True Story of a Wife, Her Homosexual Husband, and a Love That Transcended Tragedy
Carol Lynn Pearson
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The true story of a wife, her homosexual husband, and a love that transcended tragedy. Gerald Pearson had been honest with Carol Lynn about his homosexual past, but both of them had faith that marriage and devotion to their religion would change his orientation. Love would conquer all. Then, after eight years of apparent happiness and the birth of four children, Gerald was no longer able to deny what he considered to be his essential self. Carol Lynn was shattered, her self-esteem all but destroyed. Their divorce, however, could not erase a lifetime of love and mutual support. Carol Lynn courageously stood by her former husband's side. Even when he contracted AIDS - and came home to die.

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An excellent example of Christ-like love.......2007-08-28

You might not think an account of a couple who divorces due to homosexuality could be a memorable love story, but this one really is. I read this book many years ago, and was so moved by it. Carol Lynn Pearson is a remarkable woman. She writes this book with such transparency of her emotions. The love she had for Gerald Pearson before, during, and after their marriage is so rare. They truly were soulmates, but couldn't be married and both be happy. I started out by reading other books by her, especially about women in traditional church. She is Mormon and I was, at the time, too. I grew up Catholic, and that church and the Mormon church both put limits on what women can do. In in the Catholic church women can't be priests, and in the Mormon church, they can't hold the priesthood. She writes about the bewilderment of that inequity, the same way she wrote about her bewilderment of her husband deciding to live as a gay man, and the struggles he had with that decision. I have felt similar struggles trying to find a place as a woman in traditional Christian churches. When I tried to talk with others about my feelings about feeling less as a woman in the church, I was told I shouldn't feel that way. The way she writes about people who feel disenfranchised by policies and religious tenets made me feel like FINALLY someone gets it. I actually called her on the phone many years ago to tell her to tell her how thankful I was that someone else understood about being a woman in a tradtionally male dominated church, and she was so generous and gracious on the phone to talk with me for a few minutes, so I could tell her thank you. The compassion she has for people who feel like outsiders, and how she treats those people, is what I think of as true Christ-like love. I highly recommmend this book for anyone who ever felt like they don't belong. She went through a very difficult time and showed unfailing love, just like Christ would do.

"Hard to put down Book".......2003-10-15

Carol Pearson is a wonderful writer. I felt like I was right there with her she relly pulls you into her life and feelings. I only hope that Carol has found love and happiness with a strong, straight loving man, which she deserves. She treated her husband Gerald with compassion and sympathy, something not a lot of other women would do. The only thing that bothered me was Gerald's insistance that his children call him "gerald" and not "Dad" since he was the children's biological father. I sincerely hope Carol and her children have found closure, peace happiness and love: they deserve it! A wonderful book!

For gay/straight spouses, tells both sides of the story.......2003-01-13

This is the first book I came across that truly captured what it is like to be gay and married and it was written by the straight spouse. Of course, that was years ago and now I have come out of the closet and have found my voice and know what is in my heart. But back then I was deep in the closet and this book was a godsend. Thank you, Carol Lynn, from the bottom of my heart. It was wonderful to see in words what before I had only felt and not understood. However, I wished I had read your thoughts and feelings about being a straight spouse more carefully. It would have given me so much insight into what was going on with my wife. It took me years to gain that insight on my own. But back then it was all I could do to handle my own pain.

An honest account from "the other side of the closet".......1999-12-01

I first encountered "Goodbye, I Love You" when it was originally published. I was a married Mormon, and had trouble understanding how things could have happened the way she told them. Then, I found out my husband was gay, too. I re-read the book, and realized that she had told my story, only more compassionately than I could have. This book tells the other side of the story, the side of those whose lives are turned upside down by married gays who can no longer live a lie. If your life has been touched by this situation, this book will help you see that you are not alone. It is must reading for anyone who has known or been a married gay.

Ms. Pearson told her story well.......1999-02-12

This is not a happy book, but a courageous attempt by the author to express her feelings of frustration, grief, anger, and finally acceptance. I would like to see other reviews of this book by a wife, husband, mother, father, sister, brother, or other relative of a gay person. I certainly felt her anguish as she struggled to understand what was happening. She told her story well.

The Too-Good Wife: Alcohol, Codependency, and the Politics of Nurturance in Postwar Japan (Ethnographic Studies in Subjectivity)

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The Too-Good Wife: Alcohol, Codependency, and the Politics of Nurturance in Postwar Japan (Ethnographic Studies in Subjectivity)
Amy Borovoy
Manufacturer: University of California Press
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Binding: Paperback

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Social drinking is an accepted aspect of working life in Japan, and women are left to manage their drunken husbands when the men return home, restoring them to sobriety for the next day of work. In attempting to cope with their husbands' alcoholism, the women face a profound cultural dilemma: when does the nurturing behavior expected of a good wife and mother become part of a pattern of behavior that is actually destructive? How does the celebration of nurturance and dependency mask the exploitative aspects not just of family life but also of public life in Japan? The Too-Good Wife follows the experiences of a group of middle-class women in Tokyo who participated in a weekly support meeting for families of substance abusers at a public mental-health clinic. Amy Borovoy deftly analyzes the dilemmas of being female in modern Japan and the grace with which women struggle within a system that supports wives and mothers but thwarts their attempts to find fulfillment outside the family. The central concerns of the book reach beyond the problem of alcoholism to examine the women's own processes of self-reflection and criticism and the deeper fissures and asymmetries that undergird Japanese productivity and social order.

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